Anxiety disorders.

[Denv12]

Here;s a thought,how do you go if you find someone and it turns out they have some form of anxiety disorder? There would be obvious concerns about how they deal with their mental health issues.Medications too? Could this be a problem?

 

Just a thought.

[todreaminblue]

Here;s a thought,how do you go if you find someone and it turns out they have some form of anxiety disorder? There would be obvious concerns about how they deal with their mental health issues.Medications too? Could this be a problem?

 

Just a thought.

 

 

relationships are work and effort ... that is shared......a relationship with a person who has a mental condition may have different effort and work and different understanding of issues involved in being together...no less or more than any other relationship.......many relationship fail based on unrealistic expectations and incompatibility.....if you cant handle people with mental illness its an incompatibility...if you expect the relationship not to have hurdles.....thats unreal expectations and that includes "normal relationships whatever that is....i dont know normal....i have a mental illness..medication is never a cure all in or out of a relationship....deb

[Radu]

Here;s a thought,how do you go if you find someone and it turns out they have some form of anxiety disorder? There would be obvious concerns about how they deal with their mental health issues.Medications too? Could this be a problem?

 

Just a thought.

 

I'm not a psychologist so i can't go into details here.

 

That being said, i have had anxiety problems almost since middle school.

I peaked in HS/College and i eventually ended up in a depression after that.

I never took medication for it, i didn't even know there was such a thing untill last month.

 

I managed to improve it by actually wanting to improve it, by watching how the process unfolded inside my head and wanting a different outcome.

I've been doing this for 2yrs and it's still very much a work in progress [alone, no psychologist ... it might be easier with one ... probably it is].

I still have the desire to overreact to stimuli but i'm in much better control now.

 

All i can say is that in the end the most important thing is weather or not the person you care about and which might have this [or has this] is dedicated to solving this.

You cannot solve this for that person, you cannot convince them to solve this, they have to desperately want it.

The most important thing is for them to have that motivation.

Don't be a white knight to someone like this, you will end up regretting it.

[Denv12]

I have the anxiety disorder myself.I need to learn how I can be a good partner.First I have to try and find women who would consider getting to knnow me considering this anxiety issue.

 

I would hope that as I'm making progress with ocd that its allowing me to function better in my mind.That's got to be a good thing in a relationships.

 

I need to prove to any woman that I'm capable of making a commitment and I do have the relationship skills.

 

I'm being treated by a alternative healthcare practitioner so I'm not taking any pills of any kind.Thats would hopefully make for a better relationship.A partner to me wont have to go through those experiences.

 

I believe that it does take 2 people to relationship to work.And,I need to do what I can to to fulfill my role in a relationship.

 

I guess the next step is where to begin looking for a woman? I'm open to suggestions.Is there an appropriate sction I can ask for advice where to start searching? I live in Australia.I bet focus within Australia.

 

Thanks to both of you for you kind replies.Its nice to knowthis forum offers a safe place to ask for advice here even for me with my problem.

[Feelin Frisky]

I advise not to stigmatize yourself. Firstly, "normality" is an artifice. It is linked to assumption of a standard human being as if we are created and manufactured in an assembly line according to specs. The truth is we are not. Instead we are produces of natural animal biology which rarely starts with perfectly matched gene sources. Thus the results of conception and genetic competing, gestation and hormonal assignments of gender turn out individually UNIQUE results none of which are perfect. Instead of viewing "some" people as "ill" we need to view "all" people as matters of varying degrees of wellness where wellness is not a god-assigned guaranty for an entire life-time in anyone. A person who takes responsibility for having shortfalls and perhaps takes medicine is someone actually more "well" than a person in denial who tends to blame others for their inability to cope. Anyone can become unwell. We have bio-chemical and bio-electrical systems which can be affected in numerous ways by nutrition, oxygenation of the brain, sleep cycles, substance use and abuse, AND exposure to other people whom are more unwell than them who bring on crises. I myself brought on GAD, general anxiety disorder, by using OTC supplements that portended to be "nature's natural relaxant". It attempted to boost the brains reserves of a necessary neurotransmitter called GABA. But what it did was to signal to my brain that I didn't need to produce any myself anymore. Then when stopping taking the GABA supplements, I was thrown into months of sleeplessness--having panic attack symptoms every time I'd fall asleep.

 

It took a long time to find this out and I suffered getting addicted to benzodiazepines. So, anxiety is not necessarily a life sentence. It is a matter of finding and correcting what you can. In the case of artificially stunted GABA production, the medicine, Gabapentin a/k/a "Neurontin" turned out to help the most. It helped to kick up my natural production of the GABA neurotransmitter (gaba aminobutyric acid) so that I cold repair my sleep cycle and cope normally again. I would be more concerned with someone who claimed anxiety as a reason to do nothing or little than a person who experienced it and accepted responsibility to work on it. But medicine in this area is actually pretty primitive and even some physicians aren't up on the effect I experienced. I should think that under-production of GABA is part of most anxiety that is bio-chemical. Medicating the symptoms with a martini in a pill, like Xanax, is the wrong thing to do because it creates physical addiction--pensive feelings of worry and discomfort every day. Managing your biology is a better answer. Thus Neurontin and ticking up the production of GABA is a better model. Unfortunately there are no easy tests on the living brain to find out what's abundant, what's missing, and why there are any inequities--be they temporary of seemingly chronic.

[KathyM]

OCD is usually genetic in nature. The most effective form of therapy for OCD is usually a combination of medication combined with Behavioral Therapy. I would suggest seeing a licensed therapist for this, and not resorting to some alternative therapy.