Trying to building relationships with women after harsh early life

[Locust]

My mother said she so glad to see me grow up a stronger person than my own farther was. When I was 10 years old he use to work at a office in a recreational park doing janitorial work and before that he was he use to work at a museum cafeteria before he got fired from being late too many times. During between that time, he was laid off and my mother was getting all over him about find a new job and took him a long time. That is when he got that janitorial job through connection from my uncles on my mother side of the family. When he was working there he used to bring me to work with him because he said it’s scary at night because hardly any lights and abundant trees around. My mom was furious and during that time he pulled me out of school for 2 years and would been longer if wasn't for the divorce. His reason for pulling me out because he said I would get beat up by bigger kids since some kids will be bigger than me. After my mother left and moved out I went with her and I was put back in school.

 

I had to start off small at a drop out school (which was not my fault, I wanted to be in school) and my mom thought my life was ruin and would lack serious education. The material they were teaching there was far too easy so in 6 months I was put in a traditional high school. A miracle I met requirements and graduated at 19 years old and also won a chemistry award during my graduation. Now I'm a senior in college about to have a BS degree by next year in the spring. I earned two certifications in IT through a community college, so I can do computer related work while in school. Currently with a large IT firm part-time. Use that money along with financial aid to pay for school.

 

 

Sometime I look at this and I don't even know how I got this far, but a good far. One thing I'm trying to learn now is how to build relationships with women. Obviously I couldn’t ask my father that because all he can show me is how to destroy one with his behavior. Plus my mother said she caught him with a few prostitutes. I definitely, don't want prostitutes on my timeline. When I do have my first date I know I won’t be the right person but least I’ll get a feel for a preference of who I would like to have a relationship with. I’m 26 years old, soon to finish school and I’m at that age where I’m thinking of a solid feature. Sometime I think my hard early life has caused me a slow start in life but I feel I have accelerated a lot.

 

 

I always wondered if I told a girl my story above, I wonder how she would think of me?

[ja123]

I feel for you and the other poster, and I commend you with moving forward with your life in spite of the challenges you were dealt.

 

In general, there is no need to reveal these things to someone too early on in a relationship. And when and if you decide to do so, then just do it in increments through small comments. This will give you and the other person time to aclimatize, so to speak.

 

But remember, it is who you are and what you are doing now that counts. Any girl who has maturity and humanity will realize this, and appreciate you even more (if she doesn't , then that's her bad ... move on!)

 

You deserve a huge pat on the back! You have so much to be proud of!

 

Best wishes!

[SmileFace]

I don't see how this can be seen as a negative.

I think you should share it with someone special.

Congrats on all your success.

[sweetkiwi]

I would think your childhood was a cake walk. Perspective darling.

[Locust]

I would think your childhood was a cake walk. Perspective darling.

 

 

Really. I guess for me it sound like a bad start I had.