stevie_23 Posted February 18, 2013 Share Posted February 18, 2013 I just had an image come to my head, weirdly enough based on a Katy Perry song (that I don’t even like). I pictured Katy Perry being hurt because the person she was in love with was also married to someone else. And he had chosen to leave her because he needed to stay with his wife. And Katy Perry looks sad, but how I now see things is… Katy Perry presented herself to this person who was not available. She chose to do that. She chose to take that risk to her own self esteem. And she has no one to assign responsibility to for her feelings but herself. The fact she is hurt does not detract from the fact she is gorgeous, hot, talented and successful. And yet she has let herself get hurt because she put herself in this position from the beginning. If you played a dating game and you had a line up of 10 guys that you were standing in front of, and you knew who was married and who wasn’t, and you don’t have any biased feelings towards any of them at this point, and you could choose 5 guys to potentially fall in love with, would you EVER choose any of the married guys? NO!!! Not if you want to be truly loved and cherished by an available man! So the fact this falling in love thing complicates everything is unfortunate, but it doesn’t change the fact that an OW who is hurt by her MM or ex-MM DID choose to “latch on” to his pre-existing situation and relationship. It doesn’t even matter what he told her about one day leaving his wife and being with her. As the situation currently stands, he is still married and she is still there, presenting herself like the Katy Perry image that came into my head. If she wants to not feel hurt and rejected or second best anymore, she has only to walk away. HAH! So easy for KATY PERRY, eh!? I have no idea what I’m talking about right now, apologies! Lol I’m just trying to view things in different ways to learn more about my own feelings and situation. Link to post Share on other sites
MyAngel Posted February 18, 2013 Share Posted February 18, 2013 Curious as to what katy perry song it was? I heard "the one that got away" on te radio today... Made me cry Link to post Share on other sites
Author stevie_23 Posted February 18, 2013 Author Share Posted February 18, 2013 Nah, I haven’t heard that one yet. This one was “Firework”. Link to post Share on other sites
Sarabi Posted February 18, 2013 Share Posted February 18, 2013 Nah, I haven’t heard that one yet. This one was “Firework”. I love that song...but never equated it with love. More with life in general(when you're feeling down, working a crap job, feel like its never getting better etc.) ...although love is a part of life in general Link to post Share on other sites
Author stevie_23 Posted February 19, 2013 Author Share Posted February 19, 2013 I have no real idea why, when I heard that song, that I associated it with my rather random analogue to Katy in my head. Maybe because it’s like a triumph kind of song about how you’re good and worthy and all that. A self respect and respect for others type of song. So…being in an A shows…not quite those same things I suppose. Link to post Share on other sites
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