mgirl213 Posted February 18, 2013 Share Posted February 18, 2013 So my ex and I have been broken up for almost 7 months after being together for 2 years. Things have been really weird and super hot and cold lately. Btw, we're both juniors in high school and I have to see him every single day. About a month ago, I texted him out of the blue asking him how he felt about me, if we could ever start fresh again, if he still has feelings for me, etc. He said no to my offer, but avoided my question of whether or not his feelings for me are gone. I told him that I couldn't be his friend because it was too painful for me and that being his friend just ins't ever going to be enough. I am pretty positive that he still has feelings for me. Mutual friends have told me things about his emotions and about his downward spiral with alcohol that seems to be what he uses to supress his feelings for me. Anyways, for the past 2 weeks, last week especially, he has been suuuuuper friendly with me and has long conversations with me even though we barely ever talked before. I don't understand what he's doing. I mean if I wasn't over him and wanted to get back together after 6 months, then why on earth would he think I would be fine a month later? I have been dissapointed in him as his ego has gotten really big and he flirts with tons of girls now, but he is always nicer and less abnoxious with me. I know him better than anyone else, so I know that he has serious self loathing and doubt problems on the inside, but is very good at covering it up by acting cocky. Also, I have purposfully been wearing a necklace and earrings that he gave to me for these past 2 weeks to see if he would notice or react. I haven't worn either of them in months because he knows that I only wear them when I am thinking of or holding on to him. I just don't know what to think or do because I still want him back so badly. I don't know if I should be friends with him or not. I am thinking that talking to him more may bring back feelings for me to him, but I am still incredibly unsure of whether or not being his friends will screw everything up. Please give me advice on what to do and how to get him back? Link to post Share on other sites
LILLY_LOUISE Posted February 18, 2013 Share Posted February 18, 2013 i think your making yourself too available for him, if that makes sense?... He can see that your there, and even after telling him you cant be friends with him! You need to step back a little, dont be his 'friend' anymore, you've told him you cant be that but your stil engaging in convo with him. Once you step back and make things hard for him, he will get a taste of what life is without you, and just be happy within yourself. Of he can see you laughing and enjoying life he will want that back in his life! his flirting with others girls to attract your attention! and hey its working right? .... just dont try the same tacticks as him, he will see right through it and know your playing games. like i said just go about life and do your own thing for a while, he may want you back or may not, but in the end if you have made life better for yourslef then who is to say you may not meet someone else? Link to post Share on other sites
lullaby Posted February 19, 2013 Share Posted February 19, 2013 i think your making yourself too available for him, if that makes sense?... He can see that your there, and even after telling him you cant be friends with him! You need to step back a little, dont be his 'friend' anymore, you've told him you cant be that but your stil engaging in convo with him. Once you step back and make things hard for him, he will get a taste of what life is without you, and just be happy within yourself. Of he can see you laughing and enjoying life he will want that back in his life! his flirting with others girls to attract your attention! and hey its working right? .... just dont try the same tacticks as him, he will see right through it and know your playing games. like i said just go about life and do your own thing for a while, he may want you back or may not, but in the end if you have made life better for yourslef then who is to say you may not meet someone else? I agree. I can understand you want to get him back, but try not to play games. Not only he will see you're trying to fool him, but also it will not build a solid foundation for a reconciliation. It will only be based on "lies" and games. Act natural and let things take it's course. I know it's hard, but anything other than that I think are just crumbs and false hopes. Take time to consider what you're feeling and let him get near you Link to post Share on other sites
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