dichotomy Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 (edited) That about sums it up Dichotomy. Thanks - Have you ever had (early with husband or before him with another man) - a sexually passionate/intimate relationship? You also mentioned the notable impact the divorce now would have on kids right? - loss of home, perhaps move out of town, loss of schools, money for education, travel, life style, for kids? I know people think money only - but a reduction in money that comes with divorce hits kids hard. I also assume as far as your kids see - you and your husband (mom and dad) are not openly contemptuous/disrespectful/degrading towards one another? You are functioning somewhat normally as mom and dad? If both these are true - then I do see your Rock and Hard place very well. One of the things that I have received counsel on - is how to own or carry on a positive sexual nature/self image/energy in the absence of that from a spouse or others (having an affair). In other words, think of your self as single (either in the not married sense - or simply as your own person) and not sexually involved with anyone. Can you carry a positive sexual internal energy and value without getting sex from another? I know it sounds wishey washy - new age crap. This also transition into the next counsel I had - which is what are you looking for that another must provide you - that you can't create for yourself in other ways? One can be social, even close to others without sexual or emotionally cheating on their spouse. One can see joy in activities or other outside interests. One can look to positive feedback from service or leadership outside the home and marriage. Just tossing thought out for you as I have thought about them as well. Edited February 22, 2013 by dichotomy Link to post Share on other sites
animalover Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 Honestly I really pity your husband... he doesn't realize what kind of a cheat hi has as wife... he is the one who will need to live his life with someone who only thinks about the item she has between the legs... and for whom a weekend of lust is more worth that your entire relationship with him... I would like to know how would you like it if your children one day find out that you are so selfish to care more about your sexual pleasure than about the well being of your husband and the family unity... I am always amazed about how low we "humans" can get... Link to post Share on other sites
Author natty moppet Posted February 22, 2013 Author Share Posted February 22, 2013 All I hear from you animal lover is 'blah, blah, blah'. Clearly you have nothing meaningful to contribute other than to come on here and call me names, so maybe you should just stay off. There is nothing valuable, kind or therapeutic about what you are doing here either. Also, in case you missed it, I am not a cheater. I might someday be one, but I have not as yet. You really should look at your own behavior. Not so stellar either. Link to post Share on other sites
animalover Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 All I hear from you animal lover is 'blah, blah, blah'. Clearly you have nothing meaningful to contribute other than to come on here and call me names, so maybe you should just stay off. There is nothing valuable, kind or therapeutic about what you are doing here either. Also, in case you missed it, I am not a cheater. I might someday be one, but I have not as yet. You really should look at your own behavior. Not so stellar either. The fact that you have not consumed the deed doesn't change the fact that you are totally prepared to do it... and that you have already discussed it with the man you want to do it (you have said that he is in the same situation than you and willing to be collaborative...). I haven't call you names at all... and if you don't like what you read you should not post your history in a public forum... I don't need to look at my own behavior... I am not considering to cheat on my partner... and I usually try to walk the life without harming others (specially those who I claim to love)... can you say the same? I am not pretending to be therapeutic...I am not a counselor.. I don't pretend to be one... I anyway would love to be able to talk you off that non sense... your family deserves better.. Link to post Share on other sites
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