My girlfriend's new found friend that is a Guy. Am I just paranoid

[bingo]

I have been having a really tough summer my girlfriend of 6 years she has seemed to drift away and has been spending time with this new friend of hers who happens to be a guy. I have tried to be patient with it but I felt that she was lying to me about the time she spend with him. Finally I got frustrated and started to check her personal email. In there I found some emails from him that talked about how much he missed her and wish they could talk everyday. He kept telling her how comfortable he felt around her. The other thing is that he is in a relationship of 9 years. So at first I thought they were starting to relate because of both being in long relationships. Anyways this was at the beginning of the summer and since we have really talked about it and I expressed how much I was worried about her relationship with this guy.

She kept telling me that he is just a friend. So I explained that I was ok with it as long as she tells me everytime she sees him. The other night she tolded me that she wanted a night out with the girls so I told her I was ok with this as long as she stopped by when they were done and she was ok with this. So being the curious person I am, I drove by the guys house that is her friend and she was there. I actually went in to get her and explain why I was hurt. Then she told me that she was over there to tell him that she couldn't spend time with him anymore because it was ruining her relationship. She also has gotten more affectionate with me but I can't help but feel it is a coverup. She still wants to see him once a week. I just am afraid she is seeing or talking to him whenever we are not together.

 

Am I just paranoid, Please help. I am loving my mind, I love this girl very much and had planned on proposing at the beginning of the summer but that did not happen because things weren't good between us.

 

HELP!!!!!!!!!1111

[The_Analyzer]

I would just keep an eye on the situation. Try not to blow anything out of proportion just yet. Maybe he is "just her friend". Anyway, just keep your eyes open. Good luck.

[bingo]

Thanks for the advice, that is what I have been trying to do and I do think she has tried to push him away a little bit. I just get really worried on nights that she says that she wants to be along. I know that we need are time apart but I can think about is if she is with him or not. I also have brought this up a few times to her and she has been very understanding of my concern and tells me that I am the only one for her. She has also told me that she really wants to work on are relationship. I just get so scared to lose her and I think I am holding on to tight.

[lumbartransfer]

if she isnt sleeping with him...but is sneaking...its emotional.

she isnt getting what she needs from you, so she is finding it somewhere else.

your job:proof of love and proof, of the possibility of a stable future

hers:establishing independence, feeling special again

[breakneckkilla]

This fool is probably bonin your chick. If he aint its just a matter of time till that fool is. You'll piss her off, she wont get her way, she dont care what you say, whatever, but you can bet she'll be running to the friend/vulture waiting for her to come back so he can manipulate the situation to his advantage.

People do this shxt all the time. How easy is it to get a chick when she's havin relation problems with her man & she's running to another male to talk? Its easy as hell, all this thief is doin is sittin back makin you look worse when your girl tells him things about you she doesnt like.

Do you need the funked up stress that this girl is causing? No.

My advise:

Dump the piece of unloyal trash, take a good look at yourself & what caused her to stray & make positive changes in yourself, you might be a piece of trash yourself & just dont know it & will be setting yourself up for 10 more of these situations in the future...which will make you a very unhappy, jealous, piece of trash....and spiral you downward for years fool.