Sun Devil Posted February 21, 2013 Share Posted February 21, 2013 I don't understand why I am failing at finding a relationship. I have a large social circle now that I am in 3 clubs and 2 fraternities. I have an active lifestyle and several interesting hobbies, yet I see guys with no life and ambition get girls. Why is it that loser guys who do drugs get girls yet ambitious guys like me cannot? I don't understand what am I doing wrong Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted February 21, 2013 Share Posted February 21, 2013 Well I can identify one problem already. You seem to be a bit of an elitist. You might possibly just be looking too hard. Stop, step back, be you, and let them come to you. Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted February 21, 2013 Share Posted February 21, 2013 I don't understand why I am failing at finding a relationship. I have a large social circle now that I am in 3 clubs and 2 fraternities. I have an active lifestyle and several interesting hobbies, yet I see guys with no life and ambition get girls. So are there any women in your large social circle? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted February 21, 2013 Author Share Posted February 21, 2013 Yes there are, yet I get the same results as before. They either are not interested in dating or already have a boyfriend Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted February 21, 2013 Share Posted February 21, 2013 Yes there are, Great! So get them to introduce you to their friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted February 21, 2013 Author Share Posted February 21, 2013 Escorts are a temporary solution. I would like to start a family someday. Sillyanswer, I am trying that, but they are not helping Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted February 21, 2013 Share Posted February 21, 2013 Sillyanswer, I am trying that, but they are not helping Keep at it. At least you're meeting women. I hope you're also having fun with whatever your hobbies are. Link to post Share on other sites
crude Posted February 21, 2013 Share Posted February 21, 2013 I love it when a guy escapes from prison and he immediately has 2 or 3 girlfriends to help him. Link to post Share on other sites
rocketman122 Posted February 21, 2013 Share Posted February 21, 2013 whats your height? did u say it was 5' in an older post? Link to post Share on other sites
StanMusial Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 I don't understand why I am failing at finding a relationship. I have a large social circle now that I am in 3 clubs and 2 fraternities. I have an active lifestyle and several interesting hobbies, yet I see guys with no life and ambition get girls. Why is it that loser guys who do drugs get girls yet ambitious guys like me cannot? I don't understand what am I doing wrong Because they are good-looking and they don't give a shyte. Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyDude Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 Here is the real reason "Because dating is a ALL or NOTHING type of deal which is why it's so challenging for so many men" The End Link to post Share on other sites
outsidethebox Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 on which page of this daily thread are you going to say, I'm thinking it must be because I'm 5' tall. It was page 3 on the last one. Link to post Share on other sites
outsidethebox Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 Let's phrase the question differently. Is it harder for a man to get a woman he wants than for a woman to get a man she wants? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 Getting a girl is a lot like hunting. If you do not know how to hunt deer, you will not get a kill. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ls32ssibm Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 I don't understand why I am failing at finding a relationship. I have a large social circle now that I am in 3 clubs and 2 fraternities. I have an active lifestyle and several interesting hobbies, yet I see guys with no life and ambition get girls. Why is it that loser guys who do drugs get girls yet ambitious guys like me cannot? I don't understand what am I doing wrong What do you want to hear, dude? Because you are 5 foot nothing that you'll be alone forever? Also, are you hideously ugly, obese, or are you a complete dickhead beyond that? I've seen short dudes get girls. I've also seen short gorgeous girls. One in particular, was stunning and was 4'11. I'm 5'10, but I had like two friends in college. You have more opportunities to meet people than I did. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted February 22, 2013 Author Share Posted February 22, 2013 I want to know why I am failing at getting girls. I do not know if it is my height or personality, or just bad luck. Whatever the cause is, something is preventing me from dating. Last year, I was rejected 40 times. A dozen of them were girls in my class and none of them had boyfriends. When I talk to them, I would get them to talk about themselves. I also tried to show them that I am a fun guy to be with. Nothing worked. The rest of the girls were from cold approaches, which I have been told is inefficient Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyDude Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 It can be either 3 reasons why a guy struggles to get girls 1. Ugly 2. Fat 3. Both lol Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted February 22, 2013 Author Share Posted February 22, 2013 I am not fat and I am not ugly. Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyDude Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 I am not fat and I am not ugly. 4. Socially Retarded Which means not able to talk to woman or flirt with them or pick up the signs of interest or non-interest Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted February 22, 2013 Author Share Posted February 22, 2013 That could be a cause. However, making friends with guys is easy and I see guys with worse personalities than me get girls. Should I treat girls differently? If so, where do I learn Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyDude Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 That could be a cause. However, making friends with guys is easy and I see guys with worse personalities than me get girls. Should I treat girls differently? If so, where do I learn It's like no one wants to tell you like it's some big secret. I have gotten a little better over the years but still struggle in some areas. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted February 22, 2013 Author Share Posted February 22, 2013 How did you get better? Link to post Share on other sites
normal person Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 4. Socially Retarded Which means not able to talk to woman or flirt with them or pick up the signs of interest or non-interest He's got Aspergers, so this is probably in poor taste. However, making friends with guys is easy and I see guys with worse personalities than me get girls. What's so great about your personality, exactly? I'm not trying to be a jerk, I'm legitimately curious as to how you act in real life. You talk in very general terms and never give examples. It's tough to sell yourself on being nice and fun. Everyone will try and appear nice and fun. What are specific things that do, how do you act, etc? What are the reactions to it? Should I treat girls differently? If so, where do I learn How do you treat them now? Nicely, I hope. I'm going to advise against putting on some "act," you'll look stupid. You might have some off putting habits so you might want to stifle them, but acting out of character entirely just seems like lying to me. You always seem like you're trying to find any girl, period. I think you should focus your effort on the ones you like, the ones that are responsive to your sensibilities, your values, your interests, your sense of humor, etc. If you have a genuine interest in a particular person, it will be obvious and maybe even endearing to her. If you treat her like she's just one of the dozens of other women you approach, your luck might not be as good. Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyDude Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 How did you get better? New hairstyle Let her do most of the talking on the date Little flirtatious on dates Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyDude Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 I saw three short dudes walking with attractive girls today on my way home and I was walking alone and stand at 6'5 NEXT??? Link to post Share on other sites
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