Author Minki Posted February 23, 2013 Author Share Posted February 23, 2013 ^^^ totally agree. I find it curious why the op needed to reconnect. A fiancé in the picture and then going down the ex route, and an abusive ex at that. Just why? What did the op want out of the reconnection. There is always a reason. Since the fiance and I am sharing a facebook account I thought the ex would only be an online friend and nothing more. There was no real communication or any interest from my side. I never expected my ex to stoop this low. Link to post Share on other sites
Joaquin Posted February 23, 2013 Share Posted February 23, 2013 I would speak to your fiancées family. Tell them you are sorry that they saw what they saw, or heard what they heard, that you love their son and would never do anything to purposefully hurt him. Tell them you will do everything you can to help him deal with what's happened and that you will never ever be in contact with that scum bag ex. I think they would appreciate it. As to your fiancé, he is hurting but I do think a reasonable guy who loved a girl would see it for what it is and get over it. He's obviously embarrassed as hell as well, but those feelings should dissipate in time. I wouldn't go leaving the house or anything, stick by your man! He needs you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted February 23, 2013 Share Posted February 23, 2013 (edited) I think the biggest problem with her boyfriend isn't so much that his ego is rocked. It just that those photo's weren't just viewed by her and him. His entire family has seen them! A 14 year old teenage girl discovered them. And if the photos were of a fetish nature ( and sometimes those can be really bad). He might be wondering what his family is thinking. He may be embarrased or ashamed that this discovery occurred. How is he going to explain this to his family? How is he going to convince them that this is the girl that he should spend the rest of his life with. Is it selfish and childish way of thinking? Yeah, but under the circumstances, your mind tends to go there. I think he could have handled the situation if the photo's were only viewed by you and him. But his entire immediate family has seen them; even children. I think you need to talk to a lawyer about this. You might have grounds for a lawsuit. And another thing is that he probably always treated you with loving kindness and respect. Treated you like a Princess and held you up on a pedstal only to see pics of you being treated like garage and like a common wh*re ( Im not saying you are, I just saying that, that might be what it LOOKS like to him). He might be wondering if he actually knows you at all. So, fair warning, he may call off the wedding until this all gets worked out inside him. Try to be understanding of his wishes but also tell him that you're not going anywhere and you're going to try and help him get through this. Because that's what a woman does for her man. Edited February 23, 2013 by Chi townD 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Minki Posted February 23, 2013 Author Share Posted February 23, 2013 I think the biggest problem with her boyfriend isn't so much that his ego is rocked. It just that those photo's weren't just viewed by her and him. His entire family has seen them! A 14 year old teenage girl discovered them. And if the photos were of a fetish nature ( and sometimes those can be really bad). He might be wondering what his family is thinking. He may be embarrased or ashamed that this discovery occurred. How is he going to explain this to his family? How is he going to convince them that this is the girl that he should spend the rest of his life with. Is it selfish and childish way of thinking? Yeah, but under the circumstances, your mind tends to go there. I think he could have handled the situation if the photo's were only viewed by you and him. But his entire immediate family has seen them; even children. I think you need to talk to a lawyer about this. You might have grounds for a lawsuit. And another thing is that he probably always treated you with loving kindness and respect. Treated you like a Princess and held you up on a pedstal only to see pics of you being treated like garage and like a common wh*re ( Im not saying you are, I just saying that, that might be what it LOOKS like to him). He might be wondering if he actually knows you at all. So, fair warning, he may call off the wedding until this all gets worked out inside him. Try to be understanding of his wishes but also tell him that you're not going anywhere and you're going to try and help him get through this. Because that's what a woman does for her man. You summed the whole situation up perfectly! I could not have said it better. Link to post Share on other sites
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