OW/OM: do you accept your MM/MW having sex with their W/H?

[ThatJustHappened]

I have every right to make my voice heard. If she doesn't like it, don't have an affair with a single man like me.

 

This is the first and probably the last affair I'll ever have anyway.

 

 

Yup. That too. Glad you've learned your lesson.

[LFH]

If you were in a serious relationship with a married man or woman, do you find it acceptable for them to being having sex with their married partner?

 

If they tell you they don't have sex with their partners anymore, do you think that it's realistic to believe them? Then when they do, do you think it's acceptable that they've lied?

 

 

 

I broke up with my MW Thursday, after she confessed that she had sex with him once last month. This was right after she cried and drank herself to death, thinking I was having sex with other girls while with her (which I wasn't.) I wasn't sure if we were having an open relationship back then to be honest. But she told me she can't accept that from me, and so we reached an agreement that we'd only be having sex with each other.

 

Our relationship has gotten a lot more hectic since then. We'd call each other every night and morning to check on each other to see where we're at. I have a hard time believing a man and a woman can sleep with each other every night and not have sex. But she had me believing it for 2 months that she didn't. She'd call me every night at 8:30-9 and talk until she sleeps. Then once again when she wakes up before getting ready for work.

 

 

 

Now she tells me how I can expect a man and a woman to sleep every night with each other and not have sex. She cried about it and made us promise and now she's turning it on me.

 

Well I broke up with her and told her what she did broke my trust and she can go sex him up all she wants.

 

Now she's begging for me to come back and wants one chance to explain herself. I'm seeing her tomorrow in the morning.

 

Of course I accept that he has sex with his wife. He's MARRIED. Duh.

*eyeroll*

The whole "we don't have sex" excuse is 95% of the the time a big load of bs (and I don't mean betrayed spouse)

I don't allow him to lie to me, so that's a deal breaker right there. He doesn't necessarily say, Hey, I'm going to go sleep with my wife now... there is just the unspoken understanding that they have relations like any "normal" couple.

 

Expecting anything else is asking them to lie to you.

[Pierre]

This is the first and probably the last affair I'll ever have anyway.

 

Good for you! You deserve much better that a woman that is living with another man. Stay away from married women. I recognize that at times they may be more receptive than single women, but you should ignore MWs. they are nothing but trouble you a young guy like you.