skins21 Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 i've been dating my girlfriend for almost 9 months now, and she is the girl of my dreams. she's the first girl i've ever told her that i loved her, and our relationship for the most part is amazing. I'm 18 and she's 16 when she was a freshman she "dated" a senior for the better part of 2 years. he had her whipped behond belief, and she was obsessed with him for a long time. even at the beginning of our relationship she was still talking to him regulary. now everytime i think of them two together at all it makes me sick to my stomach. i know now that she dosnt want anything to do with him, and loves me as much as i love her. i just cant get past her relationship with him. im afraid that im going to keep pushing her away with this, and i know i need to get over it. if anyone has ANY advice at all please help, or if anyone was in a similar situtaion please tell me how you handled it. what had me thinking like this tonight we we're talking about sex, and i asked if i was too rough and she said "nahh i used to be crazy in bed, ive toned down a lot" i knew she was talking about her ex bc thats the only guy she's had sex with on a regular basis Link to post Share on other sites
CC12 Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 "nahh i used to be crazy in bed, ive toned down a lot" How sweet. Just what every guy wants to hear his girlfriend say. At first I was going to politely tell you, "Grow up and get over it, having had other partners is normal, stop thinking about it, blah blah" but if she's bringing it up, I don't really blame you for having it on your mind and feeling a little jealous. You wouldn't be at all out of line to say to her, "You know, the other night you made a casual reference to your past sex life, and it honestly made me really uncomfortable. Could you be a little more mindful about that in the future?" Link to post Share on other sites
Darren Steez Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 She was being honest, maybe she has toned it down. I didn't see anywhere where she compared him to you, or where she had she had more fun with him than you. There's a difference between making love and having sex. Just being wild and crazy doesn't mean having good or great sex, it may just be that, wld and crazy. Looks like she's into you man, just like you're into her. Enjoy it and stop sabotaging it and pushing her away. She's with you now not with him. Enjoy it and relax. Link to post Share on other sites
NervisPervis Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 i've been dating my girlfriend for almost 9 months now...she's 16... she said "nahh i used to be crazy in bed, ive toned down a lot" i knew she was talking about her ex bc thats the only guy she's had sex with on a regular basis Not necessarily. It could have been all of those other men she's screwed on a non-regular basis. And only 16. How ADORABLE. Ride it for all it's worth, don't get attached, and be ready for when that crazy libido of hers takes her to new men. Link to post Share on other sites
Darren Steez Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 It's like people forget how intense things are when you're that young... Enjoy life dude, what is intense today will be forgotten tomorrow, you're teenagers, just enjoy the ride Link to post Share on other sites
Author skins21 Posted February 24, 2013 Author Share Posted February 24, 2013 Forreal thank you everyone. We talked, and I told her we're too young to be doing this. It's fine to have a serious relationship, but too damn young to be fighting about this. I can't walk away yet, and she sent me this earlier today. "I promise with everything I have that I'm going to do whatever I can to fix this" we agreed this is ground zero, and things can only get better. Link to post Share on other sites
loversquarrel Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 You both are young, so you are both going to make relationship errors. Learn from them and from each other for better futures with other people. Link to post Share on other sites
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