Why are parents happy when their son/daughter gets knocked up by a fling etc?

[anne1707]

Sorry but youve complained I'm either not blunt enough or too blunt.

 

I am quite sure I have never "complained" about you not being blunt enough. I have however said you can be blunt as proved by this:

 

You're mean posts that I should be polite to a rude mother are just down right ridiculious. I hope you dont also blame others like SpiralOut, for their own rude parents. Being a parent doesnt make you automatically right about everything. Your answers are ridiculous. Thanks for the insults. How mature. n

 

1. So suggesting someone be polite is ridiculous? OK.
   
2. I have not blamed you (or anyone) for your/(their) parents being rude.
   
3. I have never said being a parent makes someone right about everything.
   
4. I am not the one who is being insulting here.
   

[TaraMaiden]

I haven't avoided it, I've thought alot about it. I'm looking elsewhere to deal with jealousy and having different beliefs, since people are insulting me and backstabbing me on other threads here.

Nobody's backstabbing you at all.

 

'Backstabbing' implies we're all saying mean things about you behind your back which is pretty darned impossible.

 

Your posts are however, very abrupt, defensive and you do not take kindly to anything you perceive as criticism of your situation.

Instead of taking a step back, evaluating your attitude and seeing that you snap and retaliate at people, you keep responding in a hostile aggressive and confrontational manner, which wins you no allies and rather, simply proves our point:

 

You're very aggressive, and if this is the way you speak to your mother, then you are both as bad as each other.

 

In fact, it might beg the question of who is the more confrontational and difficult, because faced with an attitude such as yours, I'd be pretty dismissive and disinclined to talk to you as well.

 

You need a good lesson in manners, girlie, and frankly, if you continue like this, I'm done with you.

 

Just like your mother must feel.

 

And I'm a parent.

If my daughters ever spoke to me the way you speak to people on here, they'd be visiting next week, early.

 

If there's one thing both my daughters have learned, it's that civility wins company.

 

You are going to find yourself pretty much on a limb on your own, if you keep alienating members like this.....

 

 

W

[pink_sugar]

I have seen that before in regards to teenagers and I know my dad would have killed me. I'm not sure about my mom as she got pregnant at 18, right after high school. Despite telling me not to have kids until later in life, she says she wouldn't have been upset if I had kids young like her.

 

It is disgusting if there are actually parents who are happy about their teenage daughter being pregnant or their teenage son getting someone pregnant.

[ASG]

I have seen that before in regards to teenagers and I know my dad would have killed me. I'm not sure about my mom as she got pregnant at 18, right after high school. Despite telling me not to have kids until later in life, she says she wouldn't have been upset if I had kids young like her.

 

It is disgusting if there are actually parents who are happy about their teenage daughter being pregnant or their teenage son getting someone pregnant.

 

There is a big difference between being happy and being supportive. My parents wouldn't have been happy. But they would have supported me throughout. And they'd have been happy once the baby was born.

 

What I think is disgusting is parents who think it's ok to kick their child to the curb if they come home pregnant/get someone pregnant when they're teens/out of wedlock.

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

My parents would kick my ass lol. They would be disappointed because I don't really have my **** together but if I was on my own and in a stable relationship they might not be upset.

 

It is pretty pathetic that there are parents who are happy when their teens get pregnant or get someone pregnant. It is just wrong.

Edited February 26, 2013 by ImperfectionisBeauty

[pink_sugar]

There is a big difference between being happy and being supportive.

 

Yeah, I know that. I'm talking about the parents who are literally happy when their 14 year old is pregnant...not just supportive. It's pretty disturbing that anyone would be happy about that but there are cases. Like one time a 14 year old said her mother pretended she was the one who was pregnant just so he daughter could have the baby and then tell everyone it's her little brother or sister.

[Sugarkane]

Elswyth- You're still avoiding my question in each thread each time. You never have answers how do you afford to move out, when casual work you can be out of work for months. Why? Yet you're happy to insult me each thread and backstabbing me in other threads. Charming!

[anne1707]

SugarKane

 

I have to ask this. I know you feel that your family are rude and unsupportive and that the posters on LS are the same. Do you also often feel as if people outside of your family and LS are being rude to you or being difficult?

[Els]

Elswyth- You're still avoiding my question in each thread each time. You never have answers how do you afford to move out, when casual work you can be out of work for months. Why? Yet you're happy to insult me each thread and backstabbing me in other threads. Charming!

 

I've not actually said anything in this thread to you?

 

And yes, I have answered your questions multiple times. "Apply for jobs in less developed parts of Australia such as Western Australia where the cost of living is significantly less." Oh, my parents would throw a fit if I moved that far away from them. "Live 2-3 hours away from the city and commute to your job if you have to." Oh, but then I won't have easy access to entertainment and it'll cost me $100 in taxi fees to go clubbing. "Go to therapy and work out your lingering issues with your upbringing that are holding you back." Oh but therapy didn't work for me. "Share a house with other people your age so you can survive on less than $1400 a month. I have friends in SYDNEY who do that." Oh no it's not possible to do that.

 

So what else do you want me to suggest?

Edited February 27, 2013 by Elswyth

[Sugarkane]

I know of more people in real life. Eg 2 cousins, 3 co workers, my friends younger sister, from the top of my head.

One thread??

 

And it's one written by an angry bitter man, with the morals of a snake?

 

You need to quit posting about trivia..... you're coming over as immature and basically shallow.

you post about all manner of subjects but what you should be focussing on is getting your life in order, getting out of your house and shedding your resentment baggage....

 

I'm sorry Sugarkane, but really - you 'seeing this a lot' - and then giving reference to one single thread that in itself is questionable in origin, with regard to the mood the OP of that thread was in.....

 

Really.....

 

(Oh, and if you post thread titles, post links as well... Why is it up to us to verify your frankly tenuous interpretations??)

[Sugarkane]

Evenly been polite when talking to my mother- UNLIKE her. I'm sick and tired if being labelled immature and spoilt (i wish) just for asking questions. Then asked why am i annoyed by that?! You've never met my parents and don't know them. I'm no where as rude as they are.

Nobody's backstabbing you at all.

 

'Backstabbing' implies we're all saying mean things about you behind your back which is pretty darned impossible.

 

Your posts are however, very abrupt, defensive and you do not take kindly to anything you perceive as criticism of your situation.

Instead of taking a step back, evaluating your attitude and seeing that you snap and retaliate at people, you keep responding in a hostile aggressive and confrontational manner, which wins you no allies and rather, simply proves our point:

 

You're very aggressive, and if this is the way you speak to your mother, then you are both as bad as each other.

 

In fact, it might beg the question of who is the more confrontational and difficult, because faced with an attitude such as yours, I'd be pretty dismissive and disinclined to talk to you as well.

 

You need a good lesson in manners, girlie, and frankly, if you continue like this, I'm done with you.

 

Just like your mother must feel.

 

And I'm a parent.

If my daughters ever spoke to me the way you speak to people on here, they'd be visiting next week, early.

 

If there's one thing both my daughters have learned, it's that civility wins company.

 

You are going to find yourself pretty much on a limb on your own, if you keep alienating members like this.....

 

 

W

Edited March 15, 2013 by Sugarkane

[Sugarkane]

SugarKane

 

I have to ask this. I know you feel that your family are rude and unsupportive and that the posters on LS are the same. Do you also often feel as if people outside of your family and LS are being rude to you or being difficult?

 

No just when you complain you don't understand my questions, so I try and be more blunt. Then you tell me I'm rude for being blunt. The three of you always give extremely blunt answers yourselves. Yet you don't consider that.

[Sugarkane]

Why are my questions less valid than anyone else's? My are my questions stupid and immature compared to someone breaking NC more than once, and complaining about it for example?

[anne1707]

No just when you complain you don't understand my questions, so I try and be more blunt. Then you tell me I'm rude for being blunt. The three of you always give extremely blunt answers yourselves. Yet you don't consider that.

 

You need to learn that there is a difference between being blunt (rude) and being clear (not rude). The "three of us" have tried to help, tried to understand but whenever you hear advice you do not like or we ask a question to try to understand better (so we can help), you are rude in your replies. You only seem to want to hear from posters who will support you in your viewpoint 100% rather than actually listen to advice which may help you improve the situation.

[Sugarkane]

Because living mire than one hour away it's more about the over priced and extremely unreliable public transport. I couldn't even get a train into the city after 6 pm on a week day because the traffic is going The opposite way. Each time gets delayed over and over again. I could end up waiting hours if even one comes at all. I've waited at least 45 mins and it was still getting delayed. And they wonder why more people don't use public transport. They don't plan or upgrade the outer suburbs. So when there's major development years later, there's highway and transport problems.

I've not actually said anything in this thread to you?

 

And yes, I have answered your questions multiple times. "Apply for jobs in less developed parts of Australia such as Western Australia where the cost of living is significantly less." Oh, my parents would throw a fit if I moved that far away from them. "Live 2-3 hours away from the city and commute to your job if you have to." Oh, but then I won't have easy access to entertainment and it'll cost me $100 in taxi fees to go clubbing. "Go to therapy and work out your lingering issues with your upbringing that are holding you back." Oh but therapy didn't work for me. "Share a house with other people your age so you can survive on less than $1400 a month. I have friends in SYDNEY who do that." Oh no it's not possible to do that.

 

So what else do you want me to suggest?

Edited March 21, 2013 by Sugarkane