Acting your age-regret?

[czen]

For a while I've been wondering about the idea of acting your age.

I'm in my early twenties, but I rarely go out, while I know a lot of people who do. Some of my friends don't, and I've had some conversations with them and we agreed on it: "We just aren't a fan of going out. We prefer more mellow and relaxing stuff, like hanging out, going bowling, chill and play videogames, etc."

 

I have come to terms with that I'm just not that kind of party guy. But I've been wondering, is there a big chance I'll be looking back at this phase of my life with regret? I mean, this is the only time of my life where I'm definitely single, can party al night long, don't have that many obligations, etc. And here I am, acting pretty mature and everything already, something I'll probably already be the doing the rest of my life as well.

 

I'm just wondering about this, especially about people who have had this similar experiences and already are a bit older if they looked back on their younger years thinking like "Damn, I was young and all, but I didn't do all the crazy stuff others did because I didn't really feel like it then, but now I wish I had..."

[todreaminblue]

For a while I've been wondering about the idea of acting your age.

I'm in my early twenties, but I rarely go out, while I know a lot of people who do. Some of my friends don't, and I've had some conversations with them and we agreed on it: "We just aren't a fan of going out. We prefer more mellow and relaxing stuff, like hanging out, going bowling, chill and play videogames, etc."

 

I have come to terms with that I'm just not that kind of party guy. But I've been wondering, is there a big chance I'll be looking back at this phase of my life with regret? I mean, this is the only time of my life where I'm definitely single, can party al night long, don't have that many obligations, etc. And here I am, acting pretty mature and everything already, something I'll probably already be the doing the rest of my life as well.

 

I'm just wondering about this, especially about people who have had this similar experiences and already are a bit older if they looked back on their younger years thinking like "Damn, I was young and all, but I didn't do all the crazy stuff others did because I didn't really feel like it then, but now I wish I had..."

 

 

i have to say first i have regrets,more my teen years....but i accept the mistakes i made, doing crazy stuff is not all its cracked up to be....deb

[TaraMaiden]

"Act your age"....

What the hell does that mean, exactly?

 

Your chronological age?

Your 'public persona' age?

Your 'with your family' age?

Your 'childish' age?

The age you feel, mentally?

 

WTF is all that about?

 

Chronological age is simply a measure of units of time that your body has been active.

And those units of time are applied by Astronomers, who have measured and determined how long these units are, solely according to the earth's movement in the solar system.

 

If we lived on other planets (leaving aside the premise, at the moment, that they're completely uninhabitable) you'd be anything from 560 years old, to one and a half....

 

Acting your age is a ridiculous recommendation.

 

"Act your age" in MHO simply means, don't under any circumstance, on any occasion, behave in such a way that the next day you think to yourself, "Oh man.... was I really such a dick?"

[dichotomy]

It is not about age - it is about being yourself - and that stuff does not interest you. What exactly do you think your missing with this partying that would be missed by you.... Dancing all night? Getting massively drunk? Drugs? Threesomes?

 

As an older guy, I have occasionally regretted passing up some things as a mellow young man, but thats who I was at the time. Also now that I am older I am exploring a few things I would not have back then, but thats who I am now and its never too late.

[EasyHeart]

I'm just wondering about this, especially about people who have had this similar experiences and already are a bit older if they looked back on their younger years thinking like "Damn, I was young and all, but I didn't do all the crazy stuff others did because I didn't really feel like it then, but now I wish I had..."

No.

 

I wasn't a hermit, but I definitely wasn't a party guy. I had more serious things that I was interested in doing. People are all different.

 

Also, old people make up stuff. I hear my now middle-aged friends talk about being "wild" when they were young and I struggle to keep from laughing. I knew them when they were 25 and they were way more boring than I was. A lot of people have a few drunken nights and just repeat the same stories over and over. Very few people have really 'wild' or exciting lives, and most of the ones that do have serious psychological issues.

 

But even sadder are the people who were drunks at 25 still being drunks at 45. That's just pathetic.

[xxoo]

I would have regrets if I'd wasted my youth partying!

[Anela]

I was never a party girl, but I do wish that I'd seen more of the world, seen a therapist when I was a teenager, etc. Although, I wonder what sort of regrets I would have if I'd made different choices.

[na49]

I'm 18 and have just started college. Most people my age are partying, doing drugs, getting hammered. Me? Well I never do that stuff. I do feel like I'm more mature than most people who are my age which could be a problem. I see some people who are making jokes that I thought were funny when I was in middle school. Makes me scratch my head and say "Am I supposed to think this guy is funny? He's not but everyone thinks he's hilarious"

 

I would like to be one of those crazy party animals, it's just not me. I feel uncomfortable trying to be something I'm not. I don't exactly like the way I am. (part of that is being cheated on and trying to get over my first BU) but I am who I am.

 

I won't know if I'll think my time now was a waste until I'm older obviously. but I enjoy myself when me and my buddies go to the movies, or go get food somewhere or just play video games and shoot the sh*t for a few hours, so I don't think I'll see it as a waste.

[Harradin]

I'm 20 and at university. I do enjoy nights out partying/clubbing etc but do prefer chilling with mates at the pub or playing Xbox etc. I act like a 6 year old mentally (I find immature jokes really funny and do act immature majority of the time,) I get excited at things very easily, I love it, I am mature when its needed, I've struck a fine balance really.

 

I don't think its particularly a worry, I just want to be happy and if I'm happy the way I am (choosing not to go out etc) then I won't worry about it later on.

[FitChick]

I seldom partied and don't regret it.

[Lil1]

In my early twenties I was paying my way through university working two jobs and going to school full time so partying was not a part of my agenda. When I became fully independent, living on my own, paying my bills on time, etc.. is when I felt I could let my hair down and party it up.

 

But I found I got tired of the party life very fast. I did about two solid years of going out to clubs, bars, house parties, etc. dam near every night and I had a bunch of party friends (when I was 24-26 years old). I lived it, had my fun, and I have no regrets.

 

People choose their paths in life and there is a time and a place for everything. Now I choose to have my fun in much more rewarding, simpler, and less expensive ways - give me a good baseball game, a barbq and good friends anyday! The most important thing: live life without regrets (and part of that means NOT doing things you aren't comfortable with, i.e. don't compromise your integrity).

 

Have fun and enjoy life YOUR way OP!