ltomlinson81 Posted September 2, 2004 Share Posted September 2, 2004 Anyone who has the gall to be the "other man/woman" should re-check their morals. It is never right to date someone who is involved, especially married. Can't you find someone who is single? I think it is pathetic and wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
FolderWife Posted September 2, 2004 Share Posted September 2, 2004 And even if they DON'T have any morals, please realize that you are not going to come out ahead in this relationship. Even if you don't consider yourself doing anything wrong by aiding in the heartbreak of another person who's being cheated on, realize that you yourself are going to get hurt, and back off. Link to post Share on other sites
Breathe Posted September 2, 2004 Share Posted September 2, 2004 I know some will agree with your feelings on this topic - however, to generalize is not correct. Some of the OM/OW don't even know that they are seeing someone that is married until later. Some of these married men and women are going through a divorce and have no desire to reconcile, so they move on to someone else. So I don't feel that in these particular situations that it's "wrong" or "morally incorrect". **** happens, sometimes not of one's control. However, if someone is married, plans to stay married, living with SO and seeing someone else who knows he/she is married - this is not something I would condone. Link to post Share on other sites
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joodee Posted September 2, 2004 Share Posted September 2, 2004 Yep, this is true. Giving someone like that a chance is pathetic. When I started with the mm, all my friends said give it a chance, based on the information that I first had about him, which was that he was separated, not living together, nothing between him and his wife. Now I see it was all a lie. Question: since all my friends encouraged it in the first place, why do some people encourage dating a separated/married man in the first place? Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmaXOXO Posted September 2, 2004 Share Posted September 2, 2004 Question: since all my friends encouraged it in the first place, why do some people encourage dating a separated/married man in the first place? Because they are your friends, and they probably want to keep it that way. That's what's so good about this place. We're not interested in making buddies...we just like hearing our own opinions! Link to post Share on other sites
joodee Posted September 2, 2004 Share Posted September 2, 2004 That doesn't make sense, but that is something to think about. Link to post Share on other sites
9Lives Posted September 2, 2004 Share Posted September 2, 2004 Originally posted by Monday And even if they DON'T have any morals, please realize that you are not going to come out ahead in this relationship. Even if you don't consider yourself doing anything wrong by aiding in the heartbreak of another person who's being cheated on, realize that you yourself are going to get hurt, and back off. This is not true. I married my married man. We were together for 8 years. Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmaXOXO Posted September 2, 2004 Share Posted September 2, 2004 This is not true. I married my married man. We were together for 8 years. Huh? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t46877/ Link to post Share on other sites
healthnut Posted September 2, 2004 Share Posted September 2, 2004 I second the huh? Post: 6 | Quote: quote:Originally posted by jvjrose Dont you want your own man someday? Get past the pain and see something more positive to look forward to. I am in the same boat. It hurts like hell. Better now than later. It is not going to be easy but it is right. Link to post Share on other sites
9Lives Posted September 2, 2004 Share Posted September 2, 2004 you guys...I am not talking about my present relationship. I am talking about my husband that I married. The guy that I dated for 8 month is not who I am talking about. I have no reason to lie to anyone of you. I dont know you at all. It is very easy to be honest here. Link to post Share on other sites
healthnut Posted September 2, 2004 Share Posted September 2, 2004 Sorry, was some confusion. Link to post Share on other sites
9Lives Posted September 3, 2004 Share Posted September 3, 2004 That is okay. I think we have been thru enough without someone coming on here making up storys. I just would do that. I respect you guys. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Spock Posted September 3, 2004 Share Posted September 3, 2004 Originally posted by ltomlinson81 Anyone who has the gall to be the "other man/woman" should re-check their morals. It is never right to date someone who is involved, especially married. Can't you find someone who is single? I think it is pathetic and wrong. See now, I'd tell you to piss off but I'm sure it will get edited for content. So I won't. Don't enforce YOUR morals on me. If I have a sexual connection with someone, and they have one with me, it's probably going to be pursued, relationship status be dammned. I personally think it's pathetic that women fight like two terriers with a rat over a prize that may not be worth it. One, because the promise of love and lust and affection and the thrill of a new relationship is hard to give up-even when it may be false-the other because they've put time and effort into what they have and are afraid of losing it and starting over. Link to post Share on other sites
Touch_of_Naughtiness Posted September 3, 2004 Share Posted September 3, 2004 Originally posted by ltomlinson81 Anyone who has the gall to be the "other man/woman" should re-check their morals. It is never right to date someone who is involved, especially married. Can't you find someone who is single? I think it is pathetic and wrong. I don't really think that the person dating the MW or MM should "re-check their morals". In my personal opinion, the cheating spouse has more to blame than the OW/OM. It's not the responsibility of the OW/OM to care for MM/MW spouse it's that married person who should care. You are free to feel however you like and express how you feel, but take into consideration that all things happen for different reasons and all those who are free of all sins can throw the first rock! Link to post Share on other sites
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