Soldier Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 Alrite so I have asked for advice before on this subject and I'm back again. Alrite so I was deployed to Iraq when I started to talk to who is now my wife of over a year and a half. My wife is Dianne. So Dianne and I had dated for a short period years ago and started talking again while I was on leave from Iraq. Now we hadn't spoken for years hasn't seen each other in years. Dianne at the time was using alot of pain killers and coke pain killers he was prescribed for chrons disease but she was abusing them and would get high off them. Now we had only been talking for a couple of days before I asked her to b my gf she said yes so at that point I considers us bf n gf now I got back from Iraq we decided to get married and we get married. We were married for just over a year when I started to notice little things here n there that didn't make sense about her past. Then a couple of months ago I found out she has been lying about how many people she has been with n who they were and talking to guys behind my back a couple of convos I have found to b uncalled for. She continued to try n hide this and that then I find out that she cheated on me twice while I was in Iraq now I tried to forgive this due to the drugs n the time that we hadn't seen eachother but today I found out that she pretty much had cheated the whole time I was deployed now take into account that she was lying to me about drugs n that she stopped which she had not n that we had only been talking for two months before I got back from deployment. I do not no what todo about this I'm lost depressed I got out of the army for her so I can take care of her I have nothing right now we have been staying at her parents until her health was better so I'm stuck I have no money no job I'm in the national guard I has two dogs and go to college full time which I am currently failing because if time out of class for her surgery. Idk I've given up everything I have and I don't know what todo any thoughts thank you Link to post Share on other sites
Shardish Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 Firstly I'd like to offer my thanks for your service in your Nations Armed Forces. People like you who risk your life for the sake of others are worth your weight in Gold and you sure as hell deserve better treatment from your wife than she has given you. It is clear as day that she had major issues prior to your marriage, but Love is blind as they say. What should you do now? I think you need to get a divorce and you need to cut all lines of communication (unless you have children with her) and you need to get back on the saddle, so to speak. Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 You are young trying to make good going to college. Your WW is a serial cheater, drug addict. You in your gut know that you are young, no kids, she is broken, divorce her. There are healthy women out there that will want you. Link to post Share on other sites
NervisPervis Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 I can't find the part of your post where you say you have kids or some other reason you need to stay together with this toxic woman. Please point that part out so I can give you complete advice. Thanks. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
loversquarrel Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 First of all, I would like to thank you for your service to your country. It is honorable and noble of you. That being said, you deserve from a woman the same sense of values that you project. You are trying to work hard at bettering yourself while all she has done is work hard at bringing you down. Kids or no kids, get a divorce and better yourself. Unfortunately you got caught up in a woman who clearly has no sense of self control over her impulsivities. Don't allow her to destroy you. You know you have the strength to walk away. Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 Our men and women in uniform, especially when deployed, don't need this kind of crap to occupy their minds. Divorce her!! You don't need this. You don't need to wonder what she is doing when you are deployed again. Link to post Share on other sites
RomanceLow Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 Most of the time it's military who cheats, but it's cool that you didn't. When people cheat they're selfish and all they care about their needs. Dianne is probably a good person deep down, but she doesn't love you as much as you love her. My suggestion is that you break it off and you go live with your parents or a friend. Live in base if the national guard allows you too. The broke in trust you'll never get back. It's for the best Link to post Share on other sites
thecrucible Posted February 27, 2013 Share Posted February 27, 2013 Be glad that you got out of that awful situation. Start regrouping and focusing on your own life. You are the only person who can take control of your own happiness. Also take a look at the blog BaggageReclaim - it gives the absolute best break-up/self-esteem advice. Good luck with everything. Think forward. x Link to post Share on other sites
dasein Posted February 27, 2013 Share Posted February 27, 2013 Please get shed of this person. You are young, divorce her. Get your degree and move on with your life. You already know this is what you must do. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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