HurtConfused Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 SO here's the story. Me and My Girlfriend have been going out for about a year now. The first half was great and all but then she went off to A University about two hours away. I have been going down there a lot, probably every two weeks or so. Things have been going, in my opinion very smoothly. Now my Gf is a bit of a Tomboy, and usually likes to hang out with guys for the most part. So it came as no surprise that she would make male friends in Uni. As i go down there so much i got to know them, i liked them all for the most part. But there was this one guy who i could tell was interested in her, I told her he was interested in her. But she refuted my claims and pointed out that he had a GF. (He is from another country and they were doing the long distance thing) So things go on, and as is usual in Uni, there is a lot of drinking. One night, this same guy goes and tries to make out with her. she tells me the next day, I forgive her and tell her told ya so, don't do it again yada yada. so then just on Saturday, it was just her and him at the end of the night. Highly intoxicated as she puts it, and they slept with each other...... the next day she tells me over Skype. during this entire time she is bawling and telling me how sorry she is and how ****ty of a human being she is and that is should dump her right then and there. truly sorry. Me, I love her with all my heart and have no idea if i should forgive her indiscretion or just cut my losses and move on. Help!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Shardish Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 She's a vile cretin. I say dump her, cut off all contact with her and find a woman who isn't as vile and as manipulative as she is. Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 She failed the job interview for marriage. As they say in the barber shop, Next. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TaserTag Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 I wouldn't give her another chance. You told her that the guy was interested in her and trusted her enough to let her stay 'friends' with him. She abused that trust by kissing him. You forgave her for that, and then she has sex with him. The fact that she keeps saying she's drunk when she does these things does make it better. It seems like she's playing games and not taking your relationship seriously, to say the least... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 You judge a person by their actions and not by their words and her actions speak volumes. She has no respect for you whatsoever and you know it. If you do not respect yourself then who will? Link to post Share on other sites
loversquarrel Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 Funny how "Oh he's just a friend" turns out most of the time, isn't it? I have always had reservations wth women who hang out with guys on a regular basis for this very reason. Well, for what it's worth....you are only a year into this relationship. She has already shown that she doesn't care about your feelings and has no respect for you nor your relationship. When she told you about kissing this guy, she could have very easily included that she was interested in dating/seeing/hooking up with other people, but she didn't. Granted it wouldn't have made you feel good to hear that, but at least it would have given you the option of dating others yourself. More importantly, it would have also freed you from the responsibility of now having to be the one to break up with her. This makes the pain even worse because chances are you didn't have that in mind at all. People like this are not worth the heartache. My advice to you - be weary of her crocodile tears and rid yourself from this relationship tyrant. There are many women out there who know the importance of trust as a foundation. As a side note - take solace in the fact that your cheating GF threw your relationship away for a guy who will not be around for her come semester's end (what does she think will happen when Romeo goes back home). By then you will have found someone better. Link to post Share on other sites
kimberlydoll Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 Any situation like this, male or female, Id say dump the person. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 Okay, lets break this down.... You told her to watch out because this guy is interested, she blew you off. She told you that he tried to make out with her (translation, she made out with him) you gave her the "I told you so!" speech. Still under the impression that she shot down his advances, but to be honest...she didn't or else why would he try again and face sexual harassment charges by Campus PD? So, he comes back and she screws him. See the progression here? Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me. Fool me a third time and I'm a frickin idiot. If I were you, I would find out this guys name, look up his Facebook profile; find out who his girlfriend is (it shouldn't be too hard to do) and inform her of what happened. She has a right to know. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
sayyes19 Posted March 2, 2013 Share Posted March 2, 2013 SO here's the story. Me and My Girlfriend have been going out for about a year now. The first half was great and all but then she went off to A University about two hours away. I have been going down there a lot, probably every two weeks or so. Things have been going, in my opinion very smoothly. Now my Gf is a bit of a Tomboy, and usually likes to hang out with guys for the most part. So it came as no surprise that she would make male friends in Uni. As i go down there so much i got to know them, i liked them all for the most part. But there was this one guy who i could tell was interested in her, I told her he was interested in her. But she refuted my claims and pointed out that he had a GF. (He is from another country and they were doing the long distance thing) So things go on, and as is usual in Uni, there is a lot of drinking. One night, this same guy goes and tries to make out with her. she tells me the next day, I forgive her and tell her told ya so, don't do it again yada yada. so then just on Saturday, it was just her and him at the end of the night. Highly intoxicated as she puts it, and they slept with each other...... the next day she tells me over Skype. during this entire time she is bawling and telling me how sorry she is and how ****ty of a human being she is and that is should dump her right then and there. truly sorry. Me, I love her with all my heart and have no idea if i should forgive her indiscretion or just cut my losses and move on. Help!!!!! Unfortunately you can't trust many girls or guys in college. More times than not a girlfriend in high school will "find herself" in college. It really sucks, but it is what it is. You can't really trust her now, so your best move would be to move on and find a new girl you can be close to. Link to post Share on other sites
FeenaChan Posted March 4, 2013 Share Posted March 4, 2013 Okay a wise friend once told me - "A drunken mind, has a sobered heart"..... Or something like that lol. She wanted that to happen... You already warned her once, don't let her do this to you a third time. Whats next.... Oh I am pregnant.? She knew not to get drunk with him again, so to be perfectly honest.... She does not care about your feelings. Link to post Share on other sites
BonitaAppleBum Posted March 4, 2013 Share Posted March 4, 2013 she tried to pull the victim game on you. we're still in college and a year is really short. don't fall for the I only get along with males thing either. that is a hoe trap! Good news is we're young and a year is a really short time. date around and try again! you'll survive. I know this is hard to believe but you will Link to post Share on other sites
Tethys Posted March 6, 2013 Share Posted March 6, 2013 Unfortunately you can't trust many girls or guys in college. More times than not a girlfriend in high school will "find herself" in college. It really sucks, but it is what it is. You can't really trust her now, so your best move would be to move on and find a new girl you can be close to. I have to agree. Couples should assume they're going to break up during college, maybe they get back together afterwards, and I'm sure some couples pull it off, but I think 90% of the time the relationships don't last--especially if one person in the rel. isn't going away to college. And, sorry about being brutally honest, but: I think she was confessing so that you'd get mad and dump her because she doesn't have the courage/heart to do it herself (because she's in college and wants to have fun). Link to post Share on other sites
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