Kat Posted September 3, 2004 Share Posted September 3, 2004 I went to a work function and ended up getting seated next to someone with a 'reputation'. He is married and spent all night telling me how radiant I was and how I had a 'great complexion'. The conversation was pretty much me asking him if he loved his wife why he acted like this and so on and so on. Anyway, once it was obvious I couldn't have a conversation with this guy, I got up and went to the dance floor. Now they had deposible cameras one each table and pictures were taken throughout the night. When I left the work function I met up with my boy and we went hard at it into the night, the head felt it the next day. I told him what happened at the dinner and who I got stuck next to and such. Nothing happened between me and this guy and I have no interest in him whatsoever. He can do what he wants with his marriage. Now my dilema. There ended up being 6 pictures taken which I feature in. Four of which have 'him' in it and are of us sitting next to each other and chatting. Is it rude to get a copy of the pictures? Is it disrespectful to my partner? I see it as 'Nothing happened, I ended up next to a drunk flirt and chatted, not attracted to this guy, so they are just pictures of me haning out at a work function'. What would you do? I haven't asked my partner if he minds me getting copies yet. Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted September 3, 2004 Share Posted September 3, 2004 Why do you want a copy? Link to post Share on other sites
hurtingandconfused Posted September 3, 2004 Share Posted September 3, 2004 Why do you want a copy? That's what I was wondering. Link to post Share on other sites
Kat Posted September 3, 2004 Share Posted September 3, 2004 Because I am always the picture taker. I hardly have any pictures of me being me. Link to post Share on other sites
honey2005 Posted September 3, 2004 Share Posted September 3, 2004 If nothing happened I really don't see why it would be bad to get a copy of the picture. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted September 3, 2004 Share Posted September 3, 2004 Because I am always the picture taker. I hardly have any pictures of me being me. You're into the guy at the party. That's why you want the pictures. 1) You spent lots of time talking to him. 2) He was flirting with you and you stayed there to "discuss" his marriage. 3) You tried to prove you aren't into the guy by bragging about how "hard at it" you went with your boyfriend. As if that had anything to do with it. 4) You want the pictures, you feel weird about it, so you posted here. 5) You gave the lamest reason I've ever heard for wanting them. "I have so few pictures of me being me." Yes, that's something we should all be concerned about. So make sure you get some of you being you with some strange guy you aren't interested in offering to cheat on his wife with you. Real Kodak moments. Great plan. Link to post Share on other sites
Kat Posted September 3, 2004 Share Posted September 3, 2004 Originally posted by johan You're into the guy at the party. That's why you want the pictures. 1) You spent lots of time talking to him. That's right. I did. So what? 2) He was flirting with you and you stayed there to "discuss" his marriage. I was sitting at a table for a three course meal, you can't exactly get up in the middle of it 3) You tried to prove you aren't into the guy by bragging about how "hard at it" you went with your boyfriend. As if that had anything to do with it. If you are saying I bragged about how I didn't take his advances too much to my boyfriend just to make him feel better, not I didn't 4) You want the pictures, you feel weird about it, so you posted here. That's right. It was a black tie event, there are other people in the pictures, so I wanted to ask if it was a weird and disrespectful thing to do. 5) You gave the lamest reason I've ever heard for wanting them. "I have so few pictures of me being me." Yes, that's something we should all be concerned about. So make sure you get some of you being you with some strange guy you aren't interested in offering to cheat on his wife with you. Real Kodak moments. The problem is you are putting meaning to it all. I'm not, hence why I don't see the real problem. If you want to accuse me of cheating or having an underlying meaning then grow a pair and say it. Link to post Share on other sites
guest Posted September 3, 2004 Share Posted September 3, 2004 If they are good pictures of you and you don't normally photograph well, then definitely get them, I would. I don't think you are "cheating", but I do wonder why you are asking/posting about it here. Link to post Share on other sites
Kat Posted September 4, 2004 Share Posted September 4, 2004 Originally posted by guest but I do wonder why you are asking/posting about it here. because this is LoveShack Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted September 4, 2004 Share Posted September 4, 2004 The problem is you are putting meaning to it all. I'm not, hence why I don't see the real problem. If you want to accuse me of cheating or having an underlying meaning then grow a pair and say it. I did say it. It's the first thing I said. If it doesn't mean anything, then just do what you want. But then I go back my original thought which was "why post a question about this to Loveshack?" What are you going to do with them anyway? Frame them? Show them off to people? "Here's another picture of me being me with some random stranger. Here's another one, same guy. Ignore him. Ah, HERE's a good one of me and that guy again. I really like that one." Why don't you ask your boyfriend what he thinks of it? If you want pictures so bad, go buy a camera and have him take some. Link to post Share on other sites
guest Posted September 4, 2004 Share Posted September 4, 2004 "because this is LoveShack " I guess that's my point, I'm not sure what photos of you at a party with acquaintances etc. has to do with loveshack or the ow/om forum. I have had many married men come on to me, have rejected them all except the one I'm currently emailing, and I'm keeping that as a friendship. If I'de had pictures I wanted with any of them, I would just ask for them and go on with my life, I wouldn't be posting about it here. Link to post Share on other sites
Kat Posted September 4, 2004 Share Posted September 4, 2004 well you are just a bundle of help aren't you. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted September 4, 2004 Share Posted September 4, 2004 Geeze, johan, chill. Get the pictures. Show them to BF. If he recoils, ditch the pictures. Link to post Share on other sites
honey2005 Posted September 4, 2004 Share Posted September 4, 2004 My boyfriend would be thrilled to get pictures of me because I'm rarely in any (I'm usually behind the camera, too.) I don't think my bf would care if some guy was sitting beside me, and I don't see why yours would either. After all, you told him nothing happened and you weren't attracted to him at all. I think you should just ask your bf how he would feel to show that you're thinking of him, but I don't see why he would get upset (but I don't know him, so I could be wrong ) cause it would be nice to have pictures of you around the house. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted September 4, 2004 Share Posted September 4, 2004 Get the pictures. Show them to BF. If he recoils, ditch the pictures. Yeah. That's what I was trying to say all along. Link to post Share on other sites
Karlise13 Posted September 4, 2004 Share Posted September 4, 2004 why is it in the OW/MM forum? So some creep hit on you all night. Happens to everyone. Why even tell your BF about it? You did nothing wrong! Keep the photos. Since BF knows about the creep, if he says "Ugh, I dont' want to keep these" then ditch 'em. Other option, have the pics blown up and cropped so the creep's face is missing. I don't think you should worry about it at all. Link to post Share on other sites
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