Skipper888 Posted February 28, 2013 Share Posted February 28, 2013 Hey guys my gf n I recently broke about up about 3 weeks ago. Mainly because she doesn't know what she wants anymore. She feels like she is stuck between a great opportunity career wise or me. She is so unhappy with her job however it requires her to work in a remote area and she feels like she has to choose between that and me. It been so hard cause our relationship was awesome just life got to hard for her I guess. Anyways I have been trying not to text her or talk to her and she the same. However this last week we have been texting none stop like nothing has happened. I have been holding myself back a little and asked her why is she talking to me she broke things off with me. She said she really hates this place and missed me. She says she needs time and I want to give it to her but I can't wait around forever and she knows that. I love the girl to death and would do anything for her but yeah. My biggest fear is that I'll get over her n move on n meet someone who yeah I'll love but it wouldn't be the same. She is my best friend and I literally struggle not talking to her I just want to be able to share my life with her and I know she wants to do the same just our situation is difficult. I get to the point where i say to myself stop being an idiot and get over it and I'm fine for a few hours then I get back into my hole where I'm like your being an idiot in letting this girl walk out of your life. Just feel lost and don't really have anyone to talk to about it except for her cause yeah she's my best friend and no one understand me like she does and vise versa. Link to post Share on other sites
purplereigncb Posted February 28, 2013 Share Posted February 28, 2013 Man I wish to be in your situation. I can see where you are both coming from. It seems like with her job, one of you will eventually move on. It just hasn't happened yet. If you guys are great friends like that, I don't see why you can't talk. Link to post Share on other sites
Thunderchild Posted February 28, 2013 Share Posted February 28, 2013 No one is asking the question - How do I make this potential long-distance relationship work?? If she really wants to be with you and have this super opportunity you would both find a way to keep things alive and make the effort. Say, you only saw her at weekends with each one of you travelling back and forth (alternate weekends) to wherever she works/your place. If she's not prepared to compromise/make that effort - start dating elsewhere. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Skipper888 Posted February 28, 2013 Author Share Posted February 28, 2013 yeah we have been doing it for 18 months and she is just depressed cause life is awesome when we are together then we we are apart she gets use to being alone again n gets depressed and hates her job and life .. she told me she thinks she is pushing me away cause its the only thing she can change. she cant quit her job cant move anywhere just hates giving everything to her job. it hurts cant i cant do anything about it. but i dont want to move on cause i dont want to give up on her she deserves time to think but im sick of feeling hurt and depressed. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted February 28, 2013 Share Posted February 28, 2013 You're stuck, because that's what you choose to be. Stuck. you're neither pushing, nor pulling. You're just accepting. You need to tell her you consider yourselves broken up. Cut contact, get your mind in order (All this to-ing and fro-ing is just serving to muddy the waters). You need to cut the ties that bind, agree that right now, it's not working and that you should both consider yourselves, friends, but free agents. do not maintain contact, and break it off. Hell, one of you needs to be decisive! Be 'the man' and do it. Link to post Share on other sites
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