czen Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I've had this issue since I could remember: I always fall for my female friends. To this date, I've only had one female friend who I didn't fall for or like in a more romantic way, and that's because I'm just not attracted to her physically. But all my other friends are either ex-girlfriends, girls who I dated but didn't end up working out, Girls I fell for but rejected me, etc. Is there any way to correct this? I mean, I can become platonic friends with girls, but when we start getting closer I always end up starting to like them more than just friends. Is it just that I need to bring up the defenses surrounding my heart? Or is there a more simple way. Aside from only befriending girls I'm completely not into from a physical point of view.
Radu Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 When i become infatuated with a girl and want to stop it, i tend to pull away from her and to add 'negatives' to my mental picture of them. With good practice, i can cut down the infatuation pretty fast.
siamex Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Not to sound verbose or boastful, but I can't keep friends that are girls for some reason. The majority I have had in the past developed some sort of feelings and it ruins a good thing. I had this really good friend and I was her listening person. She would tell me her drama with her daughter's father and I would in turn listen to her and provide advice to the best of my ability. She then attempted to make a move on me 3 years after we were deep into the good friend zone and it ruined everything. I didn't want her that way and she took it harshly. I explained that I can't betray the awesome dynamic we had even if she was beautiful. She ceased to talk with me and we had NC for about 2 years. She recently started texting me and it has been nothing like what we shared before. I miss that and it stands to remind me that it is sometimes ultra difficult to be platonic with the opposite sex.
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