Take it further with somebody cheating WITH you?

[its a lifestyle]

I always wondered how somebody could even consider this until I found myself in the same situation..

 

I started talking to a cousin of my friend around November.. casual texting/blackberry/facebook and she's been at parties we go to etc etc.. she's 22 half Brazilian half English, gorgeous girl.

 

Her boyfriend works nights and she invited me to her place the day after my birthday to chill, obvious happened and I've been banging her for around 3 weeks since then..

 

Lastnight we found ourselves pillow talking, she was saying I need to stay away from my friends they are no good etc etc I am better than that etc etc..

I asked why she cares and said obviously soon we're gonna have to stop seeing each other this can't just carry on like it is..

 

She said she would leave her boyfriend for me on the spot if that's what I wanted..

She said she wants to start spending more time with me not just sex at night,

 

I told her to stop being silly and I'm not looking for a girlfriend at the moment anyway, she played it off in a cute way but I could tell she was disappointed.

 

Thing is, I do kind of like her and if the situation was different I would probably see her as potential and make an effort but as it stands.. I don't think I could ever trust a girl like her,

 

Then again I think ALL girls are like this in my opinion, no matter if they're married, kids, in love etc, there's a man out there in the world somewhere who COULD bang your girl no matter how much she denies it, says she loves you, would never cheat etc etc..

 

Drop this and avoid the potential stress in the future?

Or lifes to short so just let things happen?

[Shardish]

 

Drop this and avoid the potential stress in the future?

Or lifes to short so just let things happen?

 

If you want to be in a relationship with her, then go for it, but don't come crying here when she cheats on you with someone else which is certainly likely.

[iKING]

I'm going to put all premeditated opinions aside, OP and otherwise, and just assess the situation. A relationship with this girl would be toxic. If she's willing to cheat on her man with you and leave him for you, as soon as she found someone better then you or got lonely (or whatever other reasons she may use to justify her behavior) she'll cheat on you and break up with you for the next.

[William]

Let's stick to the topic folks. If desiring clarification relevant to statements made in earlier threads by the thread starter, link to the threads and ask for clarification; making accusations is a violation of civility and respect surrounding forum interactions. Thanks. Carry on.

[runningfar]

Not every girl will cheat.

 

I think it's telling that she would dump IF. She needs an escape hatch before she ends a relationship. It wasn't that one night, Damn, and told him and dumped him and tried with you...

She will cheat because she's afraid of being alone.

 

At this point, looking for another way out, she'll probably add even another into the occasion hoping for that soft landing.

[kaylan]

My advise... go for her... she is exactly your kind of girl!

This.

 

You guys are no better than one another. Enablers are just as bad as the cheaters themselves. Btw, do know some women wont date you if they know that you knowingly slept with someone in a relationship. I wouldnt date a girl who did that because it shows disrespect and lack of caring for relationships...so i wouldnt expect ours to fair well.

 

Just know OP...she will cheat on you if she cheated on her bf with you. Youve already showed her that the behavior is acceptable. You dont have options to date quality women?

[LeliiMarie612]

I don't mean to be rude, but all girls are not like that. There are a lot who are faithful, but judging by your comment I can see why you can't get one that is.

 

Also, let's face it, you won't have a serious relationship with this girl. You'll end up like her bf, she'll bang you for a while...until she finds someone else.

[Darren Steez]

Your friend's girlfriend cheating over the phone, now this...you've got good stories...

[nofool4u]

Lastnight we found ourselves pillow talking, she was saying I need to stay away from my friends they are no good etc etc I am better than that etc etc..

 

What would a cheater know about being better than anyone?

 

 

She said she would leave her boyfriend for me on the spot if that's what I wanted..

 

To which your reply should have been, "Why would I want someone that could do the same thing to me? You are just an easy fun time, nothing more."

 

 

She said she wants to start spending more time with me not just sex at night,

 

I told her to stop being silly and I'm not looking for a girlfriend at the moment anyway, she played it off in a cute way but I could tell she was disappointed.

 

Why doesn't she just leave her boyfriend anyway? Whether you want her or not?

 

 

Thing is, I do kind of like her and if the situation was different I would probably see her as potential and make an effort but as it stands.. I don't think I could ever trust a girl like her

 

Smart man, well, sort of.

 

 

Then again I think ALL girls are like this in my opinion, no matter if they're married, kids, in love etc, there's a man out there in the world somewhere who COULD bang your girl no matter how much she denies it, says she loves you, would never cheat etc etc..

 

Then you just gave reason for no man to ever commit or get married.

 

 

Drop this and avoid the potential stress in the future?

Or lifes to short so just let things happen?

 

Certainly the first.

 

The second part may be the happening of a bf's fist in your face, and not just talking about this bf, but any other gf of another guy you help screw over.

[nofool4u]

Let's stick to the topic folks. If desiring clarification relevant to statements made in earlier threads by the thread starter, link to the threads and ask for clarification; making accusations is a violation of civility and respect surrounding forum interactions. Thanks. Carry on.

 

If I may just ask a question regarding your statement. What kind of respect is he showing people of this forum, who are here mainly because they have suffered at the hands of someone like him and the girl in question, by glorifying what he is doing?

 

Perhaps the whole thread should be deleted because its not going to be well received, at least in Infidelity, and for obvious reasons.

[Leigh 87]

If she cheated with you, she will cheat on you.

 

She has no integrity and she has low morals.

 

Seriously, any decent girl would break it off with a boyfriend before jumping into bed with a new guy.

 

Even if her relationship was lacking for her, her poor boyfriend could have been crazy about her!

[loversquarrel]

Judging by your post, you really aren't a high class sort of guy and she certainly isn't a high class woman. You are a good match and would be guaranteed to cheat on each other.

 

It is a foolish statement to make that all women are like this...there are women in these forums that come to the same conclusions regarding men as you do women and you are both wrong.

 

I am beginning to believe that a lack of intelligence plays a significant role in infidelity.

[William]

If I may just ask a question regarding your statement. What kind of respect is he showing people of this forum, who are here mainly because they have suffered at the hands of someone like him and the girl in question, by glorifying what he is doing?

 

Perhaps the whole thread should be deleted because its not going to be well received, at least in Infidelity, and for obvious reasons.

It's pretty simple: Read the topic of this forum, Cheating, Flirting, Jealousy.

 

"Being unfaithful to your significant other or suspect them of the same? Can't stand the way they flirt? Jealous? Discuss your experiences here."

 

The thread starter is in no way being disrespectful to any Loveshack member.

 

I'll suggest you re-think your position before making further on-forum statements regarding actions of moderation.

[BetrayedH]

As Leigh said, if she will cheat with you, she will cheat on you.

 

Said another way, if you become her boyfriend, you will just open up a vacancy for someone else to be her side-piece.

[nofool4u]

Re-think what position?

 

And all I am thinking is, if he wants to glorify what he is doing, nobody should be surprised at the responses.

Edited March 4, 2013 by nofool4u