shontelevision Posted September 4, 2004 Share Posted September 4, 2004 ello, i am 15 years of age, 16 in december. Last year i was sexually assulted, but i have coped with the matter very well, and i am now in the middle of my 1st relation ship, which is very seorise. my parents wont let him and i be in the same room together alone. i really trust this guy, he is very kind, and he treats me so well. he lives 40 mins away, and he drives out every weekand to come and see me. we have had sex once, that was because my parents went away, and i had him over. we both decided that we wanted to wait until i was 16 to have sex, and have our relationship based on feelings and getting to know each other he is fully behind me 100%. i love him so very much, every day i am falling in love with him even more. he isnt attractive, but i love him because how he treats me, and how well we get along. he looks very young for his age, he is 18, but he looks like he is 16-17, which we told our parents that he is 17 turning 18 this year, due to regelations in australia which it is illegal for a person under 16 have sexual intercourse with person who is over 18 we very rarly get to see each other, but when we do, he comes over to stay here, my parents are always around, and they get angry at me if i am attatched to him (meaning that im cudeling him while watching tv, or they give me funny looks when we are holding hands.) i want my parents to accept him, and let them trust us, i am a big girl, since i got assulted, i have matured alot. his parents fully support us, and his mother loves me, she lives about 2 hours away, and we were going to go and see them next weekand, but my parents wouldnt let me go away with him for the weekend. it sucks hard core, due to how when we are together, we cant even talk normally, we have to watch out what we say, and its so sh**!!! i miss him very much, and im so sick of my parents treating me like a little girl, i want to be trusted, i can be trusted, but i dont know how to break it to my parents that they are babying me, and i need to have limits when him and i can be alone to talk, and we can hole hands, and express our feelings to one and another, please help, it would be very apreciated. thank you. xoxo[color=darkblue][/color] Link to post Share on other sites
rogueless Posted September 4, 2004 Share Posted September 4, 2004 How long have you been dating your bf? I was wondering, because I thought maybe you had not dated him long enough for your parents to feel comfortable. It will take them longer than normal to trust him because they love you and because of the previous assault. Are you unable to go to the movies or out to dinner? Or take a walk? Have your parents met his parents? I would not let my daughter go away for the weekend to peoples house I had not met, even if it was with a girlfriend. Be patient and let your parents build up their trust in him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shontelevision Posted September 5, 2004 Author Share Posted September 5, 2004 my parents have known him for 6 weeks. i have known him for 9 months. i trust him so well. i love him so much, but i totally understand about going away, but i want some alone time, like, how do i break it to mum and dad that i want some time to tlak to him. i wont do anythuing with him, but like, they wont let me take him into my room we cant talk its so hard for me. please post back Link to post Share on other sites
rogueless Posted September 5, 2004 Share Posted September 5, 2004 I don't think the bedroom is a good place to go talk. I am old fashioned and a mom, so I think like a mom. Do you have a lawn where you can go out and sit or take a walk close to home? Can you get a croquet, horseshoe, or badmitten set? May sound silly but it might get you outside alone with him. You could play and talk at the same time. Can you go out with a group of friends to a movie or mall? I did not allow my daughter to car date until she was 16. When will you be allowed to car date? I know its frustrating because you are at the between an adult a teen stage. Before you know it, you will be 45 wishing you were 15 again. I promise. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted September 7, 2004 Share Posted September 7, 2004 Originally posted by shontelevision we have had sex once, that was because my parents went away, and i had him over. we both decided that we wanted to wait until i was 16 to have sex, and have our relationship based on feelings and getting to know each other I'm confused. In other threads you said you were a virgin when you were raped, then you said you had great sex a lot; and in another post you said you used to be a tramp when you were younger, and you said your bf is bi-polar. You want your parents to trust you, but it doesn't sound like you have earned their trust at all. Trust needs to be earned, you need to prove to your parents that you can be trusted. This is what you said in other posts: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?postid=293455#post293455 yes!!! omg, last weekand i had the most incredible sex ever, we were at it like 6 times a day, and then another 5 at night time for the whole weekand (friday, saterday, and sunday) on saterday night, he was sooooooo increable (friday was our 1st together) and i couldnt walk propley, even when i woke up in the morning, i couldnt walk proply, we were at it for like periods to 1/2 a hr to 3 hrs. omg, i want that weekand back!!!! -------------------------------------------------------- i know... i want it back!!! hehehhee but yeah, i must admit, i do tremble when i have sex, it turns him on so much. oh i miss him so much :'( but i sware, that 3 hr period of sex, omg, u should of seen me. we fell asleep straight away, and then, we woke up, and we were at it again. i got told that i wear the pants in the relation0-ship, caz i want sex more than him http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?postid=293434#post293434 hello. my boyfriend has told me yesterday that he has a sevear cause of bipolar. i am not fimilar with the term, i know what it is, but what can i do to help him, and to reconize his mood paterns and what i should so when he is down. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?postid=294193#post294193 last year (a year on sunday, today is tuesday) i was sexually assulted. i am 15 at the moment, turning 16 on the 29th of december i lost my v's to a guy who used me. he told me that he was 17. i was a silly little girl. all i wanted was to get laid. i met him, and i didnt want to have sex. he bashed me, and straped me up so i couldnt get away, and raped me. i was devo for ages, it finally came out of the open, because im a very out going person. and when im upset, u can tell. this is going to court, and it is still happening. i feel sorry for the guy, mainly because he did one thing wrong, and i was the victim, and because of this, he will be put away for a long time. he wasnt really 17, he turned out to be 26. i admit, court is a awful experance to go thru. but it is well worth it. it has helped me get over the issue. even tho it is still hapening. i hated all men, but now im in love with the most kind guy ever! without him i dono where i would be. he is my best friend. but i think i have lernt so much, and matured since i have goten raped, i am careful who i hang out with, and the boys who i date. Chris is my first proper boy friend, mainly because i was a little tramp when i was younger, which i must admit, it was because of the people who i was hanging out with. i was chubby back then. so boys didnt think anything about me, all they wanted was my friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shontelevision Posted September 8, 2004 Author Share Posted September 8, 2004 ok, yes, all of that is true, but i have said it in weid ways. ok, when i was in year 8, i was always the fat kid, i was the unattractive kid. i had always wanted a boy friend, so every body thought that i was all that, you know, you wanted that when you were 13. when i was in year 9, i changed schools, got away from that crowd, the skanky crowd. i didnt want boy friend or anything liek that. i started to come into contact with one of the chicks in the skanky group in year 10. we were friends, and i was jeolise of her, she was pretty, and all the guys wanted her, she was a slut. i wanted to prove her wrong, that i could get a guy. i met up with one of these guys, i didnt want to have sex with him. i just wanted to show this chick that i could get a guy. but he took it too far. i was pretty messed up for a while, and it still comes back to me and haunts me, because he was very violent, didnt use protection. it is still at court, ect. any hoo. i have met this guy, i have known him all this year, he has helped me sooo much with my trusting issues. i have always had a crush on him. when he came over, i was sad, and i needed him, he didnt want to have sex, but things went a bit to fast. thats when i decided that i wanted things to go a bit further. ever since we have been together, i have lernt more things about him. such as he had bipolar. i was trying to find out information, so i could help him, because how much he has helped me. the reason why i was anoyed about my parents was because i know chris so well. but yeah, as i said in my other forum, i am going to give my parents time. to get to know him, but when i do eventually say something to them, what do you suggest??? Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted September 8, 2004 Share Posted September 8, 2004 Respect your parents wishes. They're acting this way for a reason. And BELIEVE IT OR NOT, they are somewhat smarter than you. I wasn't allowed to be alone with boyfriends either at that age. Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted September 8, 2004 Share Posted September 8, 2004 I wasn't allowed to be alone with boyfriends either at that age. Yep, I was also dissallowed gals in my room at that age. And I haven't made up for the deficit yet Link to post Share on other sites
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