RiceaRoni Posted March 2, 2013 Share Posted March 2, 2013 It's been a total of 5 months for me...at first however during the first month I begged and then he got with someone new and I stopped completely. He texted me last month wanting to talk in person to clear the awkwardness and when I went to go have a meeting with him he sai he had nothing to say to me. I was so upset I told him this was a waste of time and I walked away. He was expecting me to say things...telling me he heard I had stuff to say to him. I did, but he broke up with me and I thought we'd have a cordial conversation to work things out Link to post Share on other sites
jagdude14 Posted March 2, 2013 Share Posted March 2, 2013 It's been 6 weeks for me and I'm going crazy! No contact is so difficult after talking to your now ex, everyday when you were together. But I guess as time goes by, it will get easier. I am at 7 wks and going crazy as well. Not a peep from her either Link to post Share on other sites
Thunderchild Posted March 2, 2013 Share Posted March 2, 2013 I am at 7 wks and going crazy as well. Not a peep from her either Two weeks today of NC. I used to speak/text my ex every day starting with a "Good morning" and finishing with a "Nighty night" every single day for 5 years. It took me about 6 days to switch off the mobile, I sometimes catch myself looking for a text from her, but not very often now. It's usually switched off in the evening anyway. I know there won't be any breadcrumbs, 1) She's pregnant (by another guy) after being told she couldn't have children, so she won't give a flying one about anything other than the sprog - she certainly shifted me out of her life quickly enough once the pregnancy was confirmed. 2) She knows that I won't tolerate any of her cr*p. I stood up to her at the breakup (rather than plead and grovel) I challenged her BS excuses etc and dismissed her from my presence. I'm quite proud of myself for having had a bit of backbone and dignity. 3) She cheated on me - that's how she fell pregnant - and is unwilling, unable or incapable of taking responsibility for her actions. She will probably be in a state of deep denial; having manufactured the excuses she trotted out at the BU. Then, she convinced herself that they were valid and that she was justified in cheating on me. In a part of her mind it was all OK to go behind my back, thus she has nothing to answer for or regret. The mobile is currently on my bedside table - switched off - and charging. It now needs charging every five days instead of every 36 hours. Link to post Share on other sites
Lillygoose Posted March 3, 2013 Share Posted March 3, 2013 This thread makes me feel slightly better, exactly 3 months since BU, and 11 days No contact. And I have rough days but the good days over come them now. Im excited for my future and am learning to do things for me. I think I am going to start living for me at this point in my life, No one else and it is so true what they say no contact works.Im applying for the great wall of china trek in 2014 to raise money for cancer research, and doing the peak challenge this year in England. And now, Instead of being the mess I was for 2.5 months. I take it day by day and I love having more time for myself, I have become so much more independent and am learning to LOVE myself again. Running has helped lots and taking up a hobby! And on the sad days, I just cry and get over it. He's not coming back and I think I am at the stage where I wouldn't take him back. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lostindreams Posted March 3, 2013 Share Posted March 3, 2013 I just initiated NC- I finally got tired of the breadcrumbs. Give me the whole damn sandwich; I deserve it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lavenderlove Posted March 4, 2013 Share Posted March 4, 2013 I am so scared of even the thought of no contact. Although the last time it happened to me was awesome. I requested NC and he started actively pursuing me. Now, this is when I showed amazing strength and kept NC. And I felt so much better, I got a chance to sort my head out. What got me down eventually was a lonely Sunday morning, when I felt hey, I really could be his friend now and gave him a call. This was the mistake. We got back together, and now two and a half years later I am exactly where I was before that phone call. So, everyone, take this story as an incentive. NC is the way to go. There is no other way to go. The reason why I am so scared of NC now, is that I know that while we are having a relatively cool, rational and nice breakup, as nice as they come, talking things over without casting blame, and helping each other with everything I know my ex, and I think he will end up in the same spiral when I request NC. Link to post Share on other sites
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