tequiero Posted September 4, 2004 Share Posted September 4, 2004 Hello to all who are listening. I am 27 years old and as is the woman that I fell in love with. We both met at a University and dated for 7 months. I have had many past relationships, but this one was very different. She is very special and unique. My feelings for her are immense. I have never felt as strongly for her as anyone ever before. She feels strongly for me, but not as intense. A month and a half ago, she had left for a job that appeared to be the best thing for her. It turned out to not be what she expected and she does not enjoy her work or where she is living. Additionally, she is extremely busy with no time for a relationship. I have been extremely supportful, but that was not enough. Consequently, after a month of being far and both of our busy schedules we decided to be friends. We still talk and e-mail each other. Last weekend we had a great time when I went to see her as a friend, but I feel us slipping farther apart. I feel my heart tearing more with each second that we are not together. I am trying to accept the situation, be a good friend and not expect anything to come of the two of us. However, I am having such difficulties dealing with this change in our relationship and the pain of unobtainable love. If you have any suggestions on how I deal with my pain or if there is anything I could do to help my relationship, I would greatly appreciate it. Thank-you. Tequiero Link to post Share on other sites
ECVegas Posted September 6, 2004 Share Posted September 6, 2004 Being friends with someone who you are still in love with is extremely difficult. The longer it goes, the tougher it will be. If you are slipping farther apart, and that is not what you want....then be honest with her and tell her. She could be distancing herself from you for two reasons. One, she wants to start her healing process from you and realizes that staying in close communication won't allow that to happen. Or Two, she has found someone else. If you tell her your true feelings, then you'll at least know whether it's one or two..and go from there. As painful as it may seem, cutting off communication from her might be the best thing if you don't end up getting her back as a lover. At least then you'll allow your heart to heal, and you'll be able to move on and love again one day. Link to post Share on other sites
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