lukecab Posted March 3, 2013 Share Posted March 3, 2013 Me and my ex were together for 6 years and we broke up a month ago. We talked last night in person "closure talk", we lived together for all those years and we almost got married. We both have a child from previous relationships, so were a family if you will. When we broke up we never really talked about what happened. Last night when we were talking, I could tell she had feelings for me still, her body language, she would laugh at stupid things I said, etc. She said she still cares, but she wanted me to move on, I could tell based off previous experience with her that someone else was in her life and I asked her about it casually and she said she is seeing someone (an old flame from high school), I asked if it was a rebound or if she really likes him, she said she wasn't sure.. then she then told me she doesn't think it's going to work out with him, then she told me that he (the guy she is seeing) said he thinks I still have a shot with her.. (I don't know this guy at all). I asked her if she thought there was a chance we could get back together in the future and she said she wasn't sure, but she didn't say no. She basically sends mixed signals, for a fact she is not trying to get back together right now and it seems like she is testing the waters first to figure out what she wants. We agreed that we would try and work on being friends but she needed some time (a month or two) and we can try to rekindle a friendship. My question is do you think there is anything salvageable here? I know most of you are going to say move on because she did, and I am moving on and I've met a few girls already but I have a hard time getting her out of my mind still.. if it was meant to be we'll be reconnected at some point and it not life goes on, but I do love her a lot and I know she loves me too, but we went through some hard times in our last year and we both gave up instead of trying to fix it. I know the right thing to do is forget about her and just move on, but I guess it's easier said then done when you truly love someone and you know they still love you. Link to post Share on other sites
AlexfromBoston Posted March 3, 2013 Share Posted March 3, 2013 Luke, the best thing you could possibly do in this situation is give her space and let this rebound run it's course. You shared 6 years of your life with her and generated a loving family environment in a home you shared. There is a lot of history there and if you give her some space with limited contact, she will miss you. You really have to remain calm, be very polite and limited any contact she may have with you. I would advise going NC for a month, but if she texts or calls you, I wouldn't ignore her. Just limit your contact with her and let her have the chance to miss you. Just don't fall into the position of a "rainy day buddy" while she's out romancing another guy. Be friendly but don't jump to her every call. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lukecab Posted March 3, 2013 Author Share Posted March 3, 2013 Thanks for the response. She texted me today and said last night was a mistake and to never contact her again so I guess there's my answer Link to post Share on other sites
purplereigncb Posted March 4, 2013 Share Posted March 4, 2013 Great she's doing the dirty work for you. Time to heal brother. Link to post Share on other sites
lavenderlove Posted March 6, 2013 Share Posted March 6, 2013 Yes, move on. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted March 6, 2013 Share Posted March 6, 2013 I was all set to write a long post about how really she sounds non-committal, and is maybe testing the waters, and let her do the running, because if she really feels it.... but then I saw your post about her text last night, so thank her for me, she saved me the job. Don't sweat it, bud..... Link to post Share on other sites
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