After college blues..how to get over it

[Brady_to_Moss]

Well i graduated in 2011 from college. Working now. The one thing i can't stand...is that everyone you knew and saw and hung out with is so distant now. Most of my friends live in my state (MA) but everyone is doing their own thing. I try and stay in contact but it's hard.

 

I have 2 people i see at least 1-2 times a month..the other few maybe a few times a year if that. I try and txt and get something going but it never happens...everyone is on their own world it seems now.

 

2 girls i dated and 1 who i really liked (still pissed at how it ended) are now both engaged and it's just....almost sad when you think about it. I was always doing something in college. Going to the store...Random road trips to NY with my buddies ect. Now i just work and come home

 

I know this is how life is but it just sucks you can't stay in that zone of seeing everyone on a daily basis. For 4 years i had the best time of my life with great friends...now..not so much and i don't know how to turn it around.

 

I always think about that 1 girl that is now engaged that i had a thing with and the what ifs over and over...

[Standard-Fare]

I had a tough time with the after-college transition, too. I think for most kids in America, college doesn't do much to prepare you for the "real world."

 

I think what helps is fighting against the 9-5 drudgery and keeping life interesting. It's still very much a time of life when you should be experimenting, traveling, dating, trying new things. You shouldn't be "the old man set in his ways." Take risks and challenge yourself. And if you don't like your current reality, whether it's the job or location or something else, put yourself on a path to change that.

 

Some more specific advice -- try to live with roommates around your own age... the more, the merrier. A) it's a hell of a lot cheaper. B) it can provide you with at least an aspect of the social dynamics from college that you're missing. I lived with a ton of roommates in my 20s and have zero regrets. There were always parties, new people to meet.

[Brady_to_Moss]

I had a tough time with the after-college transition, too. I think for most kids in America, college doesn't do much to prepare you for the "real world."

 

I think what helps is fighting against the 9-5 drudgery and keeping life interesting. It's still very much a time of life when you should be experimenting, traveling, dating, trying new things. You shouldn't be "the old man set in his ways." Take risks and challenge yourself. And if you don't like your current reality, whether it's the job or location or something else, put yourself on a path to change that.

 

Some more specific advice -- try to live with roommates around your own age... the more, the merrier. A) it's a hell of a lot cheaper. B) it can provide you with at least an aspect of the social dynamics from college that you're missing. I lived with a ton of roommates in my 20s and have zero regrets. There were always parties, new people to meet.

 

I traveled to china, italy, greece ireland ect when i was college with college...had some amazing memories with great people..i just really miss those days. It's funny..someone posted on facebook today ( someone who lived on our floor in our dorm for 2 years) " i would kill someone if it meant i could go back to college with all of the same people for 4 more years" Seems like i am not the only one...