Hosea Posted March 4, 2013 Share Posted March 4, 2013 She was my first and only girlfriend.. we were together for only 6 months. I'm 20 and she is 25. I dumped her last Saturday after I found out. But a part of me wants her back. I'm not going to take her back, but my heart yearns for the happy times that we used to share.. It started about a month ago. There was this guy she was always texting, calling her gorgeous and other pet names. When I asked who he was, and she would always get defensive about it. When I tried to pry even more, she claimed I didn't trust her. So I let it go. I wanted to spend V Day with her, but she said she made plans. That set off a red flag in my head, but I was still trying to trust her. We celebrated the day before actually - she got me a card and we had sex so I thought everything was fine. The following days after Valentine's Day, she seemed really distant. Fast forward to today, I find a facebook picture of her holding hands(locking fingers) with that guy. Her friends and her did go out on V Day, but she conveniently left out the fact that she brought a date - the guy that she had been texting. I demand to see her today, she says that they kissed, and I dumped her ass. Her birthday was actually on Thursday, and I had made her a photo album, wrote her a heartfelt card, and got her some of her favorite chocolates. I felt like a chump for getting her gifts after I found out, but I found a good use for it. I made her accept the gifts, and I read the card out loud to her and she made me stop reading it because I guess it hurt to hear it. She claims she didn't want to hurt me but that is a sack of horse**** and I don't believe it for a second. Later that night, I found out she couldn't even be honest with me when I broke up with her. I messaged the other guy on facebook. Apparently they have been having sex since Jan. He asked for proof that I was with her within the last 2 months; I showed him a picture of the v day card she gave me and some fb messages that confirm it. Oh, and then she texts me after she finds out I told him. "Never thought you could do something like that to me! I hate you!" The next day, I was still so angry I sent her a bitter message (mistake, I know). She replied by saying that there was something very important she had to tell me and that she had to see me in person. I ignored the message, but I am curious to what she has to say. A part of me wants to know, but I know what she has to say will most likely hurt me.. So back to the original question.. how can I get over her? I'm tired of feeling like crap all the time. Link to post Share on other sites
Imported Posted March 4, 2013 Share Posted March 4, 2013 I liked the part where she was angry because you told the guy she was ****ing behind your back that she also was still ****ing her boyfriend. Hope that guy figures her out before she monkey branches to the next guy. Of course she'll never concede herself as being the center of the whole problem that lead to what is making her angry at you. Seriously, angry at you for telling the guy she is cheating with on you that you still have sex with her. What a dumb bitch. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted March 4, 2013 Share Posted March 4, 2013 There is no magic formula; it's going to take time and you're going to have to accept that she's a liar and a cheater who played you for a schmuck. You should've known exactly where you stood when she told you she had made other plans for V-day. No woman who give a $hit about a guy would rather be doing something else. Affirm to yourself that you have enough self-respect to excise someone who treated you like a doormat from your life and go no contact. What you're missing is not HER, but the wonderful feelings your brain chemistry creates when you're in love and having sex. But it was only a cruel fantasy that she orchestrated in your mind with her lies. Accept that you were played for a fool, forgive yourself for allowing it, vow to never be so naive again and shift your focus to something positive while you allow the feelings time to dissipate. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
iKING Posted March 4, 2013 Share Posted March 4, 2013 The only part of that I can't figure out is the "important thing to tell him". Does she have an STD? Is she preggo? Was it all a test or some bs? Is she going to try to jump your bones to get you back? How sketchy Either way, you made the right choice by leaving. As for getting over it, well, that's a whole other topic of discussion. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted March 4, 2013 Share Posted March 4, 2013 The only part of that I can't figure out is the "important thing to tell him". Does she have an STD? Is she preggo? Was it all a test or some bs? Is she going to try to jump your bones to get you back? I'm curious about that too. If the other guy dumped her too she may be planning to try and patch things up. I guess he needs to hear her out in case it's one of the other two possibilities though. The part where she said, "Never thought you could do something like that to me!" is truly classic. Link to post Share on other sites
ChatroomHero Posted March 4, 2013 Share Posted March 4, 2013 The part where she said, "Never thought you could do something like that to me!" is truly classic. Well that shows clearly where she lays the blame, it'll be his fault she cheated. As far as the important thing, I probably would have texted back something like, "There's nothing that you could tell me that is important to me now. Good luck." and left it at that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Imported Posted March 4, 2013 Share Posted March 4, 2013 Message her back: There is nothing I want to hear from you or say to you, so don't bother. I do appreciate all the blowjobs and you letting me put my cock up your ass. I will assume the important thing you need to let me know is that you have an STD. I will go get myself checked out. Luckily guys aren't as prone to catching them as easily as sluts. Also, if you're pregnant or something like that, its the other guys baby or one of the other guys. If I learned one thing from you, it is to always wear a condom. Unless its a blowjob, but sometimes even then. I mean, you're not going to get pregnant with some baby batter in your mouth, but your mouth might be deseased. Anyway, have a good life. Link to post Share on other sites
iKING Posted March 4, 2013 Share Posted March 4, 2013 Message her back: There is nothing I want to hear from you or say to you, so don't bother. I do appreciate all the blowjobs and you letting me put my cock up your ass. I will assume the important thing you need to let me know is that you have an STD. I will go get myself checked out. Luckily guys aren't as prone to catching them as easily as sluts. Also, if you're pregnant or something like that, its the other guys baby or one of the other guys. If I learned one thing from you, it is to always wear a condom. Unless its a blowjob, but sometimes even then. I mean, you're not going to get pregnant with some baby batter in your mouth, but your mouth might be deseased. Anyway, have a good life. Satan himself would approve of this message. Link to post Share on other sites
Jethro Posted March 4, 2013 Share Posted March 4, 2013 The better question to ask yourself is, how can you NOT get over her? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hosea Posted March 4, 2013 Author Share Posted March 4, 2013 It just sucks getting betrayed. Never thought she could do something like this. I just gotta keep busy.. but it's hard. Link to post Share on other sites
Imported Posted March 4, 2013 Share Posted March 4, 2013 Satan himself would approve of this message. I'd follow it up with: Crap, I sent it to that guy you're ****ing by mistake too. Don't worry, I am letting him know right now it was meant for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Tethys Posted March 5, 2013 Share Posted March 5, 2013 I liked the part where she was angry because you told the guy she was ****ing behind your back that she also was still ****ing her boyfriend. Hope that guy figures her out before she monkey branches to the next guy. Of course she'll never concede herself as being the center of the whole problem that lead to what is making her angry at you. Seriously, angry at you for telling the guy she is cheating with on you that you still have sex with her. What a dumb bitch. Yea - good job on getting her in trouble with the new guy. She sounds like a slut. And good job on not meeting up with her, I'm sure nothing good would come of that. The fact that she claimed to have "something important to say" sounds like she was trying to manipulate your post-breakup emotions. Link to post Share on other sites
Darren Steez Posted March 5, 2013 Share Posted March 5, 2013 It just sucks getting betrayed. Never thought she could do something like this. I just gotta keep busy.. but it's hard. Keep busy, don't bother contacting her again. She blatantly disrespected you and as such should not get even a whisper in her direction. I'm sure she'll be in contact, trying to pull your strings and getting you to react, each time she messages just remember her banging some other guy. She doesn't deserve you or your time brah. Link to post Share on other sites
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