Author GreySkyMorning Posted March 5, 2013 Author Share Posted March 5, 2013 Today, I'm just really sad and angry at myself too for ever getting into this position. I do keep thinking about him and wondering what's going on with him now. All I've been thinking is that I dont even want to go to the graduation ceremony now. I know how ridiculous this is but I'm not excited about any of it now. Not finishing school, not the celebrations, not even about the career. I want to hate him for taking that all away from me and I want to hate myself for letting him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author GreySkyMorning Posted March 5, 2013 Author Share Posted March 5, 2013 I'm glad you are ok with it. I'd not have been. I've cut people out of my life instantly for interfering way less though. I don't like people in my business. How is your testing going? You know what's scary? If I was to cut her out of my life, then there's one less person there that I know really does care about me, even if it was a crappy way to try to protect me. I guess I need all the friends I can get right now. Its going ok, thank you for asking. Luckily, I'm an excellent test taker. I got an 85 on the one major test I was worried about the most on Monday. Five more days of testing and its all over until my board exams, which will be after graduation. You know, I thought I was resolved about my deadline but I don't think I would have stuck to it. I think I would have just moved from school onto working and nothing would have changed. I would have still let him keep me hanging. He certainly wasnt going to stop. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
SunshineToday Posted March 5, 2013 Share Posted March 5, 2013 I don't think it was meddlesome. You did the right thing. My Husband brother had an affair 25 years ago. We found out because his confesses to his brother in a promise of keeping the secret. Then I'm in the position of knowing but not revealing because it would betray the secret he had with my husband. I was young and stupid and put my head in the sand. Well guess what, my sister in law finds out and finds out we knew and didn't tell. She was devastated. I felt like crap and i decided if this ever happens to me again I'm telling. The BS will be grateful maybe not at first but in the long run. And as for the MM or OW/OM, to me they are cheaters and i don't care what they think. The truth will always be the best way for the real victims. Congrats on your graduation, you really should be proud! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Pierre Posted March 5, 2013 Share Posted March 5, 2013 I don't think it was out of line. She's been there the whole time. She's seen the damage on my end. No one here is children. I'm 43 yrs old. She's watched him break up with me and come back many times. She did me a huge favor. Call me weak or whatever, but I was never going to be able to walk away completely. Now, there's no choice and honestly, I appreciate that at this point. I am sorry for your pain, but breaking up is the best thing for you and please thank your friend. In a few years you will look back and see you dodged a bullet. Stay strong, he will come back. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JamesM Posted March 6, 2013 Share Posted March 6, 2013 Stay strong, he will come back. I kinda agree with this. If statistics here on LS show anything, then he will despite what you might think right now. For your sake, I hope he doesn't. It will be easier for you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Summer Breeze Posted March 6, 2013 Share Posted March 6, 2013 Wow. She did the right thing? The right thing would have been her calling this man's wife 2 years ago. This was revenge, pure and simple Revenge? What revenge was GSM's friend looking for? She could have called 2 years ago and the MM could have not entered the A. A lot of things could have happened. Your comment about revenge baffles me. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Summer Breeze Posted March 6, 2013 Share Posted March 6, 2013 I am sorry for your pain, but breaking up is the best thing for you and please thank your friend. In a few years you will look back and see you dodged a bullet. Stay strong, he will come back. I agree on every single account. OP you said something about him throwing you away like his trash. When he does come back you make sure he knows what it feels like. Make sure he's YOUR trash and toss him to the wind. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Ms. Red Posted March 6, 2013 Share Posted March 6, 2013 (edited) I don't think it was out of line. She's been there the whole time. She's seen the damage on my end. No one here is children. I'm 43 yrs old. She's watched him break up with me and come back many times. She did me a huge favor. Call me weak or whatever, but I was never going to be able to walk away completely. Now, there's no choice and honestly, I appreciate that at this point. And that ^^ is all that matters. You, the one here asking for support and what your feelings on what she did are. It gave you the end that you know you wanted. Edited March 6, 2013 by Ms. Red 6 Link to post Share on other sites
waterwoman Posted March 6, 2013 Share Posted March 6, 2013 And that ^^ is all that matters. You the one here asking for support and what your feelings on what she did are. It gave you the end that you know you wanted. I totally agree. Why is everyone speculating on how they would feel if this happened to them? Grey herself is glad it happened even if it is painful right now. Good luck grey. Many many congrats on graduating - that is such an acheivement, I hope you are very proud xx 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Summer Breeze Posted March 6, 2013 Share Posted March 6, 2013 Her friend waited until now to out the A? You don't think it's because MM decided to end the A? Friend was ticked that MM ended things and broke GSM's heart, so for revenge decided to out the A. That's what it seems like. Otherwise, why wait 2 years before outing him? It's seems obvious to me that's what this was. Friend was fine with the A as long as GSM won in the end. GSM wasn't going to ride off into the sunset with MM, so friend told BS to 'punish' MM. As GSM said her friend was tired seeing her being tossed around emotionally for 2 years and chose to do something. She did it at that time because her friend had important things to concentrate on. No I don't think it was for revenge. It sounds like she'd finally had enough of seeing her friend heartbroken and did what her friend couldn't. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author GreySkyMorning Posted March 6, 2013 Author Share Posted March 6, 2013 Her friend waited until now to out the A? You don't think it's because MM decided to end the A? Friend was ticked that MM ended things and broke GSM's heart, so for revenge decided to out the A. That's what it seems like. Otherwise, why wait 2 years before outing him? It's seems obvious to me that's what this was. Friend was fine with the A as long as GSM won in the end. GSM wasn't going to ride off into the sunset with MM, so friend told BS to 'punish' MM. She was never fine with it. She spent the whole time trying to get me to open my eyes. She was never okay with it being an affair or my part in it. But she supported me in trying to make peace with it because she knew I loved him. Btw, he wouldn't have ended it. He was perfectly happy for it to continue as it was. I was the one that had the lightbulb moment with his words. I dont think I was even angry at the time, just incredibly hurt by the realization that he'd essentially just been using me. I still cant find the anger. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LadyGrey Posted March 6, 2013 Share Posted March 6, 2013 Revenge? What revenge was GSM's friend looking for? She could have called 2 years ago and the MM could have not entered the A. A lot of things could have happened. Your comment about revenge baffles me. Two words...........she's back. ;) OP, I hope you can move forward and put him and this mess behind you. All the best and congrats! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Summer Breeze Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 Two words...........she's back. ;) OP, I hope you can move forward and put him and this mess behind you. All the best and congrats! You made me smile LG because I thought the same. Hence my signature change yesterday. I'm with you and everyone else wishing GSM huge congrats and well wishes. Don't let him have the power to take this accomplishment away from you GSM. Link to post Share on other sites
Sparkly24 Posted March 12, 2013 Share Posted March 12, 2013 this is probably too cheesy for words but... everything happens for a reason... it is time for him to not be in your life, probably at the worst time, because now maybe you are supposed to understand that you have to love yourself first. there is a saying... when i love, i love with no limitations... but if you betray me, i will love myself enough to let you go. Maybe after a long time of feeling hurt, wishing and never getting, feeling like you come second best, always wondering what he is doing with his wife, always wondering if he will be yours, waiting, looking at your phone to see if he texted you, and then finally being completely brushed aside and abandoned...(reading your story actually hurt my own feelings... i dont even know why, it was the way he just cut you off and left you... its something that most people would struggle to deal with) maybe after all this time you can now learn to become strong again and respect yourself and learn from this. one day you absolutely will feel this way for someone else when the time is right, and you will be treated how you deserve to be treated, as an equal human being with real feelings. there are men out there who would do anything for their partners and i hope you will meet someone like that soon. for the bad bits though, because there will be lots of times over the next few weeks where you will struggle, just go mad, indulge yourself, eat lots of chocolate, go shopping, spend time with your friends and family, do whatever you need to keep yourself ticking over. xxx Link to post Share on other sites
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