RomanceLow Posted March 5, 2013 Share Posted March 5, 2013 Is cheating more socially acceptable when it comes to military men? Why make it more acceptable just cause they serve our country? Link to post Share on other sites
sweetkiwi Posted March 5, 2013 Share Posted March 5, 2013 I don't think it's more or less acceptable. Just common. Imagine being secluded for months on end with the some people, doing the same tasks, day in, day out. They are bound to ge bored and horny. There are usually women around, some of them normally wouldn't be considered for sex but....boredom and lust... I've never been in the service. Just have family in it and have known military men and their wives. And yes it is an unfortunately common occurrence. Not all cheat. Link to post Share on other sites
ls32ssibm Posted March 5, 2013 Share Posted March 5, 2013 It's not. You (I presume) were just dating a jerk who happened to be in the military. Link to post Share on other sites
Sofore Posted March 5, 2013 Share Posted March 5, 2013 No, it is not more acceptable. However, when you have young men and women living together 24/7, sharing tough times and difficult situations, it's easier to understand how flirting and establishing sexual connections can easily establish. But, still, though I can understand it, I cannot accept it. Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted March 5, 2013 Share Posted March 5, 2013 Is cheating more socially acceptable when it comes to military men? Why make it more acceptable just cause they serve our country? I don't know of anyone that would think that way. I am just the opposite in thought. I hold our people in the military to a higher standard. I look up to them, I respect them immensely. So for them to cheat destroys my image of them (the individual, not the military as a whole) On the other side of the coin, I think those that cheat on someone in the military, especially when they are deployed and don't need to be in a state of depression because their spouse at home is boning someone else, needs to be strung up by their toenails. Too bad you can't court martial the cheating spouse of someone in uniform. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author RomanceLow Posted March 6, 2013 Author Share Posted March 6, 2013 For the most part Kimberly Doll is right. I know you guys think that military people are the same when it comes to relationships, but they're not. I understand that they leave far and wide and they have the opportunity to sleep with other people quite commonly. My ex in the navy told me frankly that all of his friends cheat. I know we put them in higher standards, as they serve our country. But for the most part most of them cheat and it is more acceptable as they are in a profession known for cheating. We live in a weird world. I knew the answer to my question I guess i'm just trying to get closure from my last relationship. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
loversquarrel Posted March 6, 2013 Share Posted March 6, 2013 Just because a profession may be known for cheating, doesn't make it right. It's still a deal breaker no matter how you cut it. I'm sorry you have to go through this pain, it sucks. Been there. I hope for your sake you weren't married with kids. Link to post Share on other sites
Phoebe Posted March 6, 2013 Share Posted March 6, 2013 Can't talk for everyone in the military but I know that my ex (USAF) not only cheated but was encouraged to cheat by his military friends (if I didn't know it wasn't going to hurt me). From the stories he told women did not seem like particularly valued members of the military. He was a mechanic and aparently they didn't like women working with them in the shop because of 'false' sexual harrassment claims that would damage an 'innocent' man's career. He also told me that while deployed in Iraq a military woman was being pimped out by her commanding officer - he swore she was doing it willingly but personally I felt a bit sick thinking about it, sounds like an abuse of power to me. Maybe these stories are the exception to the rule but it made me feel that the military was one big good ole boys club. I definately wasn't surprised about the scandal about rape coverups, just disgusted. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted March 6, 2013 Share Posted March 6, 2013 There is a more 'macho' culture in the armed forces yes, it's full of young blokes who wind each other up all day. I could well imagine that on average they cheat more - though fewer of them are in relationships than the % of guys outside the armed forces of the same age. I also know that some of them don't expect their girlfriend/wives to be faithful when they are away on deployment, I think partly because they try to have a pragmatic view on fidelity. Divorce rates are higher than in civilian marriages. So fewer steady relationships and more likely to have those broken. Common sense really. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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