Lolita_Sky Posted March 5, 2013 Share Posted March 5, 2013 (edited) My ex who I broke up with about 5 months ago contacts me on facebook out of the blue. He basically messages me saying he's sorry. So long story short we end up on the phone and he basically says that even though I am at fault for some things in the relationship he was sorry and feels there were some things he could have did better. Well I said oh, okay. And he just asks me why I sound so nonchalant about it. I said that appreciated him apologizing but that throughout the months I had time to think and reflect on that. I told him because of that I've moved on. Well he gets upset and ends the call. I text him saying I really appreciate him taking out the time to apologize and that it really spoke to me and showed how much he'd grown over the months. I then went on to say that I hold no grudge or animosity towards him and that I simply hope and wish the best of success for him.*Well he text me back literally attacking me saying that I was the same person I was back when he "left"me (I broke up with him) that I always blame others but I never take the blame for my wrong doing.He ended the call before I could apologize. So I call him to simply apologize and let all of this go. Well he insults me by asking what im doing up this late and don't I have to go to work in the morning. Then asks if im still working at my job. I tell him its none of his business. So I ask why he is up this late sense he's asking me these questions and he literally says because yesterday was my Birthday you a**hole. WTF?!! Then says he doesn't need an apology . So I end the call.I text him saying to never contact me again that I thought he just wanted to apologize so we could move on. He replies that it was a mistake, "later dude".For the record he was a terrible boyfriend to me. I helped him so much. He didn't have a job so I took the little money that I had to help him. When he finally got on his two feet he showed me his a**. I broke up with him because of it. I loved him so much but he didn't feel the same and never appreciated me. And he attacked me like this. Why did he do this?? Edited March 5, 2013 by Lolita_Sky Link to post Share on other sites
Ordinaryday Posted March 5, 2013 Share Posted March 5, 2013 Because he was contacting you not to 'really apologise' but to offer you a fake apology hoping that yo would see how much he has grown and then offer to start things up again, to get back together. That was the ONLY intention of his contact. And when you did not give him the response he was looking for (let's get back together) he cracked it at you, simple. I know this because in my more pathetic days I DID THIS to a girl who dumped me, thinking that if I apologized and told her how I had reflected on thnngs and learned so much, well. Thought if I did thst she would take me back. I did it and while she appreciated the contact, she did take me back. I Cracked it as a result. I was pathetic back then but you do Learn. Link to post Share on other sites
Ordinaryday Posted March 5, 2013 Share Posted March 5, 2013 Yeah well live and learn. At least with the last girl I was smart enough to tell her thst if she ever wants to come back to me my door is always open. I doubt I will ever hear from her again but then again, I have heard stories about exes coming back after years so who knows? Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted March 5, 2013 Share Posted March 5, 2013 Lolita_Sky, you have to block him and make sure he cannot contact you so easily. This is ludicrous.... He wanted to backtrack, take you back, but he wanted it to be ALL your fault. And when you as good as told him, "I've moved on, and the faults were joint efforts", it took the wind (of Control) out of his sails. Please do the right thing now. Block him completely and do not permit him access to mess with you, ever again. He's being ridiculous - but then, talking to him, responding - was a big mistake too. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lolita_Sky Posted March 5, 2013 Author Share Posted March 5, 2013 I only responded because I thought he genuinely wanted to apologize. That was the ONLY reason. I tried apologizing to some other exes in the past asking for forgiveness in hurting them. And not to get a response from them really hurt. I was trying to do the right thing to move on because I truly felt guilty about some thibgs. I didn't want to be that person. I wanted to give him a chance. But the he tosses this bullsh*t at me... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lolita_Sky Posted March 5, 2013 Author Share Posted March 5, 2013 I only responded because I thought he genuinely wanted to apologize. That was the ONLY reason. I tried apologizing to some other exes in the past asking for forgiveness in hurting them. And not to get a response from them really hurt. I was trying to do the right thing to move on because I truly felt guilty about some thibgs. I didn't want to be that person. I wanted to give him a chance. But the he tosses this bullsh*t at me... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lolita_Sky Posted March 5, 2013 Author Share Posted March 5, 2013 Haha! He's sooo pathetic I'd never take him back. He used me and hurt me so bad. Plus I told him throughout that relationship that I NEVER get back with an ex after breaking up. Never. I never have and never will. But obviously he thought I was always going to be there regardless of what he did. And make him the exception. Nope. Keep your a** movin'!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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