my boyfriend has left me and im devastated

[nab105]

Hi there

 

I dont know what to do Im really hurting its awful Im missing my ex boyfriend so much. he dumped me a couple of weeks ago. we were together for nearly a year and half. and I thought we were really close before he broke up with me he was talking about us moving in together. He was always telling me how much he loved me I just dont understand. we had been rowing alot lately but now I dont even know what it was about it sounds so silly.

 

It just feels that he has given up on me so quickly. one day Im his girlfriend and the next its like I never exsisted. im devastated and he seems like hes not bother how can someone love you one day and forget all about you the next. I feel like i meant nothing to him and I didnt leave an impression on. its not nice to think that your not being missed. I really love him still. I have phoned or txted him becuase I scared too. I havent heard from him for about three weeks now he broke up with me a month ago.

 

I just wish I knew he was coming back. I wake up in a panic in the morning because I realise Ive lost him. Im 23 and hes 30 im hes first girlfriend and I love him so much what do I do?

 

we should have been celebrating our birthdays on the 9th september we share the same birthday so it going to be tough this year I miss him so much

 

I wish there was something I could do

 

please help me

[rogueless]

I feel for you. I know its heartbreaking. I think you are experiencing what I am. I tell myself I was in love with a man that did not exist, an image. I was in love with the man I THOUGHT he was, not the man he actually is... It does not

mean you are undesireable. It just means he doesn't want a relationship with you for some reason. It probably has nothing to do with anything you've done. Just be glad he's done the breaking up now instead of 2 kids later. Good luck...

[WantanS4]

SIGH!......

 

Hmmm.... for me it was six years, she's gone and I for the past week or so, have felt the same way. At least he didn't say to you "I don't see you in my future anymore".

 

Have faith... believe in your heart that there was a reason for it.... maybe he got out of the way to make room for the man of your dreams. Time (and I know how much of a bastard TIME can be) will bring better things, and Time washes away the pain.

 

Remember.... there's always someone else out there that is feeling the same way..... always. I am... right at this minute I'm thinking about making love to her...... and wondering if someone else is doing the thigns i did with her right now.

[Starnette83]

I dont know why men do this really, it just seems like they are once there and show love and it feels just right, then all of a sudden they just LEAVE , dont call us and make us feel unappreciated and as tho we never meant anything to them, then we feel lost n forogtten and cofused because we begin to question if what we had with them ever was real and probably instead part of the imagination..why guys do this, i dont know, maybe they feel so much security that they seem to PANIC and wanna run away and see what else is out there, do they eventually think of us? i think so!

 

My ex did that to me, we dated 3.5 years and he left me and we didnt speak for 6 weeks, i felt forgotten, no emails, no calls, i just felt like "wow i really must have meant nothing to him"...it was horrible, id go from non caring, to feeling ok, to mad, to sad, to confused, to teary eyed at night....

I also went from kissing 5 guys to feel at my worse cuz i didnt feel the same sparks and just left me emptier with the desire of wanting my ex back..

so then after me not contacting him for those whole 6 weeks were we had no contact, i got drunk, called him...

He was happy to hear me, told me he had been thinking of me and that it was weird cuz that night and the night before he couldnt stop thinking of me and even told his mom he missed me...anyways NOW...hes being sweet again, and caring but i feel a bit different, i really am not opening my heart like before, i really dont knwo why i even go out with him now, ig uess cuz in a way it makes me happy and it takes away that lonely feeling, but honestly once someone runs out and leave u hanging its so hard tlo trust and love them like before....

I sometimes start plotting on how i can get back at him, like making him get hooked on me and then me just leaving him hanging for no reason, i maybe wont be able to do this..cuz i do care and im not cold hearted that way but my best advice is to keep on going with no contact for a while..

I know its Difficult!!!

but when u DO talk to him, which will happen dont u wanna sound happy and say all the things u have done???

"i got a new job", "im going to the gym"...etc...

Make yourself better, this is the best time, plus make ure anger turn into a thing that makes u do productive things, save some time to think of him but let it be at night, at day time jsut try to focus ony ou!!!

 

Were u too dependant on hiM? did u lose all ure friends while him? did u stop doing a hobby cuz u rather hang with him? well now its time to GET BACK ON TRACK!!!

sometimes things like this make us realize that we need to depend on JESUS and on ourselves, we need to put our self first....

 

hang in there Girl, and for each day that u have passed by with out talking to him, just know how strong u r, and post here whjenever u want to vent or wanna call him.......

Trust me he is thinking of u...he just is hacving fun , and so should u...

 

My ex went to clubs every weekend while we broke up, he even told me he went on a date withs oem girl but they didnt kiss, when he tells me this, i dont wanna hear it...makes me feel sick inside but when he tells me soemtimes i think he just does it to see how i react, cuz before i use to react emotional or mad, now i just grin, and change the subject...

im showing him that he wont affect me like before...

 

Read "why men love bitches" by sherry argov!!