Starnette83 Posted September 5, 2004 Share Posted September 5, 2004 iS your chick or bf, or ex now taking u for granted??? maybe its because YOURE TOO NICE, sometimes being nice isnt good... For example i will tell u 4 scenarios that i got from the book, why menlove bitches!! HE CALLS YOU AND EXPECTS YOU TO BE HOME if the nice girl leaves she calls first to tell him where she'll be and what time she'll be back/ The bitch lets him think about where she is every now and then. Nice girl is taken for granted, Bitch is being thought about and not taken for granted but instead DESIRED and missed!! Scenario #2HE SEEMS A LITTLE WITHDRAWN, PENSIVE AND NOT PARTICULARILY TALKATIVE the nice girl continually pries and asks "what are u thinking?" she worries that he is pulling away/The Bitch is in her own thoughts, she doesnt panic, which makes him come her way. Scenario #3 He sais he'll call at around a certaint ime, after he gets in, the call is FOUR hourse late.... The nice girl yells at him and sais she was worried "you should have called!"/The bitch isnt so easily upset, so she isnt so easy to read. she may or may not pick up the phone which makes him miss her! SO NEXT TIME U FIND YOURSELF BEING TOO NICE, SLAP YOURSELF!!! HOPE THIS ADVICE HELPS FOR ALL U TAKEN FOR GRANTED Link to post Share on other sites
dorothys Posted September 5, 2004 Share Posted September 5, 2004 Starnette, thanks for the tips. I think they will work wonders in my case. My ex has made moves like he wants to come back, but then he flip flops. Basically the hot-cold routine. The more aloof I seem the more clingy he becomes. Right now, he calls me 1-2 a week. However, when I ask him out to dinner he makes up excuses. My ex boyfriend comes by when it is good for him, because I am always avaliable. Well, no longer will I follow his schedule. I know some of you may say this isn't the right approach. But, I think when they insist on playing games, sometimes you have to tip things in your favor. Link to post Share on other sites
Kate Posted September 5, 2004 Share Posted September 5, 2004 this is advice to live by. i have had a horrible experience with my nice ex bf who took me for granted as i did aLLLLLLLLL of the "nice" things. when i did the "bitch" things, he came around like a lost puppy. rediculous, but the true harsh reality of human nature for some. i am done being nice, it has gotten me NO where....however there is a fine line between nice/bitch/playing games. you just have to identify that line and then make your moves accordingly. no matter how nice a guy is, he just doesn't want a girl who is too nice. sad, sorta, when you should be considered enough of a challenge just for being YOU, minus the games. i have just decided to permanently stop calling my bf, who i now consider an ex. i had my last straw and the sad part is by the time he comes running back (which he WILL) i don't know if i will still want him. i don't want to go through this again, and he has shown me no faith that he will change. i can't be a bitch forever, you know.... thanks so much for your post. Link to post Share on other sites
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