Some girls made a comment about height

[Soxfaninfl]

It just sounded like you were under such an assumption. And while I'm supposedly a bit more endowed than my much taller, larger friend, I do believe it's just the luck of the draw for both of us.

 

Guys that are under 6'0 and have an above average penis shouldn't worry about their height so much. Now if your short and have a small dick then you have a double negative against you.

[somedude81]

Ok ok ok - I'm one of THOSE girls who likes the tall men...proportionate though mind you - SOOOOO, having said that - just your height alone would land you at least a first date with ME.

Thanks for posting.

 

That is exactly what a short guy who is struggling with women needs to hear.

 

Thank you for your helpful contribution.

[ScreamingTrees]

Guys that are under 6'0 and have an above average penis shouldn't worry about their height so much. Now if your short and have a small dick then you have a double negative against you.

 

I guess so, but I'm sure that even those guys find loving partners. I'm personally not worried.

[Fallen Petals]

Well, why would the one or two to shoot down a 6'8 guy be superficial, while the majority of girls giving him a first chance because of his height are not? The 6'8 guy doesn't need those girls either, but that doesn't leave him with a large pool of candidates.

 

We all give people an extra edge in our "circles" based on different varying factors. As I said, I wouldn't turn a guy down for not having certain qualities, but having certain qualities might give him an extra edge to catch my attention. Normally I will concentrate on things like his ability to carry on a decent conversation or make me laugh or smile - who is he as a person. However, if I don't have the opportunity to learn about such things, the things that give a guy an extra edge are bound to be slightly more physical in nature - dark hair attracts me more than light hair, blue eyes more than brown, taller vs shorter, linebacker vs stick figure - etc etc etc. As I said, wouldn't turn a guy down for NOT having such traits - but ultimately we still are inclined to personal preferences in some fashion or another. If I go out with a guy who is over a foot taller than me, linebacker thick, beautiful blue eyes and black hair - that does not mean he's getting a second date, or laid, or anything of the sort. We are attracted initially to what we're attracted to...but that doesn't mean that's the end all be all of how we decide our relationships.

[Soxfaninfl]

I guess so, but I'm sure that even those guys find loving partners. I'm personally not worried.

 

Yeah I imagine they do. It's just harder for them to find someone.

[clia]

These girls in my club were talking about a date one of the girls went on. They all asked if the guy she is dating is taller, and all the girls agrred that the guy they will date must be tall. It seems that I cannot find any girl who will date a short guy

 

Yes, height matters to a lot of women, and your height is a disadvantage to you. However, a lot of people out there are disadvantaged in some way when it comes to dating (via looks, personality, income, whatever), so, you aren't alone. However, you do continually make a big deal about it. I see plenty of short guys walking down the street holding hands with girls.

 

Have you taken the advice that given to you on your previous thousands of threads complaining about your height where you were encouraged to pursue women who are either near your height or shorter? Are you doing that?

[ScreamingTrees]

We all give people an extra edge in our "circles" based on different varying factors. As I said, I wouldn't turn a guy down for not having certain qualities, but having certain qualities might give him an extra edge to catch my attention. Normally I will concentrate on things like his ability to carry on a decent conversation or make me laugh or smile - who is he as a person. However, if I don't have the opportunity to learn about such things, the things that give a guy an extra edge are bound to be slightly more physical in nature - dark hair attracts me more than light hair, blue eyes more than brown, taller vs shorter, linebacker vs stick figure - etc etc etc. As I said, wouldn't turn a guy down for NOT having such traits - but ultimately we still are inclined to personal preferences in some fashion or another. If I go out with a guy who is over a foot taller than me, linebacker thick, beautiful blue eyes and black hair - that does not mean he's getting a second date, or laid, or anything of the sort. We are attracted initially to what we're attracted to...but that doesn't mean that's the end all be all of how we decide our relationships.

 

The black hair and blue eyes combo would probably be just as rare as natural blonde hair and blue eyes, honestly. I mostly see brown/blue, or Black/black-brown..

[Fallen Petals]

Guys that are under 6'0 and have an above average penis shouldn't worry about their height so much. Now if your short and have a small dick then you have a double negative against you.

 

Again - that goes into the size matters thinking. It doesn't. If it does then someone is entirely too superficial. By the time a girl is learning his penis size she should be more into him than just his looks, and if a guy is wanting a relationship, that's what matters. Again - it's not the size that counts - it's what you do with it - height included. I have known some men in the lower 5' region who could've easily captured my heart in the right circumstances because every inch of that 5' man was an outstanding person I'd truly enjoy spending time with. And I have no clue how big or small their penis size was. Doesn't matter.

 

Thanks for posting.

 

That is exactly what a short guy who is struggling with women needs to hear.

 

Thank you for your helpful contribution.

 

It's sometimes helpful to hear the thoughts of someone with a personal preference stating that just because it may be what they see as "the perfect poster boy" doesn't mean it's the only type of guy they're going to date. I hear men all the time talking about the ideal cut woman - her height, weight, looks...all those superficial attributes. But that girl doesn't hold a candle to the one they marry whose beauty is lit from the inside out and therefore doesn't fade with age. Same can be said for a man. My opinion of Mr Super Hot doesn't matter really when it comes to dating or finding "the one". If he happens to be tall, bonus for me - but in reality - it does not matter. I'm sure a man who looks for a woman would similarly say "Hey if she's built like movie star it's a bonus, but that's not what makes or breaks if I'll get to know her".

[Fallen Petals]

The black hair and blue eyes combo would probably be just as rare as natural blonde hair and blue eyes, honestly. I mostly see brown/blue, or Black/black-brown..

 

I'm fully aware. I had one boyfriend with black hair and blue eyes, he was over 6' tall and built very well - he was in essence my dream man in many "physical" ways. But notice, he's on the ex list. I married a man with medium dark brown hair and not super dark brown eyes and found I loved every inch of him as well - as I was saying before - personal preference isn't what dictates the outcome, it's just what catches your attention sometimes in an otherwise ultra busy world where we sometimes don't stop and notice things as we should.

[Soxfaninfl]

Again - that goes into the size matters thinking. It doesn't.

 

Size does matter to some women. It may not to you, but it does to some women. My ex GF told me that I had a nice size penis after we had sex for the first time, and she also told me that if I had a small penis then things would not have worked out between us.

[Fallen Petals]

Size does matter to some women. It may not to you, but it does to some women. My ex GF told me that I had a nice size penis after we had sex for the first time, and she also told me that if I had a small penis then things would not have worked out between us.

 

Noting she's an EX. There is always a work-around to the size issue. If there isn't, they always become an ex. I did notice she was satisfied by your size, but the fact she felt so strongly about it that she had to spell it out to you - that speaks volumes for her depth of personality.

[Soxfaninfl]

Noting she's an EX. There is always a work-around to the size issue. If there isn't, they always become an ex. I did notice she was satisfied by your size, but the fact she felt so strongly about it that she had to spell it out to you - that speaks volumes for her depth of personality.

 

She's an ex for other reasons. I felt I couldn't be myself with her, so I broke up with her. It was the best sex of my life. I have to admit. I have to be honest that I was shocked that she said what she said to me after we had sex for the first time, but I was relieved that she was satified. She told me that she had sex in the past with men that were small and wasn't satisfied. You can't fault a person for wanting a specific size if that's what gets them off. For you size isnt a issue, but it is for some.

[somedude81]

 

It's sometimes helpful to hear the thoughts of someone with a personal preference stating that just because it may be what they see as "the perfect poster boy" doesn't mean it's the only type of guy they're going to date. I hear men all the time talking about the ideal cut woman - her height, weight, looks...all those superficial attributes. But that girl doesn't hold a candle to the one they marry whose beauty is lit from the inside out and therefore doesn't fade with age. Same can be said for a man. My opinion of Mr Super Hot doesn't matter really when it comes to dating or finding "the one". If he happens to be tall, bonus for me - but in reality - it does not matter. I'm sure a man who looks for a woman would similarly say "Hey if she's built like movie star it's a bonus, but that's not what makes or breaks if I'll get to know her".

Is it now?

 

How would it look if a woman made a thread where she stated that she worries that she isn't having any success with men because she is obese, and a guy posts about how much he loves skinny women?

[Fallen Petals]

She's an ex for other reasons. I felt I couldn't be myself with her, so I broke up with her. It was the best sex of my life. I have to admit. I have to be honest that I was shocked that she said what she said to me after we had sex for the first time, but I was relieved that she was satified. She told me that she had sex in the past with men that were small and wasn't satisfied. You can't fault a person for wanting a specific size if that's what gets them off. For you size isnt a issue, but it is for some.

 

I'm not arguing that size isn't an issue for some, I'm just pointing out the validity of my previous statements that if it IS that big of an issue, it's a testimony to the shallow nature of the person. You realize it goes just beyond personal preference of size. If it's that important it bleeds into other aspects...that trait of hers - having very strict personal preferences about things people cannot change about themselves and unable to accept them - that's one of the reasons you likely felt you couldn't be yourself around her. So I guess I need to change my wording - does size matter? Yes, to some, I'll give you that. Are those the people you want to surround yourself with?? I guess if you're one of them!!

[JuneJulySeptember]

 

Have you taken the advice that given to you on your previous thousands of threads complaining about your height where you were encouraged to pursue women who are either near your height or shorter? Are you doing that?

 

In his particular case, there is not a plethora of women his height or shorter.

 

And let's face it, short women still like tall guys. My cousin is 5 foot even and she married a guy who is 6'1".

 

Maybe just for ONCE in ALL of these height threads that are posted hundreds of times on this forum and others, there will be one woman who will read this and say...

 

"Damn. Short guys really do have it tough. It is pretty shallow of me to reject guys for that reason. Come to think of it, I know a great guy who is short. Hmmmm."

 

Nah.

[Fallen Petals]

Is it now?

 

How would it look if a woman made a thread where she stated that she worries that she isn't having any success with men because she is obese, and a guy posts about how much he loves skinny women?

 

I've seen it. It happens. There is always someone prettier, thinner, taller, shorter, more perfect, better skin, better hair - if we spend all of our time telling ourselves there aren't those people out there we're lying to ourselves. If we state an insecurity and everyone says there is no basis we become confused and wonder where it came from. There is always a basis, it's where we focus that matters. There will always be women who prefer tall men, and men who prefer thin women, etc - preference is negated by reality though. Is there truly harm in saying - hey, just cause he's hot doesn't mean he's going to win the girl? That's all I was saying - Hey - I'm one of those girls who likes the taller men, but guess what, ultimately it doesn't matter if you're tall or short or what, so don't concentrate on that. Don't refrain from hitting on a girl just because she may like taller men. Don't let that be your self focus when trying to get a girls attention - ultimately she may find she just prefers YOU as YOU are and your height never even came into play.

[clia]

In his particular case, there is not a plethora of women his height or shorter.

 

And let's face it, short women still like tall guys. My cousin is 5 foot even and she married a guy who is 6'1".

 

Yes, his dating pool is smaller. A morbidly obese woman also probably has a smaller dating pool, but I see plenty of them out holding hands with adoring boyfriends. A person whose face is riddled with acne probably also has a smaller dating pool, but I see plenty of them with adoring significant others as well. The point is that he should focus his efforts on women who might be more receptive to dating a man his height. If he's continually going after women who are six inches taller than him, I'm not surprised he's experiencing failure.

 

Maybe just for ONCE in ALL of these height threads that are posted hundreds of times on this forum and others, there will be one woman who will read this and say...

 

"Damn. Short guys really do have it tough. It is pretty shallow of me to reject guys for that reason. Come to think of it, I know a great guy who is short. Hmmmm."

 

Nah.

 

I did say in my post that being short is a disadvantage. Height does matter to many women. But he's not the only man on the planet who is at some disadvantage when it comes to dating. No one is perfect. His disadvantage just happens to be height, and he is so focused on it that he ignores everything else. If he makes a boatload of money, a lot of beautiful women will be very willing to ignore his height.

[PJKino]

Most women will want a guy taller than her. Height does matter. Luckily, there are lots of women who are 5'4 or below though. (5'4 is the average height for women in the US) For any guy who is arond 5'5 Id recommend dating girls who are 5'2 or 5'3. I know several short guys with these heights in their girlfriends

 

Some women may want several inches taller if they wear heels...I dont wear heels so any guy 5'5 or above is fine by me

 

Im only between 5'7 and 5'8 and the few women whove shown any interest in me have been women around my height maybe na inch or two taller

 

ive foudn the shorter ones and average from like 5'2-5'5 have been the most harsh about my height and called me short

 

Plus you have the whole heels thign where god forbid a women isnt towered over by a man in 5 inch heels

 

As ive said women are pretty harsh on short men

 

https://twitter.com/heightismwatch

[Jane2011]

Among my female friends, the consensus seems to be "huge bonus" if a guy is tall, but about 1/2 are happy to date someone not all that tall (or shorter).

 

One friend of mine routinely likes really average-looking, sometimes shorter than her guys. But when she dated this guy who was 6'3" (and she is 5'8"), she kept going on and on about how she loved his height and how it's nice to look up at him, etc. She's pretty much like a number of other female friends I have. They don't openly discriminate, but they will rave when a guy is tall...

[Palominas]

The sweet spot for height is anywhere between 5' 10" and 6' 3".

I kind of think you're right on that sweet spot being there. Oddly, I even try to say I'm shorter than I really am.

Ironically, I'm also attracted to smaller women 5' - 5'7". I've met some 6'+ women and I haven't been as attracted to them.

Also, everyone that's saying that every guy has some sort of disadvantage is spot on. I still think it's personality that matters most. Although, I think women have become a lot more superficial over the past decade or so. While some women give guys a chance just because of their height, there are a lot that won't for the same reason. Again, my experience has been that many women are intimidated by my height and feel a bit uneasy when I approach, which makes my job that much more difficult (I'm sure something similar is true with shorter folks.)

[PJKino]

Among my female friends, the consensus seems to be "huge bonus" if a guy is tall, but about 1/2 are happy to date someone not all that tall (or shorter).

 

One friend of mine routinely likes really average-looking, sometimes shorter than her guys. But when she dated this guy who was 6'3" (and she is 5'8"), she kept going on and on about how she loved his height and how it's nice to look up at him, etc. She's pretty much like a number of other female friends I have. They don't openly discriminate, but they will rave when a guy is tall...

 

Im glad youve contributed in making us short guys feel even worse congrats:laugh: great shell settle for a short guy while admiring and getting wet over tall men

 

We realize how much women worship height

Edited March 6, 2013 by PJKino

[Sun Devil]

So far, I have recieved a dozen rejections this semester. I have talked to dozens of girls, but only ask them out if they dont mention anything about their boyfriend. To the people who say I am not confident, I am able to approach women who I dont know on a regular basis. I keep hearing conflicting arguments on these threads about how important height is. If it really is my height, then there is not much I can do. I have been working on my personality and expanding my social circle, but nothing works. I ask out women who are both shorter and taller than me, but nothing works

[Fallen Petals]

OKOKOK - so there was this short guy who used to use it to his advantage. I am 5'4" (maybe a hair under) and he was about chest level to me. ALWAYS hugged me and his head was cuddles smack dab between his "favorite pillows". I wasn't the only girl he ever did this with. He was short, yes, but he was hilarious, self confident, and almost always had a date on Saturday night. I was 18 and he was 32 - he never did ask me out and I usually have gone with a general 10yr cut off for the most part, but for him I likely would've made the exception. By the time he got around to possibly wanting to take me out I had a bf. So there ya go - short guy, always had dates, and he wasn't the best looker in the world. He just had the charisma. I'm not saying short guys don't get the bum wrap, just like heavy girls or too tall girls or heavier guys or too tall guys, or scrawny guys/girls...blah blah blah - it's out there and yeah it sucks - but I'm saying DON'T make it your focus or it will always be the hurdle you cannot beat. I feel bad for Vin Diesel - he is OMG so hot but he is so self conscious about his height he wears lift everywhere he goes because he's short. So I get it - if a guy like him worries, then yeah the rest of you will too - but there ARE girls out there who like short guys, and there ARE girls out there who will date you regardless of height.

[PJKino]

Wow you women are such forgiving non shallow creatures you actually know a short guy or two who gets women how insipirational

[Revolver]

Women being attracted to taller men does not happen on a conscious level. A short guy who knows Karate is obviously more than capable of filling the role of a protector but his skill does not make him more attractive, the same way a bigger mans physique does.