Some girls made a comment about height

[Jane2011]

With all due respect, I doubt that the guys you're describing would necessarily want or need your "respect"..

 

I suppose you are right, lol...

[PJKino]

And yeah, I definitely don't want to make short guys feel better.

 

I've come across too many with a huge chip on their shoulder.

 

Mostly online, I guess.

 

Yes because all short men are exactly the same..i guess you feel the same about races and ehtnicities as well

[PJKino]

I just made the cut off by an inch!

 

I asked my girlfriend if she would have said yes to my date if I was her height or less. She said "probably not" :| I guess I understand. If she was overweight I wouldn't have asked her.

 

Which is why i dont approach many women im rejected before i approach because of my height

[JuneJulySeptember]

I just made the cut off by an inch!

 

I asked my girlfriend if she would have said yes to my date if I was her height or less. She said "probably not" :| I guess I understand. If she was overweight I wouldn't have asked her.

 

No offense, but I find this to be a really depressing indictment of human nature.

[Jane2011]

Yes because all short men are exactly the same..i guess you feel the same about races and ehtnicities as well

 

I quote myself: "Not all short guys have a chip on their shoulder. I respect those that don't. So if there is a group of short guys who have a chip on the shoulder and me or people like me are the cause of it, I don't care much. I just think they're sad."

 

But on here, in these short threads, there's a lot of bitterness and chips on shoulders. So I like to be mean in these types of threads. The bitterness annoys me.

[ThaWholigan]

No offense, but I find this to be a really depressing indictment of human nature.

Why?

 

Honestly, you don't have to care all that much. I mean, I get it, I feel bad about it too sometimes, but acceptance hasn't been painful.

[JuneJulySeptember]

Why?

 

Honestly, you don't have to care all that much. I mean, I get it, I feel bad about it too sometimes, but acceptance hasn't been painful.

 

I don't care all that much. I hear it all the time.

 

Let's be honest. People reject each other all the time.

 

But when your wife of 10 years says to you she wouldn't have dated or married you if you were her height, that's bad dude...

 

I'd divorce that person tomorrow. Book it.

[somedude81]

Its girls like you that cause the chip on their shoulders. Who wouldnt have one after experiencing constant rejection over something they cant change

What's funny, is that Jane2011 is a short Asian girl, exactly your height and the kind of girl that you should try to date. But she prefers guys that are 5'10+

[Jane2011]

What's funny, is that Jane2011 is a short Asian girl, exactly your height and the kind of girl that you should try to date. But she prefers guys that are 5'10+

 

Sure do prefer the 5'10"+ guys.

 

And I get them, too.

 

I love that it pisses you off

[Jane2011]

somedude81, my last three boyfriends were 5'11". That makes me very happy, and I'm glad I don't have to settle for a 5'6" guy like you (in particular). Life is good.

[somedude81]

Sure do prefer the 5'10"+ guys.

 

And I get them, too.

 

I love that it pisses you off

Actually it doesn't.

 

If I knew that girls only wanted to date me because I had a penis, I wouldn't be too happy about that. But whatever floats your boat

[KraftDinner]

Actually it doesn't.

 

If I knew that girls only wanted to date me because I had a penis, I wouldn't be too happy about that. But whatever floats your boat

 

True, may not be very flattering. Especially with a lot of white guys having the mistaken impression that Asian chicks are...eager to please, shall we say.

 

Not saying that's fair. I'd just wonder, is all.

[Untouchable_Fire]

My H is 5'7".

he has had a lot of partners....

 

Must be the roofies.

[hinatticus]

Yay, a 5'10" woman just messaged me calling me cutie. Maybe she was calling me that cuz I'm short;(

 

Seriously sun devil. You gotta give this short stuff a rest. Maybe your personality sucks.

[Sun Devil]

My personality offline does not suck. I am in a group therapy that is supposed to improve social skills. The other people said that I am fun to be with and easy to get along. I know that my personality is not bad since I never had a girl slap me or get angry at me. I am even able to make many girls laugh, but it still does not work, but I know that it is not my personality.

[Jane2011]

Actually it doesn't.

 

It does piss you off. You wouldn't spend so much time ranting about it if you didn't. Honestly, even short guys who are good-looking don't appeal to me all that much. I met a really, really handsome one about a year ago who was 5'6" and briefly considered him, but then thought "nah, too short." So don't get the idea that you can "make up for it" by being great in other ways. You can't. Lots of women don't care how smart or handsome you are; you're just a short guy.

 

If I knew that girls only wanted to date me because I had a penis, I wouldn't be too happy about that. But whatever floats your boat

 

Funny. Not all men have wanted to date me. Not even close. I kinda doubt that guys would date anything thing. Not even you would, so you know that's not true.

 

Anyway, you seem to spend so much time trying to get me to feel bad for liking taller guys over guys your height. It's not ever going to change. I just don't like short guys like you. And, to be clear, 1) I don't care if you're sad, 2) I don't care if you die alone, 3) I don't care if you cry yourself to sleep at night longing for a woman's touch. I think you deserve it

[Jane2011]

True, may not be very flattering. Especially with a lot of white guys having the mistaken impression that Asian chicks are...eager to please, shall we say.

 

Not saying that's fair. I'd just wonder, is all.

 

You're absolutely right. I'll have to consider that seriously tonight while I'm having sex with my tall boyfriend. I will definitely fret about this notion

 

p.s. Most of my boyfriends have not been white.

Edited March 7, 2013 by Jane2011

[ltjg45]

Jane2011 just shows yet another example of women being shallow.

 

Hell, I prefer white females over black females (and I'm black) and I wouldn't go so far as to degrade others she doesn't want for her own entertainment.

 

While I refuse to lump every woman under this category, I'm confident enough to believe that there is far more of these kinds of women out there and far more than I care to deal with. They just don't make their hidden agendas known.

[Jane2011]

Jane2011 just shows yet another example of women being shallow.

 

Hell, I prefer white females over black females (and I'm black) and I wouldn't go so far as to degrade others she doesn't want for her own entertainment.

 

While I refuse to lump every woman under this category, I'm confident enough to believe that there is far more of these kinds of women out there and far more than I care to deal with. They just don't make their hidden agendas known.

 

Yup. Shallow. And mean. And happy

 

Men out there need to know what they're up against.

 

Fortunately, there are some women out there who don't care that much about height, but many do. Ninjapajamas is a guy on here who is frequently trying to flesh out "what men are really thinking" for the women of the board, and this is what I'm trying to do for the men. Some women just don't like short guys. I've liked a few, myself (liked a couple of them a lot even), but not gonna lie, I'd rather have a taller guy. Not too tall, but around 5'10" to 6' is good. And so would a lot of other women prefer a taller guy.

 

I couldn't care less if you think I'm degrading others. I'm not here to coddle your or anyone's else's feelings or sense of "what a good person is" or "what a non-shallow person is."

 

It's nice that you're not a person who would degrade others for your entertaiment. But I am a person who would degrade others for her entertainment

 

Most of the men in this thread don't bother me, actually, though. They're a'ight. somedude81 is a big twerp, though. Or little twerp, I should say. Glad he's alone and sad.

[ltjg45]

I couldn't care less if you think I'm degrading others. I'm not here to coddle your or anyone's else's feelings or sense of "what a good person is" or "what a non-shallow person is."

 

Neither do I. I just want you to keep it to yourself.

 

Is that too much to ask or are you having way too much fun to consider otherwise?

[ltjg45]

It's nice that you're not a person who would degrade others for your entertaiment. But I am a person who would degrade others for her entertainment

 

I find THAT to be a bigger problem than your dislike for shorter males and the only reason why I would even bother responding to you.

[ThaWholigan]

Neither do I. I just want you to keep it to yourself.

 

Is that too much to ask or are you having way too much fun to consider otherwise?

I can't believe she's being so mean actually, I'm shocked - she's not normally like that.

 

However, I'm not surprised. You spend a few months listening to the sh*t and you feel like being mean occasionally.

 

The thing is, it's not like there aren't women who like short guys - most of the ones I know actually do just fine with women. But the reason why is because they ignore their height, they ignore the women who don't like short guys and they carry on - there's no whining on their part, they know they're short and that's it. I have respect for them.

 

If the short dudes here learn to do that and stop taking it so seriously they might have a shot. Forget the "women are shallow" sh*t, we know a lot of women (and men) are shallow - accept it, move on.

[Jane2011]

Neither do I. I just want you to keep it to yourself.

 

Is that too much to ask or are you having way too much fun to consider otherwise?

 

Yes, it is too much to ask that I not speak my opinion about height in a thread about height.

 

If I said things along the lines of "short guys just need to stress other aspects of themselves that would be appealing to women," many of the men would disagree and say that it's still hopeless and useless, or that women who go for shorter guys are still "just settling."

 

So I am, instead, corroborating what they already believe (and which is to an extent true, as well -- that some women just don't want a short guy, even if he's pretty cool in other ways).

 

You act as if this is a revelation. It's not.

[ThaWholigan]

Regarding Sun Devil, I keep forgetting that he is actually 5 foot on the dot - that's actually really short come to think about it, it probably does have a particular effect. Not that it's impossible to overcome - it isn't. But coupled with the Aspergers - he's still attending group therapy for social skills - it will be difficult. He can't change his height so he probably shouldn't dwell on that. What he should do however, is tackle the Aspergers part like I tackled the problems with autism.

 

I have the feeling that while you may be jovial and easy to get along with, you probably struggle with the sexual aspect of socializing. Maybe a dating coach would help you, I don't know. But stick with what you're doing and please (you won't want to hear this but), forget about girls for now. Not for ages, but just for now. Get this part sorted and try to focus on you. Stop telling yourself it's difficult and how you need a girl - you don't need one just yet. Figure out how to augment yourself.

[ltjg45]

Yes, it is too much to ask that I not speak my opinion about height in a thread about height.

 

That is why I do not post my response on said thread. Let those who do respond fight it among themselves.

 

If I said things along the lines of "short guys just need to stress other aspects of themselves that would be appealing to women," many of the men would disagree and say that it's still hopeless and useless, or that women who go for shorter guys are still "just settling."

 

That's their problem. Still doesn't excuse the need to degrade them for your own entertainment.

 

Anger breeds more anger.

 

I can be cold-hearted. I can easily be cruel. I have an anger issue that borders on the lines of a psycho that I'm fighting against every day. Ask my mother and one of my brothers just how much I hated them over the years for the hell and pressure they put me through. Ask my now-dead father how happy I am his carcass is removed from this planet.

 

Even then, I do all I can not to release this anger because it doesn't do me any good at the end and it damn well don't do anyone else around me any good.

 

Instead, we got people like you that revels in such BS strictly for their own benefit. Their own greed.

 

To say it sickens me is an understatement. This is enough to make me want to punch a wall right now in this very home I live in and I'm doing all I can not to do so because I'm not in a position necessary to pay for it.

 

If any female tells me that the only reason why she is dating me is because of my height, I would just walk out and end all contact without saying another word. I would never approach a female because she was born with something that she can not control (and yes, that includes the color of her skin, despite my preferences).