Love4Pain Posted March 6, 2013 Share Posted March 6, 2013 How ever much I love my ex, he is now simply ridiculous in my mind. This month will be the 3rd month since we've been broken up and I laugh to myself at the things he told me while he was breaking up with me. (this was long distance) A) Visiting each other cost too much money, yet: He buys *everything* for the girl he left me for, spending stupid amounts of money on her because she doesn't work enough hours to have her own money. HAH....so ridiculous B) I want to be able to go hang out with my friends, and I get tired of staying at home, (which he was never prevented from doing) yet: All he does is stay inside with his new gf, the only friend he wanted to get out to see was her, and again....all they do is stay inside AND it's embarrassing to take her out anyhow because she acts like someone's 3 year old child. C) The distance, we can't be close: Sorry, can't help that one, but your gf stalks you so much that she is banned from going to your job, where you both work at, when the manager is there, and from what I heard the girl's mother only lets you sleep over on the weekends because you wouldn't leave her house! Oh, and you're 25 and she's 17....so have fun with your oh so better gf that you need to parent instead of date! I feel sorry for them both in a way. It's funny how when we are dating them, they seem to act completely different and then when they dump us and go off with someone else they become ridiculous. Not everyone does, but I'm thinking my ex took the wrong train and is now headed to Nowhereland. It's perfectly fine that you have no more money anymore ex, I'm going on a cruise at the end of August, because I do work and can pay for things myself *Venting session 2 over* 6 Link to post Share on other sites
mammasita Posted March 6, 2013 Share Posted March 6, 2013 The funny thing is - they were probably just as ridiculous when they were with us - we were just so "in love" that it was overlooked. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
GB25 Posted March 6, 2013 Share Posted March 6, 2013 How ever much I love my ex, he is now simply ridiculous in my mind. This month will be the 3rd month since we've been broken up and I laugh to myself at the things he told me while he was breaking up with me. (this was long distance) A) Visiting each other cost too much money, yet: He buys *everything* for the girl he left me for, spending stupid amounts of money on her because she doesn't work enough hours to have her own money. HAH....so ridiculous B) I want to be able to go hang out with my friends, and I get tired of staying at home, (which he was never prevented from doing) yet: All he does is stay inside with his new gf, the only friend he wanted to get out to see was her, and again....all they do is stay inside AND it's embarrassing to take her out anyhow because she acts like someone's 3 year old child. C) The distance, we can't be close: Sorry, can't help that one, but your gf stalks you so much that she is banned from going to your job, where you both work at, when the manager is there, and from what I heard the girl's mother only lets you sleep over on the weekends because you wouldn't leave her house! Oh, and you're 25 and she's 17....so have fun with your oh so better gf that you need to parent instead of date! I feel sorry for them both in a way. It's funny how when we are dating them, they seem to act completely different and then when they dump us and go off with someone else they become ridiculous. Not everyone does, but I'm thinking my ex took the wrong train and is now headed to Nowhereland. It's perfectly fine that you have no more money anymore ex, I'm going on a cruise at the end of August, because I do work and can pay for things myself *Venting session 2 over* Uhhh isnt that stagitory rape????? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Love4Pain Posted March 6, 2013 Author Share Posted March 6, 2013 I would think so, but my ex and his new gf live in england, and the legal consenting age is 16. If their parents and job all know they are together then I don't think they care much as long as both people are over 16 =\ I still think that age gap is pretty ridiculous since the girl isn't even an adult, or mature. Link to post Share on other sites
gravi1 Posted March 6, 2013 Share Posted March 6, 2013 I can be sure he is already contemplating his way back to you. I went out with someone 12 years younger once, sometimes I wanted to strangle her, her behavior was sometimes just so unpredictable it drove me insane, the sex was energetic though. In this case, a person that young is still growing mentaly and physicaly, they do not have the needed life experience and cognitive ability to make rational decisions about love and live, that is why they are still kids at 17-wether that law doesnt see that, man I tought people that old its just ridiculous, come to think of it. Good for you, find a man and leave him to raid the cot Link to post Share on other sites
Author Love4Pain Posted March 7, 2013 Author Share Posted March 7, 2013 Lol. Sometimes I'd like to think he would get some common sense back, but the way he is going I'm pretty sure he's going to keep riding that easy train until the conductor kicks him off...if she ever does. I don't think their sex would be energetic in this case, my ex was the girls first and I doubt she knows what she's doing lol. I think I recall my friend saying "Yeah he told me that she has no idea what to do" hah. While we were together my ex was great, but I'm tired of guys that seem great and completely into you, and then find a reason to dump you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Love4Pain Posted April 4, 2013 Author Share Posted April 4, 2013 My ex is still ridiculous but I kind of feel bad for him now...in a "hm you are kind of getting what you deserve" sort of way. I gained a mutual friend through my ex before we broke up, and earlier she informed me through screen shots of text conversations that my ex's new girl friend dropped her phone into water, for the second time, as well as the Nintendo DS that were both bought for her, by my ex since the girl doesn't have any of her own money... Hm, so once again all this so called money that you were anticipating having to spend on me for plane tickets (one lame excuse you tried to give me for breaking up), is now just going down the drain on your new girlfriend....oh....I laughed, and so did my friend. I feel like karma is getting to kick my ex in the bum a little bit. I feel bad, but also don't at the same time. Link to post Share on other sites
blindhope Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 Not only you realize how ridiculous the ex is, but how lucky we are to be away from that train wreck. My 25 yr old gf left for a 17ish boy. Because of complete bs reasons that even her friends and family called completely untrue and minimal. But she left for him and lied to herself. Just like in your situation they come up and scrap together what ever lies they tell themselves to rationalize their real motives. But I agree, when your head clears and you see them for what they really are.... there's a moment of relief. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
WhoreyBull Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 It'll feel especially better when you realize people generally fall head over heals for people of similar mental capacity. Seems like until recently you were the one dating the 17 year old 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Love4Pain Posted April 5, 2013 Author Share Posted April 5, 2013 Haha, possibly. While I was dating him I might have been less aware of just how immature he was, or he did a good job of using my maturity level to balance his own a bit more. It still stings a little to think of your SO choosing a teenager over an adult their own age...sigh. Link to post Share on other sites
blindhope Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 Haha, possibly. While I was dating him I might have been less aware of just how immature he was, or he did a good job of using my maturity level to balance his own a bit more. It still stings a little to think IPof your SO choosing a teenager over an adult their own age...sigh. Stings is definitely true. What can a druggie teen with no job, no education, criminal record offer that she runs off. But in they end maybe its that they need someone than van feel superior over. And that always makes for a good relationship, making sure your better that the other haha. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Love4Pain Posted April 5, 2013 Author Share Posted April 5, 2013 Yeah. I commented on your post about your situation. If your ex has any type of common sense, I think after her "new relationship" drug wears off she may realize she did something stupid. But you know, at that point you'll be in a better place and anyway, if they could make those kinds of crazy decisions to begin with, who knows what else would have happened with the two of you down the road. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
The edge Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 Yep, you're done venting and you're better off without him! 25 dating a 17 year-old!!! What's next? 10 years old! lol! stupid world! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Compromize Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 The funny thing is - they were probably just as ridiculous when they were with us - we were just so "in love" that it was overlooked. Lol so very true! The crap that I put up with, the Hippocratic nature of our relationship that I for some reason accepted, the utter lack of compromise on her part, makes me feel like a fool for putting her on the pedestal that I did. She was so "perfect" when we were in love and together that I actually accepted the fact that I KNEW she was less than truthful about things with me as the way it had to be to stay with her. <facepalm> Link to post Share on other sites
CorridorE Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 (edited) Wow, thanks for posting this OP! It made me think about the things my ex said during the breakup and how utterly ridiculous they were as well... * The distance was too great (He's stationed in NC, I live in MI) Yet after he broke up with me, he immediately got a new girlfriend... who lives in Michigan! * He admitted to cheating on me in the past and said he needed time to "become a better person" and "figure his s**t out" before being involved with anyone again. Again, new girlfriend in under a month. * He said he didn't have anything there to remind him of me. Ha! We texted/called everyday, skyped every weekend, I sent him tons of pictures, and I got him a personalized blanket to sleep with to remind him of me every night. * Told me he wanted to either get married or breakup (something I didn't feel ready for yet.) Well that's comforting... so you love me so much you want to marry me, but are threatening to break up at the same time? How do you figure that?? * Said he didn't want to keep anyone tied down. And again... new gf lives in my hometown... Ughh, he was horrible with the lies... Edited April 7, 2013 by CorridorE Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 (edited) Are dumpers just bat shyte crazy? Hypocrites?![ QUOTE=CorridorE;4769776]Wow, thanks for posting this OP! It made me think about the things my ex said during the breakup and how utterly ridiculous they were as well... * The distance was too great (He's stationed in NC, I live in MI) Yet after he broke up with me, he immediately got a new girlfriend... who lives in Michigan! * He admitted to cheating on me in the past and said he needed time to "become a better person" and "figure his s**t out" before being involved with anyone again. Again, new girlfriend in under a month. * He said he didn't have anything there to remind him of me. Ha! We texted/called everyday, skyped every weekend, I sent him tons of pictures, and I got him a personalized blanket to sleep with to remind him of me every night. * Told me he wanted to either get married or breakup (something I didn't feel ready for yet.) Well that's comforting... so you love me so much you want to marry me, but are threatening to break up at the same time? How do you figure that?? * Said he didn't want to keep anyone tied down. And again... new gf lives in my hometown... Ughh, he was horrible with the lies... Edited April 7, 2013 by Sugarkane Link to post Share on other sites
Author Love4Pain Posted April 7, 2013 Author Share Posted April 7, 2013 I think if they were crazy it would make more sense when they told us these stupid things. At least in my experience, and probably in Corridor's too, they tried to force a reason to break up with us because there wasn't a real one, so the things they told us were the reasons to break up are ridiculous excuses. If they found someone "new and better" then they are trying to pull reasons out of their bums because they are so worked up over this new person, and in blindhope's case, as well as mine, the new person isn't even better. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Love4Pain Posted April 18, 2013 Author Share Posted April 18, 2013 Well, so a couple of days ago my friend decided to tell me that she thinks my ex and his gf may break up. I am pretty much at the stage where I don't care what he does with his life, he dropped me at the drop of a hat for this girl and I know he hasn't done any personal growth whatsoever. I don't take anything for a grain of salt with him and what may or may not happen, but it is rather funny, if true. The girl I think likes a lot of attention, and does certain things to pull sympathy from people but according to my friend the reason why she thinks they may break up is because the girlfriend is now moving an hour away because she has "home troubles". Hm, so let's review...My ex was with me long distance, after 6 mo of knowing me ( 3 dating) he ended it for the local teenage girl because I was too far away, then after 4 mo of being with local girl she creates some kind of drama and now "has" to move away..... Lol. It would be interesting to see how that plays out. The sad and still ridiculous part is not that she's potentially moving, it's that according to my friend he told her something like, he might consider moving to be closer to the gf because he has nothing keeping him here....wth...what in that sentence says anything about you actually caring for someone enough to move? All it says to me is that you don't want to be single now that you have a sexfriend -_- I don't know who I fell in love with, but I'm certainly glad I didn't see this side of him during our relationship, sheesh... Link to post Share on other sites
CorridorE Posted April 27, 2013 Share Posted April 27, 2013 (edited) I think if they were crazy it would make more sense when they told us these stupid things. At least in my experience, and probably in Corridor's too, they tried to force a reason to break up with us because there wasn't a real one, so the things they told us were the reasons to break up are ridiculous excuses. If they found someone "new and better" then they are trying to pull reasons out of their bums because they are so worked up over this new person, and in blindhope's case, as well as mine, the new person isn't even better. Just want to say that is deffinately the case with my ex as well, with the new gf not being better. My ex's new gf: *BARELY finished high school, passing with Ds in most of her classes *Was known around school as being a compulsive lier and attention wh*re (I went to high school with her) including lying about having cancer to get sympathy. *Goes to a community college (which is fine, not bashing that in itself at all, although in comparison I go to one of the best colleges in the state), and failed two classes this past semester *Has never been able to keep a job and is currently working as a dishwasher in a coffee house (and I heard from a guy friend who also works at the shop that everyone kinda hates her there because she acts dumb/bitchy) *And honestly she kinds looks like me, only she doesn't have my thin, in-shape figure... also, he didn't start talking to her until after we were already broken up, and I think he's only with her now because he got lonely Ughh sorry, just had to get that out. I don't get him at all... he's done a complete 180 but it's not my problem anymore(: Edited April 27, 2013 by CorridorE 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Love4Pain Posted May 1, 2013 Author Share Posted May 1, 2013 Nothing wrong with getting it out! We all need to sometimes. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Love4Pain Posted June 1, 2013 Author Share Posted June 1, 2013 Hmm been a while, sadly I don't check this forum as much as I did when everything happened. My ex is still with the gf that he doesn't care about, has possibly cheated on her more than once since being together with her, and my friend who is a lesbian is contemplating sleeping with him because she hasn't had any for a while... It makes me so sad and angry at the same time, I can't believe I loved this person, who knows how my life would be been if we'd stayed together and how many people he may of cheated on me with. I can't even believe my friend is actually thinking about using him for a one nighter considering she knows everything that he's done and how he acts.... I am glad that I have been able to realize what kind of person he is and how much better I am without his type of relationship, I just don't understand people anymore. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mfleck91 Posted June 1, 2013 Share Posted June 1, 2013 (edited) This annoys the s**t out of me. My ex left me saying she wanted someone who would be more social and "have more fun". All she does now is sit at this new guys apartment all day and do nothing. She also suddenly likes the type of music she used to hate because this new guy likes it. She has picked up several habits from the guy she left me for that she used to completely disregard or even hate. It makes no sense and pisses me off. Oh ya, she also said she needed time to be single and figure out what she wants, but that was a lie considering she left me for someone else Edited June 1, 2013 by mfleck91 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ddlovexx Posted June 1, 2013 Share Posted June 1, 2013 (edited) Wow, it's ridiculous how much I relate to this. Mine was always too tired to go out and yet he's constantly out with her... as per the 100 pics they take (something he never did with me.) He never had any money despite working 60+ hours a week and while still living with his parents? He couldn't buy my beers or take me to dinner? BS alert. I know he's taking good care of this girl. He "hated facebook" but reactivated it for this girl and blocked me. He said he needed to be alone for a while to figure things out.. 3 days later with a new girl proved that was a lie and he just needed a way out. The new girl is younger than me too, and according to friends not very good looking. Oh and she also lives even farther from him than I do.. and he complained about the half hour drive. He never made time for me, never made me feel special... and both my guy and girl friends say he seemed shady from the start. I guess when you're in love you're just blind... these boys are stupid, we need men. Edited June 1, 2013 by ddlovexx 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mfleck91 Posted June 1, 2013 Share Posted June 1, 2013 Wow, it's ridiculous how much I relate to this. Mine was always too tired to go out and yet he's constantly out with her... as per the 100 pics they take (something he never did with me.) He never had any money despite working 60+ hours a week and while still living with his parents? He couldn't buy my beers or take me to dinner? BS alert. I know he's taking good care of this girl. He "hated facebook" but reactivated it for this girl and blocked me. He said he needed to be alone for a while to figure things out.. 3 days later with a new girl proved that was a lie and he just needed a way out. The new girl is younger than me too, and according to friends not very good looking. Oh and she also lives even farther from him than I do.. and he complained about the half hour drive. He never made time for me, never made me feel special... and both my guy and girl friends say he seemed shady from the start. I guess when you're in love you're just blind... these boys are stupid, we need men. That part about being too tired to do anything applies to my ex as well. It's probably the one that bothers me the most Link to post Share on other sites
Author Love4Pain Posted June 11, 2013 Author Share Posted June 11, 2013 Yeah, sometimes they tell you one thing and clearly they are doing the opposite of what they "wanted", they think they are getting some awesome new relationship and we're just the collateral damage. I don't know if it will help me any but my ex very recently told me realized how he completely messed up a good relationship he had (he's single now, he broke up with the girl last week after 5 or 6 months) and he is regretful for the things that he did. However my lesbian friend did sleep with him 2 or 3 times since she mentioned it to me, which was like stabbing me in the back. Life goes on. Link to post Share on other sites
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