Ajvd1 Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 So I am basically speechless...found out Saturday that I am being cheated on for a third time. This time with his co-worker. Who I happen to be in alot of the same social functions with. Awesome. I give up my A to do the right thing. And for what. We have been separated for seven days. No sleep, cant eat...toying with the idea of calling xMM ef it I am single now. May as well. Irrational. Yup. Do I care? Nope. Link to post Share on other sites
stevie_23 Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 I'm so sorry about this. Did you ONLY break up your A to try to salvage your marriage? Or were there other reasons? WOULD you consider actually calling your ex-MM? Would he leave HIS marriage for you now? Or would that not help you at all in the long run if there were other reasons contributing to the breakup of the affair? Are you really single? Or are you going to try to work on the marriage (again)? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 So I am basically speechless...found out Saturday that I am being cheated on for a third time. This time with his co-worker. Who I happen to be in alot of the same social functions with. Awesome. I give up my A to do the right thing. And for what. We have been separated for seven days. No sleep, cant eat...toying with the idea of calling xMM ef it I am single now. May as well. Irrational. Yup. Do I care? Nope. Don't call xMM. Just take care of yourself. Don't get involved with any guy for a while until you're in a better place. Going back and forth, then back to your exMM is only going to cause more stress and drama in your life. Be alone and heal. Seven days of being single isn't that long to go off and start looking else where. Spend time with good women friends and family, keep busy and be independent. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stevie_23 Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 I just wanted to say that I was in NO way implying that I think contacting the ex-MM would be a good idea. I just wanted to find out more information just in CASE there was a very small chance it might be, that's all. Link to post Share on other sites
underwater2010 Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 Sounds like you both need to either work on the marriage or just give it up and divorce. Neither one of you know how to stay faithful to one another. You have been dealt a crap hand...it is time for you to fold. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
spice4life Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 So sorry this is happening to you. We are here to listen when your ready to talk. Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 So I am basically speechless...found out Saturday that I am being cheated on for a third time. This time with his co-worker. Who I happen to be in alot of the same social functions with. Awesome. I give up my A to do the right thing. And for what. We have been separated for seven days. No sleep, cant eat...toying with the idea of calling xMM ef it I am single now. May as well. Irrational. Yup. Do I care? Nope. ((((((Ajvd))))))) I am so sorry! First off, remember take care of you, drink plenty of water, limit the alcohol it will only make it worse, and be gentle with yourself. You are going through a lot emotionally. In regards to contact xMM, I think right now I would put that on the backburner. You know that thought is really just a ping ponging response to the hurt you have just been dealt. It is most likely a bandaid that will still hurt when it gets ripped off. He can't make you feel better about all of this, at least not more than momentarily. As hard as it is, right now it may just be best to . . . be. Just be in the moment, ride these waves and try and wait it out until you get your feet under you and aren't making purely emotional and adrenaline filled response. Can you get into therapy? Journaling will help. I think getting a handle on your marriage and figuring things out with your spouse and what you want in life should be your focus. Sorry, hon ((((((())))))))))) Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ajvd1 Posted March 13, 2013 Author Share Posted March 13, 2013 Sorry didnt mean to go awol! Its been one hell of past nine days! Here is the skinny I ddi not contact MM. My H didnt actually physically cheat. The messages I read between him and the person were taken out of context. But they were still wrong regardless. Instead of busting an A I stopped if before it could even gain enough steam to turn into one. I finally came clean to H about what I had done. I expected that to be our last conversation with exception to kids and who moves where and takes what. He actually acted way different. He said he only has himself to blame (totally insane!). He says what else would he expect me to do after how bad of a partner he has been. He says he is willong to do anything to make this work. He suggested counseling. We are living separately right now. I gave him alp MM info. He contacted him and like the pussy he is texted back saying his W found out and they split up and he moved far far away. All judging by fb are totally false. My H wants me to contact his W but I wont. I figurd he should be the one to tell her and it is not our place. H is trying to understand that. I am still reeling but I think I now have xMM out oc my system. I truly think he prayed on my weakness and I stupidly let him. He is such a scared lil boy that he cant even deal with my H's confrontation without lying. Ugh anyways I have lost 14 lbs in the past nine days. So turned out to be a lovely lil diet and I built a tolerance back up for an old friend named Vodka. But trying to be positive and perhaps this is what H and I needed to finally clear the air and start over. Sorry for typos on the cell. Link to post Share on other sites
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