dirtysweet Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 In the past six months I have had some awful problems with cyberbullying. I know the simple answer is to just leave the websites where people are doing this, but it's a thing that's pretty hard for me to do. Before I went to a website where people harassed me constantly on a daily basis. I can't explain why I kept logging on. I think it was just the fact that I was very depressed and wanted to be accepted--and obviously I never got that acceptance. Now I am back in a healthy place mentally, but a specific person from that website continues to harass me on a new website I'm on. People actually ask me if he and I were in a relationship, because he acts like an angry ex-boyfriend. It's very strange to me because it seems like he is bent on making me feel like crap. It's hard because I am bipolar and have suicidal thoughts when I get super anxious. I am not posting on that forum right now, but I also have to stop going to the chatroom where some of my e-friends are, because I get harassed by this guy or whoever he has decided to tell my story to (he actually emails people this information). So now I can't even visit the friends and have a fun time in the chat. I know I sound really stupid because I am adult being cyberbullied, it's not the same thing as a teenager going through it. I would never hurt myself due to it, but I still have those suicidal feelings when I get super anxious. It's hard for me to "just log off" when people keep talking about me and won't stop. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 Oh yes... I was heavily involved in a gourmet food chat site. Most of us were professionals in the food-and-wine industry in some fashion so we knew what we were talking about when it came to that subject matter. And there was a faction on the East Coast of the U.S. that didn't like me and began a campaign to make my life miserable. One woman (a rather famous foodie) started spreading massive lies about me. And the site owner believed her and wouldn't allow me to post any responses. It was really ugly and I eventually had to leave the site. Ironic that several years later, the site owner and the woman got into a major tussle in real life and her true colors were shown. I sent a note to the site owner just saying that maybe now I was vindicated and that everything said about me was untrue. Funny how banal it all seems now, but at the time it was quite a little hurricane of gossip in the industry. Be strong and you will be able to move on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author dirtysweet Posted March 7, 2013 Author Share Posted March 7, 2013 That's good to know. I think adult cyberbullying is less talked-about because people are ashamed about it. What gets me is that these people are adults and they're acting this way. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Bito Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 There is most likely another reason why they are bullying you. They might have terrible home lives or lost someone dear to them. You should bitty them not shame them. Those with hate in their hearts suffer. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 Being on that website isn't helping you at all it's bringing anxiety into your life, making you feel bad. Stop going to that site. Those people are idiots and you don't need validation or acceptance from ass.holes! Look outside the box, why is it important to be accepted and have validation from strangers?? Focus on real live people in your life, your family, your friends, neighbours, work collegues and not idiots on some online website. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smittenforbritt Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 I agree with the above. Don't look for validation in any of those communities when the web is SO VAST The good thing about the internet is that there are such a large amount of communities where you can be accepted and feel good about yourself. I would recommend looking at the deeper issue of why you feel you need to be accepted by these people and talk to a professional about it. Whats happening is normal and nothing to be ashamed of, but doesn't need to continue. Good luck! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
DannyMason Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 Most forums and instant messaging clients have a block or ignore feature. Instead of letting this ******* drive you away from sites you like to visit, have you tried ignoring him? Or maybe you could contact site staff about his harassment. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted March 8, 2013 Share Posted March 8, 2013 How did the bully know it was you on a different site? Didn't you change your username? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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