He Makes Contact... And I still love him...

[Scared n Confused]

My Ex and I had a messy break-up in June. It officially ended after I had sent him a drawing of a tattoo he wanted me to draw him with a letter wishing him well and letting him know that I still cared. His friend called me up on my ex's cellphone three days later basically reemed me out and told me he was going to break the phone when he hung up. Then, he hung up on me. I think my ex was laughing in the background. I never called my ex back or had any contact with him since. I could have sworn on my life I never thought I'd hear from him again after that.

 

Last week I got a phone call from my ex. I missed the call. He left me a message playing it cool, wondering how my life was doing. He told me that he appreciated the tattoo and was getting it drawn up to get done. I was with him for a year and I know when he plays it cool and when he means something. His voice took a serious tone when he thanked me for the drawing. He ended the message with hopefully I'll hear from you soon...

 

So I called him back the next evening and left a message. I thanked him for thanking me for the drawing. I told him I hoped everything was well on his end, also, and mentioned that he could phone me back if he wanted when he had some free time. That was Wed. I haven't heard back from him.

 

Here's my problem. I feel better that at least he made peace. I thought he hated me, and I didn't know why. I still love him very much, and think about him all the time. He means a lot to me, enough to TRY and look past what he did back in June.

 

His Birthday is tomorrow, the 6th. I wanted to wish him a Happy Birthday, but I don't want to scare him away again. I'm not sure what his intentions were on calling me... If maybe he woke up the morning after, and felt differently. If he felt guilty, and is trying to take it slow... if maybe he's just plain old *ucking with me. I don't think that's it... but I'm still scared from what happened.

 

I DO know, though, that I'm really scared of getting hurt, again. Of what it might feel like if I do give a call, and I don't get a call back. It's been a tough couple months. Just hearing his voice back-to-normal again was satisfying. When he wanted the relationship, he was very good to me. It all went to *hit when he didn't want it anymore.

 

I'm not sure what he wants now. He's goodlooking enough to get sex pretty easy I'm sure. And why would he suck his pride back after burning the bridge so bad, just to get some with me? He knows I'm not like that, anyway. He knows I wouldn't jump into bed with him.

 

Is there any guidelines on 'hearing back from your ex' etiquette? I really don't want to play games. How I should approach the situation, if I do still love and care about him? I want him to know that I think of him without sending him running.

 

I was thinking of sending him a text message for his birthday maybe... Just so I don't have that fear of possibly getting his voicemail. I'm sure he'll be busy on his birthday, and knowing me and the situation I'd probably take it personally.

 

Should I? Any opinions or advice? Anything would help.

 

If I hang back and do nothing, do you think he may still call? I'M SO CONFUSED!!

 

Thanks so much.

[Laura_soontobemarred]

From what I hear this sounds like a guy who is very immature and is just playing you. From my experience in the past, from a guy of that sort, we did end up breaking it off for good, and it ended it up defiantly for the better.(now I found a man who I will be marrying soon.Someone who is not scared to show his feelings.) All i have to say is that if he loves you he will make the moves 'when he grows up'. If you do not want to wait until then, you should drop the issue, and let him make the efforts to contact you. You should let him know that you will not play his childish games. I am pretty sure that you are better than him, and could find the special one who is ready to cherish you. Believe it or not there are so many more men out there that are mature and loyal.

 

**Word of advice: Do not contact him, play hard to get, let him do the job of contacting you, you deserve it!