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My “Good Guy” fiancé doesn’t know about the “bad boy” in our circle


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conzboneeus

I read first page and was gonna write if I were her boyfriend I'd dump her azz so fast make her head spin. Then I skipped to page 11 and see he did. Didn;t read if she whined or not after but what is wrong with people?

 

Lol, she had guy who turned her inside out over to their condo and the new dude didn't know? I think this was made up story. No one, man or woman is that stupid are they?

 

Wait, I just saw the post above mine. Noooooooooooooooooooo!!!!! Someone get a hold of Matt(?) and tell him to run, don't walk, away from this woman. RUN MATT RUN!!!!!!!!!!

 

And to the woman who is writing this if you are really depressed go hook up with Joe and get bumfu#&ed a few more times might make you feel better. Lol this is good stuff!

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SensitiveTJ
I read first page and was gonna write if I were her boyfriend I'd dump her azz so fast make her head spin. Then I skipped to page 11 and see he did. Didn;t read if she whined or not after but what is wrong with people?

 

Lol, she had guy who turned her inside out over to their condo and the new dude didn't know? I think this was made up story. No one, man or woman is that stupid are they?

 

Wait, I just saw the post above mine. Noooooooooooooooooooo!!!!! Someone get a hold of Matt(?) and tell him to run, don't walk, away from this woman. RUN MATT RUN!!!!!!!!!!

 

And to the woman who is writing this if you are really depressed go hook up with Joe and get bumfu#&ed a few more times might make you feel better. Lol this is good stuff!

 

I wouldn't put it quite as colorfully as this poster, but in essence I agree. I would never tolerate my partner still having contact with someone they used to be intimate with. It's even worse in this situation because it's been hidden for so long, and the two men don't get along anyway.

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I've stopped moping around and I'm going to make things right!

 

First, I want to thank everyone for all the advice.

 

Second, I REALLY want to make clear that Joe is history. Period. So the suggestions that I'm going to run back to him or do him in some reunion closet like somebody suggested IS. NOT. GOING. TO. EVER. HAPPEN. I'm going to do my best to make it up to Matt and get back together. Joe is unfortunate regretttable history. So please stop saying I still have a thing for him. I do not. At this point I can't even imagine what I saw in him in the first place.

 

 

Third, I told my Mom yesterday about Matt and me and why. I've always been close to my Mom and she (and my Dad) really like Matt. Anyway, my Mom told me to apologise to Matt for everything he thinks I did wrong. (She also looked at me disapprovingly whenI told her about Joe because she knows Joe's track record with women. She told me not to tell my Dad because he would flip).

 

My Mom also explained alot about good guys like Matt which is pretty close to what the "pro Matt" people said here. She told me to "make him feel extra special in the bedroom" - more so than I have up to now. I knew all this already but having my conservative Mom say this really hit home.

 

Anyway, I'm not going to let what was a great relationship with Matt just die because of stupid things I've done with with stupid ass Joe. (I am still just so completely pissed at him for needling Matt) .

 

Anyhow, anything can be fixed with the right atitude, right? I'm kinda optimistic today so for starters I'm thinking of trying to see Matt tonight and "make up."

 

I agree with another poster... about not apologizing for your time with Joe.. it was the dishonesty that was the problem...

 

... AND the fact that Matt has a fixation on details past, present, and future that indicate some trust issues. Those are his to deal with, and they were there before this happened.

 

Second... using your body to try and get Matt back won't fix anything. It is more of the same kind of thinking that (maybe) got you involved with Joe.

 

Oh, and the "don't tell Dad".. You know what? I think telling your Dad is exactly what you need to do. Or your mom should. This not telling stuff runs in your family?? Ok.

 

My family is open and honest about everything.

 

... I think you and Matt both have some work to do before you can have mutually enjoyable, trusting, intimate sex again.

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Oh, and the "don't tell Dad".. You know what? I think telling your Dad is exactly what you need to do. Or your mom should. This not telling stuff runs in your family?? Ok.

 

My family is open and honest about everything.

 

This is so true. I'm glad you pointed this out.

 

Her mother is avoiding conflict with her father. OP "omitted" to avoid contact with Joe.

 

Our parents are our models for our relationships, whether we consciously realize it or not.

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This is so true. I'm glad you pointed this out.

 

Her mother is avoiding conflict with her father. OP "omitted" to avoid contact with Joe.

 

Our parents are our models for our relationships, whether we consciously realize it or not.

I second this. I can only hope I am a combobreaker myself :p.

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