Boks Posted September 6, 2004 Share Posted September 6, 2004 Here's the whole story... Through playing an online game, I met a woman who, at the time, was pregnant. This was about 18 months ago, and during that time, we talked off and on, whenever we were both online. Soon, she was telling me about her newborn son, her mother (who also played the game with her), and anything else that was going on. After a while, I started talking more about my real life to her, and we started getting closer as friends; many of you might know what I mean. One day, about 6 months ago, she sent me a message about how her husband was thrown in prison for undisclosed reasons and she was worried about her son, etc. For some reason, I started to see her in a new light. She was lonely, flirtatious, and so was I. We exchanged pictures, and found each other attractive. Our conversations started to get more intimate (and no, not any cybersex), speaking about our own sex lives (or lack thereof), and how bad of a husband she was married to. We also exchanged phone numbers and called each other almost daily. Suddenly, I started finding myself strangely attracted to her. Keep in mind, I'm half the country away from her, West Coast to the Midwest. I've never even entertained the notion of a long distance relationship, much less one this far, but it started entering my mind every time I talked to her. From here, she started to mention how she wanted to leave. Her grandfather "has money", and he would be willing to help her get off the west coast and to wherever she wanted to go. She started entertaining the idea of moving somewhere with me, without my bringing it up. Next thing I know, we're talking about moving in together, dates being discussed, along with other logistics of the situation. Then, less than 2 months ago, her husband got out of prison. She mentioned to me that she had told him he had one week to make amends with her. That if he didn't change himself and the way he treated her and their son, she would move away (my name not even mentioned). Next thing I know, the day comes when he gets out of prison, and all my contact is lost with her. I've talked with her once in the past 2 months, and since then, her phone has been disconnected, she never comes online anymore, and doesn't respond to emails... My question in this long drawn out post, is what do I do now? Do I just give up on her, and figure she made amends and wants nothing to do with me? Or should I contact her mother (who knew about her intentions to move with me) and ask what's going on? Or should I keep trying to contact her until she finally responds, if ever...? Boks P.S. She actually is a member of these boards, and I got here through her, so I"m almost hoping she'll see this too =o) Link to post Share on other sites
uriel Posted September 6, 2004 Share Posted September 6, 2004 Call her mother to ask. You need to know that she's okay. If she is, assume she doesn't want contact with you any longer and is staying in her marriage. I see no reason why you can't ask, since her mother knows. I don't think you'll be able to move on as well without some answers. -- uriel Link to post Share on other sites
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