Author CryForNoOne Posted March 14, 2013 Author Share Posted March 14, 2013 So the real lesson here is "be dishonest". No. Just don't disclose some of that stuff. There are so many things that are red flags on profiles and messages I read: "Needy" - long serious messages before you have any idea who the hell the person is... "Vein"- any of those can you keep up with me BS lines or just showing off, bragging to much. "Rebound' - I'm stunned at how many people talk about a past relationship or how they are on OKCupid because they just had a bad breakup. Run for the hills... "Insecure" - "This is the first time I've ever tried OLD" or "I don't know why I'm here" BS We're all online for the same reason. If you can't even be comfortable about that, how are you ever going to deal with the vulnerability and/or potential humiliation from a real relationship... So whenever I saw a red flag on someone else's profile, i went back to mine and looked for the same thing. And what do you know? I found some and removed them. I still have a small sample size but I feel like my success rate is going up as I tweak my OKC style... Link to post Share on other sites
TheGuard13 Posted March 14, 2013 Share Posted March 14, 2013 Makes sense. I cut about half of it out. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
mortensorchid Posted March 14, 2013 Share Posted March 14, 2013 OLD on OKCupid? Well, quite honestly, for me it's been rather useless. I've been on POF and OKC (currently on OKC), but I don't have much success with it. Honestly, I did have more success with POF but those on POF seem to be of a lower class than OKC. My OKC experiences have been one of four things: 1) Someone sends an "I liked your profile" message to you, you respond something like "Thanks, how are you today?" And you never hear from them again. 2) Long term correspondance - You just share things like "Hi how was your day?" type messages to one another and then eventually one gets tired of the other and you stop communicating. 3) Someone sends an ILYP message to you, you get to some back and forth "how was your day/weekend/evening" messages to one another, then one day you log on and find that the profile of the person you had been corresponding with no longer exists. 4) You meet 1 in every 75 people who you actually do correspond with, meet for dinner, drinks, etc. then you never hear from them again. The last one I went out with from OKC was this past November. He was such a jerk he literally walked away from me and said "Thanks for the stories". Didn't even shake my hand. Then again, I think I called him out on his fake previous occupation. He said he used to be an FBI agent, so I said "Oh, so you worked for the post office?" He had a blank look on his face, he didn't get it. Just for explination purposes, if you meet a person who is an active duty FBI agent, they are not allowed to tell you what it is that they do so they would say "I work for the government". If you press further and ask "doing what?", they would say they work for a government branch completely unrelated, which most of the time they would say "I work for the post office." I thought he was arrogant and rude even before we were done with the meal quite honestly, this proved to me that he was lying. Ha ha ha ... SO yes, it's depressing, but then again I don't see much to be so happy about in the world of love anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
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