How do I tell my best friend how I feel about him?

[SkylerJean]

I've known my friend for almost five years and I've been desperately in love with him from the first day I met him. I never had enough guts to tell him because I was scared it might ruin our friendship, plus I'm a very shy person and its very difficult for me to show emotion to anyone. He's the only guy I've ever felt this way about. I truly feel like he's my soulmate. It's so hard for me to express myself in this way, so please, bare with me. I feel like I can't hold this back anymore. Like I'm suffocating myself with these feelings and if I don't say something that my heart will explode. The problem is, he has a girlfriend. I know what your thinking. "Stay away from them, leave them alone". And I know I should, but I don't know what else to do. I feel that I need some kind of closure or something to help me heal and move on. I honestly don't ever feel like ill be over him completely. The feelings I have for him are the strongest feelings I've ever felt. I know I'm taking a big risk in telling him now, but I feel that he deserves to know. What do you think? And if I do tell him, how do I do it?

[GB500]

I've known my friend for almost five years and I've been desperately in love with him from the first day I met him. I never had enough guts to tell him because I was scared it might ruin our friendship, plus I'm a very shy person and its very difficult for me to show emotion to anyone. He's the only guy I've ever felt this way about. I truly feel like he's my soulmate. It's so hard for me to express myself in this way, so please, bare with me. I feel like I can't hold this back anymore. Like I'm suffocating myself with these feelings and if I don't say something that my heart will explode. The problem is, he has a girlfriend. I know what your thinking. "Stay away from them, leave them alone". And I know I should, but I don't know what else to do. I feel that I need some kind of closure or something to help me heal and move on. I honestly don't ever feel like ill be over him completely. The feelings I have for him are the strongest feelings I've ever felt. I know I'm taking a big risk in telling him now, but I feel that he deserves to know. What do you think? And if I do tell him, how do I do it?

 

I would suggest that you tell him; not for his benefit but for yours. You will never be able to move on and feel better unless you hear from him that he doesn't like you more than friends. Or he could actually say that he does like you and you could end up together. Either way, you need to tell him to get closure and move on. It will hurt if he turns you down but you will get over it. Telling him won't be easy. I would suggest you do it in writing if you would like. Face to face will be harder. You could write him a Facebook message or an email. Just tell him how you feel; be honest, strong, and brief.

 

I am actually in the same situation. I have feeling for my friend and I have been struggling with it for almost a year. I thought about it a lot and finally came to the conclusion that I won't feel better unless I tell him. I have not done it yet; I am still wondering when would be the right time to send him that Facebook message. I am probably slacking because I am afraid of rejection. But I know for a fact that I will feel better once I do and will be able to put this behind me.