Ava20 Posted March 10, 2013 Share Posted March 10, 2013 (edited) Okay, there is two parts of this question: -I first met my co-worker (we work in two completely different departments) when he was unable to make my salad because there were so many customers. Later on I go back and he STILL didn't make it and he said there were too many customers. He decides to call me to come over when he was done with the salad and he was VERY apologetic. Then he was APOLOGETIC AGAIN when I got there. The next day I went to his dept to find something else to eat and he apologized AGAIN. Then I walked away because I couldn't make up my mind and went back and literally begged me to make me another salad because he felt so bad. Afterwards he started to greet me more enthusiastically and even watched out for me-"I don't want you to slip, I don't want you to get in trouble, etc" I was very touched by his kindness. He was only the guy who held the door open for me and actually acknowledged me while doing so (as cheesy as that sounds). I then called him nice and he completely DENIED it and then said he was sort of nice. There have been other instances where his actions showed me that he was kind, considerate and thoughtful but he obviously doesn't think he's kind. This is where it gets tricky: I am moody so sometimes I don't greet people. He took this personally and greeted me in a much more cold manner. Then one night we started talking and he asked me non-stop questions about my life and greeted me much more happily the next time. Then FINALLY he confronted me and wondered why I don't acknowledge his existence and how he always has to say hi first and then wondered if I thought he was intimidating/creepy. I told him he wasn't. A lot of people say he's overwhelming, pushy, a good worker, can be an ass, weird and off but his actions tell me otherwise. So my first question-I can't tell if he liked me this whole time or regarded me as a friend? I do like him but I've been going through a lot and I am not too sure if I want to date. Sometimes if I asked him to do something for me he refuses and tells me to do it. He doesn't say anything to try to impress me and seems VERY genuine. Second question-The next day after he asked me that question he seemed a little more cold and I am guessing because I didn't give him the answer he wanted to hear. I asked him a question later on and in the middle of the convo he asked if I could see his butt crack because he felt like customers could see it and showed me. I was stunned why would he do that?! Edited March 10, 2013 by Ava20 Link to post Share on other sites
hppr Posted March 10, 2013 Share Posted March 10, 2013 LOL he sounds like me! Guys like that are typically very kind, gentlemanly, but have a lot of energy/come across as 'too focused' or pushy and odd simply because they don't pick up on social queues/body language. Dating a guy like this will probably take a bit of patience on your part simply because he's not going to pick up on your emotional wants/needs...this is the kind of guy that will need everything to be spelled out otherwise he probably won't get it... ALSO this is at work so if it blows up in your face you'll have to see him every day. Hopefully this is a pretty casual work environment so you don't have to take a ration of **** from everyone about dating the office oddball. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ava20 Posted March 10, 2013 Author Share Posted March 10, 2013 LOL he sounds like me! Guys like that are typically very kind, gentlemanly, but have a lot of energy/come across as 'too focused' or pushy and odd simply because they don't pick up on social queues/body language. Dating a guy like this will probably take a bit of patience on your part simply because he's not going to pick up on your emotional wants/needs...this is the kind of guy that will need everything to be spelled out otherwise he probably won't get it... ALSO this is at work so if it blows up in your face you'll have to see him every day. Hopefully this is a pretty casual work environment so you don't have to take a ration of **** from everyone about dating the office oddball. Wow, very spot on! especially the pushy and "too focused" part. You are very good at reading people. Actually we work at grocery store so it's very casual. Do you think that he liked me romantically or as a friend because he's pretty hard to read. He used to make an effort to talk him to me when I walked in his department but ever since I stopped saying hi (again, I am moody) he became a bit cold in his greeting. Every now and then he'll carry a convo is I start it first or go along..and then he gets comfortable and asks me 7373 questions. Link to post Share on other sites
baRx Posted March 26, 2013 Share Posted March 26, 2013 Wow, very spot on! especially the pushy and "too focused" part. You are very good at reading people. Actually we work at grocery store so it's very casual. Do you think that he liked me romantically or as a friend because he's pretty hard to read. He used to make an effort to talk him to me when I walked in his department but ever since I stopped saying hi (again, I am moody) he became a bit cold in his greeting. Every now and then he'll carry a convo is I start it first or go along..and then he gets comfortable and asks me 7373 questions. you know, most people don't have what you have. let the guy get comfortable and ask as many questions as he wants. sometimes, we find that we want to talk to someone but we can't because we're afraid of how they'll react. if you like him, stop acting so moody and just be chill around him. let him ask you stuff. let him talk to you. you may find out how he feels. Link to post Share on other sites
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