hk_1 Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 I was just thinking about a girl from the past who I would say wasted around 7 years of my life, Looking back now; the biggest mistake I made with her was to blindly believe that she loved me as much as I did. Guys its really hard to come to terms with a breakup after 7 years of selflessly loving someone, just to know one fine day that they think they should be given a chance to explore more options. This happened to me and I will sincerely request all people who are in a serious relationship to test the other person to know how serious he/she is about you. I could easily know the intentions of my gf had I been vigilant enough to ask a few simple questions which I never cared to ask.I was certainly not good to myself. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 People can cheat on tests, so where does that leave you ? IMO, Testing the one you love or putting thru a test of any sort without a past history of wrong doing is a passive aggressive form of manipulation. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Thegameoflife Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 People can cheat on tests, so where does that leave you ? IMO, Testing the one you love or putting thru a test of any sort without a past history of wrong doing is a passive aggressive form of manipulation. I agree with this. How do you think a partner who really loves you would feel if they found out you were testing them? They're gonna by like," WTF, you a-hole, WTF is wrong with you?" What your talking about is what people call playing games. Link to post Share on other sites
Darren Steez Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 I was just thinking about a girl from the past who I would say wasted around 7 years of my life, Looking back now; the biggest mistake I made with her was to blindly believe that she loved me as much as I did. Guys its really hard to come to terms with a breakup after 7 years of selflessly loving someone, just to know one fine day that they think they should be given a chance to explore more options. This happened to me and I will sincerely request all people who are in a serious relationship to test the other person to know how serious he/she is about you. I could easily know the intentions of my gf had I been vigilant enough to ask a few simple questions which I never cared to ask.I was certainly not good to myself. You say blindly believe she was in love with you. Sounds to me like a problem with what you believed and more importantly blissfully or willfully ignored just to keep her around. There are often red flags we choose to ignore simply because we're in love and want things to work out. You will know whether someone is committed or not. No need for tests or games. If they are straight up with you, no secrets, no hiding of phones, no GNO where you are not allowed to go etc etc. Problems arise when two people are just not meant to be but continue on, one eventually starts to detach emotionally and things get messy. Link to post Share on other sites
BetheButterfly Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 I was just thinking about a girl from the past who I would say wasted around 7 years of my life, Looking back now; the biggest mistake I made with her was to blindly believe that she loved me as much as I did. Guys its really hard to come to terms with a breakup after 7 years of selflessly loving someone, just to know one fine day that they think they should be given a chance to explore more options. This happened to me and I will sincerely request all people who are in a serious relationship to test the other person to know how serious he/she is about you. I could easily know the intentions of my gf had I been vigilant enough to ask a few simple questions which I never cared to ask.I was certainly not good to myself. I boldened that above, and think that sad to say, many people blindly believe their loved one truly loves them. In my first marriage, I think both he and I were blind and thought we truly loved each other, when really we didn't. I think we were both immature. It took a lot of emotional pain for us to learn that our "love" didn't conquer all. The divorce taught us both a lot about ourselves, what we need to change/improve, and also about what love is not! My ex-husband married again before I did, and I very much hope that he and his wife are happy and truly love each other!!! I am happily married to a wonderful man and we strive to truly love each other! I do think that we accidentally test each other's love for each other in different ways, and when we each pass with flying colors, it does help our Love's roots grow stronger! For example, my husband is a gym freak, and I have accidentally tested his Love by not going to the gym sometimes. I am a very sensitive soul, and he has accidentally tested my Love by saying things that bothered me. However, we are both learning that actions speak louder than words, and that Love is action, not just words or a feeling produced by chemicals. So, I don't think one needs to deliberately test one's loved one to see if he or she truly loves you, but rather I do think that in life, tests come and true love shows its existence through actions!!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
boywonder123 Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 i wouldnt test them, id just simply ask how do you feel about me?. plain and simple. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hk_1 Posted March 11, 2013 Author Share Posted March 11, 2013 (edited) Well I would have rather said," beware of the time waster" rather then using the word (test), Offcourse I do not mean at all to play games with your loved one, No Never. The only reason for opening this thread is to bring people's attention to a fact that most of us completely ignore, When that special one says that he/she loves you and you are the most precious one; you never imagine that he/she is gonna be zapped in a few months / years forever with only memories left behind. Wouldn't this world be a better place for honest people if they only fall in love with someone having similar feelings at the first place? Edited March 11, 2013 by hk_1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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