EC Posted September 7, 2004 Share Posted September 7, 2004 So yeah my bf and I have been in a LDR for about what?....two weeks now. It feels like longer. But so far so good. We speak everyday and e-mail and he's already making plans to come see me in a couple weeks. The first week I freaked out. I got a lil tipsy on Sun. I was just getting jealous over these girls that live in the apartment across from them that are ALWAYS over and hanging out. Called him and told him I couldn't take it and that we should be friends while we still got a long. But he wasn't having it. He told me he loved me and we were going to make it work. Ok So After that little episode I have been doing a lot better and he has too calling me more and telling me he misses me and what not. But now the hurricane is up where he is and he called to say he couldn't call for a while because he only has a cell phone and the power was going out and he couldn't charge his phone or get online w/e. But the air conditioning had broken when he called and those girls were over in bathing suits because of the heat. Ok so my bf, living alone with three single guys...four single college girls in bathing suits over at his apartment...lots of drinks...and the power is out so they are hanging out by candle light....and they have to sleep there because they are scared to sleep alone in their apartment... Am I right for freaking out a lil bit? I mean I know they say have faith and trust your bf but maaaann...This is really hard.. I'm freaking out.... Link to post Share on other sites
Pocky Posted September 7, 2004 Share Posted September 7, 2004 How long is this relationship going to be LD? Link to post Share on other sites
Author EC Posted September 7, 2004 Author Share Posted September 7, 2004 untill March.. Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted September 7, 2004 Share Posted September 7, 2004 Just imagine that the girls are all fugly. We know you're a hotty, so why worry? Link to post Share on other sites
Author EC Posted September 7, 2004 Author Share Posted September 7, 2004 Thank you Papillon! But we have all heard the saying "Out of sight out of mind" They are hot though and they are half naked, half drunk, in my mans apartment. lol I'm just flipping out. I worry too much. I overanalyze and worry too much. But only with him. lol He drives me nuts! and he doesn't even know. But seriously the situation does sound pretty bad I just want reassurance that you guys see how f*cked up the situation is and that I'm not worrying cuz I'm crazy. Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted September 7, 2004 Share Posted September 7, 2004 Think of it this way: If the aircon was back on they'd all be back in their apartments doing their nails. Not that I'm saying your bf isn't hot or anything! I SWEAR! Oh no I worded that all wrong I keep sinking, ignore me Link to post Share on other sites
Author EC Posted September 7, 2004 Author Share Posted September 7, 2004 LOL its ok.. yeah hes hot at least to me I'm just having regular jealousy issues that come with an LDR. I'll be ok. Just neeed to vent. It feels so good to just write it out and let it out. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted September 7, 2004 Share Posted September 7, 2004 Would you jump the guys next door if they were hanging out at your place in their Speedos? Are you trustworthy? Wouldn't you hate it if your bf didn't trust you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author EC Posted September 7, 2004 Author Share Posted September 7, 2004 Yeah I would be he does trust me blindy like he puts it. But it's soo different. I live at home. All I do is go to work and back home. I go out on the weekend sometimes and thats it. He's at college. On his own with temptation in his face 24-7. It's not so much that I don't trust him, I don't trust his friends or those girls. I also don't trust his mind frame when hes had too much to drink. But w/e point is I'm just jealous I just wish I would get over it. I hate this feeling. I cannot control it and so I hate this feeling. Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted September 7, 2004 Share Posted September 7, 2004 A little bit of posessive jealousy is healthy. It's a problem when it turns to distrust. Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted September 7, 2004 Share Posted September 7, 2004 Look EC, they know he's got a woman. And they know this woman will sick some bunnies after them if they f*ck something up. <~~~bunny klan in yo FACE! It's a tough call, but try to trust him. It's a unique circumstance, otherwise, he'd hopefully never be in that situation. got your back. Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted September 7, 2004 Share Posted September 7, 2004 Heh, that was cute Link to post Share on other sites
Author EC Posted September 7, 2004 Author Share Posted September 7, 2004 LMAO Thank you TIKI. I feel so much better!! They just don't know about my secret Bunny Posse. LOL They don't wanna mess with my man if they know whats good for them lol. <~~~Will choke a b*tch lol Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted September 7, 2004 Share Posted September 7, 2004 And besides, if he's all sweaty in his underoos, his balls are prolly stanky anyway. They may be wonderin how you love tha fool. Kidding, of course. Power will be restored in no time, hopefully. Link to post Share on other sites
Author EC Posted September 7, 2004 Author Share Posted September 7, 2004 But I like his staky balls lmao. awe I miss him guys... But yeah they need to cut the power back on quick!! lol Mines too I have no power at my house untill Friday. Then friday another hurricane is coming. Florida is great isn't it? Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted September 7, 2004 Share Posted September 7, 2004 You should go stay with him!!! Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted September 7, 2004 Share Posted September 7, 2004 It's not so much that I don't trust him, I don't trust his friends or those girls. Pure rhetoric. That's what people say when they don't trust someone, but don't like the sound of saying it. You either trust him, or you don't. If you do, you owe it to him to give him the benefit of the doubt. Link to post Share on other sites
Trager Posted September 7, 2004 Share Posted September 7, 2004 k i trust my boyfriend, my ld boyfriend, but if 4 half naked girls where in his room with drinks and no power.. um i think i'd freak. I freak when he goes to the movies with 2 friends and one is a girl. Just cus i'm jelous. i know i need to work on it, u only have till march i got till next year this time. but ya put ypurself in his place with the love u feel. what world u do? see that kinda freaks me out cus of the auchohal and darkness thing. But if he really loves u just think, when this is over... u will have tons more trust and lots less worries and a good laugh. Personally, i'd gather every penny and get there lol even tho its imposible lol. Plus there probly just guna get jelous of u! Link to post Share on other sites
honey2005 Posted September 8, 2004 Share Posted September 8, 2004 bunny klan in yo FACE! I agree with the others, don't worry about it. That's easy for me to say though, but if I was in your situation I would probably be a little upset, too:p. So you're not crazy because you feel this way, just try to remember Wouldn't you hate it if your bf didn't trust you Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted September 8, 2004 Share Posted September 8, 2004 Originally posted by tikibrandy <~~~bunny klan in YO FACE! Heh..yeah...it's one of those posts that makes you think "damn, wish I had written that!" Link to post Share on other sites
Author EC Posted September 8, 2004 Author Share Posted September 8, 2004 Thank you everyone for your post. I hate being jealous I really do but I can't help it. Today I'm doing worse lol I went out with his brother and his brothers girlfriend thinking I would feel better. I felt 10x worse. His brother resembles him and I was lonely and felt like the third wheel and when I called my bf he was at some party and I couldn't hear him and we kept playing phone tag and I just gave up and went home and went to sleep. And now it's all dark and gloomy outside and raining and its not making things easier. I hate being in a slump. And then I get to work and since I'm always the life of the party everyone things I'm dying or something because I haven't said a joke or I'm not smiling. Then they keep asking whats wrong and I say nothing to be nice but I really want to scream LEAVE ME ALONE. And then that cheery cheery co-worker(who would usually be me) is driving me insane and I want to punch her in the face but I can't. LOL yeah I'm having one of those days. Link to post Share on other sites
lexnmike4enomore Posted September 8, 2004 Share Posted September 8, 2004 Don't you worry Eternally...i would be acting the same way. You trust him but you don't trust other people. I don't think you are over reacting AT ALL. I would be biting my nails until the day he came back. But you also have to know that what you don't know wont hurt you. If something were to happen.....(sorry to be blunt) but would you have anyway of finding out? Thats what might be going through his head. Or is he the kind of person that would tell you afterward that something happened. Hang in there and try to make unexpected trips to surprise him. Unless you don't want to find something. But i feel you...my BF went off to college and...ya know same stuff....but i never found out anything so.........remember this.......... KNOWLEDGE IS POWER! Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted September 8, 2004 Share Posted September 8, 2004 I strongly disagree, that's just paranoia.....distrustful thoughts put into action. Not good, and not respectful. Link to post Share on other sites
Author EC Posted September 8, 2004 Author Share Posted September 8, 2004 LOL I know I'm just so worried. I actually don't know if he's the don't ask don't tell kind of person or if he would tell me right away. But it's true what I don't know won't hurt me right? I thought about going and suprising him but then I thought what if I do see something..then what? I'm not ready for that. I would be ok if he called regularly (u know without the girls in the background) But he can only call me after 9 (minutes) and I just feel left out. Like I can't be a aprt of his life and I feel hes going to get attatched to someone else. I don't even care if he cheats anymore. I can't be there as a woman for him and what I dont know wont hurt me but I dont want him to come to care for someone else. I think thats my biggest fear. Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted September 8, 2004 Share Posted September 8, 2004 Originally posted by EtErNaLlYCoNfUsEd I don't even care if he cheats anymore. I can't be there as a woman for him and what I dont know wont hurt me but I dont want him to come to care for someone else. I think thats my biggest fear. WHOOOOOOAAAAAAAAH there, missy. Slowly put down the crack bong, and step away. You're allowing your fear to turn into self-rejection. You're paying interest on crap that hasn't even happened yet. Don't be ridiculous. You love him, and I'm sure that he loves you, too. Have you told him about these fears? Link to post Share on other sites
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