Author EC Posted September 8, 2004 Author Share Posted September 8, 2004 crack pipe! How did you know? jk!!! Yes I have told him and he tells me he loves me and would never hurt me and that I have nothing to worry about. But I think he just tells me that to shut me up lol. I have only brought it up once though. But then again I think if he was up to something he wouldn't want me going up there right? and Yet, he keeps asking me when am I going up to see him because he misses me and can't wait to see me.Buts I dont have a car and by plane it's 215.00 whoa I ain't rich! I can't wait to go though. I miss him so much. I also want to take a look at those girls that live next door. Check out the territory and leave my mark. I'm taking the bunny klan with me. Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted September 8, 2004 Share Posted September 8, 2004 He's away at college. Hanging out with his buddies. Getting drunk with girls in bikinis and there are no lights on. Whether he does anything or not, the temptation HAS to be there. I think you're worrying for a reason, to be honest. I'm pretty sure I know how this will turn out. He's having the time of his life on his own and you're stuck at home miserable, worrying, wondering. Not too fair, is it? Link to post Share on other sites
lexnmike4enomore Posted September 8, 2004 Share Posted September 8, 2004 Originally posted by UCFKevin He's away at college. Hanging out with his buddies. Getting drunk with girls in bikinis and there are no lights on. Whether he does anything or not, the temptation HAS to be there. I think you're worrying for a reason, to be honest. I'm pretty sure I know how this will turn out. He's having the time of his life on his own and you're stuck at home miserable, worrying, wondering. Not too fair, is it? Very well said Kevin Link to post Share on other sites
Fayebelle Posted September 8, 2004 Share Posted September 8, 2004 Flip it- You know he could trust you w/4 half naked guys , partying in the dark... But would you ever do that? This is an abuse of trust to me. He knows he can pull the ole you don't trust me b/c LDR and make you feel bad and get away w/it. Manipulation is dirty- just like cheating. If you lived 2 doors down would you not walk right up that hall w/your bunny clan and clean house? So why do you feel you have to tolerate this behaviour b/c there is distance between you? Just my 2 cents... Link to post Share on other sites
Author EC Posted September 8, 2004 Author Share Posted September 8, 2004 I just talked to my friend that lives up there. I didn't even know she went to his school. I haven't talked to her for like 3 months. Turns out she's been trying to contact me but I changed my number, so she had to go on a mission to find me. She said she saw him at a party and he was behaving so good. (she knows him and what he looks like because of me....his friend is friends with her but he doesn't know she even knows who I am) So I finally have an inside look into his life up there. She filled me in on so many things. He is being so good. She said he has our pictures all over his room ( she goes there all the time because of her friendship with his friend) and all the girls know about me and that he's hands off. She says he doesn't stop talking about me and how he's planning out some secret suprise for when I go visit him. I begged her to tell what it was but she said it was so romantic and she didnt want to spoil it. He does go to clubs and dances with girls but thats ok I knew about that i go to clubs to but we just enjoy dancing. So anyways.....I'm soooo happy. She's my little spy and he has no idea. And I got a raise at my job today. My day just got sooooooooo much better!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author EC Posted September 8, 2004 Author Share Posted September 8, 2004 Flip it- You know he could trust you w/4 half naked guys , partying in the dark... But would you ever do that? This is an abuse of trust to me. He knows he can pull the ole you don't trust me b/c LDR and make you feel bad and get away w/it. Manipulation is dirty- just like cheating. If you lived 2 doors down would you not walk right up that hall w/your bunny clan and clean house? So why do you feel you have to tolerate this behaviour b/c there is distance between you? Just my 2 cents... I completely understand. But the thing is it's not just his place. He shares rent with four guys. They want the girls over and so he has no choice but to hang with them. Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted September 8, 2004 Share Posted September 8, 2004 EC, whatever you decide, I'm with ya....but if you have thoughts of dumping him, just don't do it until AFTER the hoochies leave! Link to post Share on other sites
Author EC Posted September 8, 2004 Author Share Posted September 8, 2004 I just talked to my friend that lives up there. I didn't even know she went to his school. I haven't talked to her for like 3 months. Turns out she's been trying to contact me but I changed my number, so she had to go on a mission to find me. She said she saw him at a party and he was behaving so good. (she knows him and what he looks like because of me....his friend is friends with her but he doesn't know she even knows who I am) So I finally have an inside look into his life up there. She filled me in on so many things. He is being so good. She said he has our pictures all over his room ( she goes there all the time because of her friendship with his friend) and all the girls know about me and that he's hands off. She says he doesn't stop talking about me and how he's planning out some secret suprise for when I go visit him. I begged her to tell what it was but she said it was so romantic and she didnt want to spoil it. He does go to clubs and dances with girls but thats ok I knew about that i go to clubs to but we just enjoy dancing. So anyways.....I'm soooo happy. She's my little spy and he has no idea. And I got a raise at my job today. My day just got sooooooooo much better!! No TIKI no dumping lol its all better now. My nerves are a little more calm. Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted September 9, 2004 Share Posted September 9, 2004 The fact that you need a spy really speaks volumes... Link to post Share on other sites
Author EC Posted September 9, 2004 Author Share Posted September 9, 2004 I do not "NEED" one. My friend just 'happens' to know them and they just don't 'happen' to know she knows me. I don't "Need" a spy but it does calm my nerves. I'm jealous and insecure and I accept that and I don't care. I want to know what's going on up there and so I ask her. But everything is good and I'm happy. The fact that I am happy really speaks volumes..... Think what you want of me...but I care for him a lot and I haven't felt like this and so I don't know how to handle it. I have so many emotions that I have never had to deal with and it's overwhelming. It's not like I'm sitting in a cocoon, thinking about him constantly, and not having a life...I still have my life and I still do my thing...I just worry about him and what he's doing sometimes. It's healthy to worry. It's not my fault that my relationship is now an LDR. I didn't want it this way...I didn't chose for it to be this way...but for some reason it is... I'm trying to cope as best as I can. Right now he's calling and visiting and e-mailing and everything is OK. The only worries I have are my own made up suspicions and jealousy problems and in securities..it's nothing that he has actually done. So for now I'm just posting to vent and try to deal with my jealousy problems. But anyways....yeah I don't "need" a spy for my relationship..but she helps me cope a little easier. Link to post Share on other sites
Fayebelle Posted September 9, 2004 Share Posted September 9, 2004 You don't have to defend yourself to us- we are just trying to help you see things you may have missed yourself. Love is blind- That's what friends are for- all those cliches.... We're just trying to look out for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author EC Posted September 9, 2004 Author Share Posted September 9, 2004 I know thats why I come here.... I know I'm a younging and you guys still listen to my ridiculous questions and help me understand me. And I love you guys!!!! I know love is blind and I may be a [size=0]little blind but I'm not deaf. I definitely take into consideration every last word of advice that you guys throw my way. so yeah ...(breathe in......breathe out....) I'm breathing I'm breathing!! lol Link to post Share on other sites
MJTig Posted September 16, 2004 Share Posted September 16, 2004 Originally posted by EtErNaLlYCoNfUsEd I do not "NEED" one. My friend just 'happens' to know them and they just don't 'happen' to know she knows me. I don't "Need" a spy but it does calm my nerves. I understand wanting to have someone to calm your nerves... i have some friends that are s/o of Bart's friends and they tell me, without me asking, that he tlkas about me, etc etc. But seriously.. I would care about your jealousy and insecurity and work on it, because I had been there and all it does is drive them up the wall. I got over it, you can too. Link to post Share on other sites
Wellnowuknow Posted September 16, 2004 Share Posted September 16, 2004 OMG give me a break he's probably drunk right now giving some girl oral not even thinking about you. 20 on his own with three single guy friends.,... What do you think he does all weekend while they go out and bring girls home... Sit in the room staring at your pictures crying wishing you were there? yeah ok! wake up! Link to post Share on other sites
MJTig Posted September 16, 2004 Share Posted September 16, 2004 Originally posted by Wellnowuknow OMG give me a break he's probably drunk right now giving some girl oral not even thinking about you. 20 on his own with three single guy friends.,... What do you think he does all weekend while they go out and bring girls home... Sit in the room staring at your pictures crying wishing you were there? yeah ok! wake up! maybe thats what asshats like you do... or the asshats you date do... but not always. And not crying for her either- having fun while respecting the relatiomship.. it is possible, you know. Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted September 16, 2004 Share Posted September 16, 2004 Originally posted by Wellnowuknow OMG give me a break he's probably drunk right now giving some girl oral not even thinking about you. 20 on his own with three single guy friends.,... What do you think he does all weekend while they go out and bring girls home... Sit in the room staring at your pictures crying wishing you were there? yeah ok! wake up! .....assclown. Hehehe. Go get her EC! Link to post Share on other sites
Author EC Posted September 16, 2004 Author Share Posted September 16, 2004 Wellnowuknow...i'm so sorry the door hit ya where the good lord split ya...but dont take it out on the rest of us k hun? HUGZ!!! Link to post Share on other sites
YellowLioness Posted September 16, 2004 Share Posted September 16, 2004 Ah, I love you guys. Asshat. LOL. Assclown. OMG!!!!!!! Anyway, EC, you know you're my girl. Don't let people fill your head with stuipd shizznit, but don't let him mess around with you. Regardless of what he says, watch his actions. When those two start to digress from eachother, then you need to watch. For example, if he says, "I love you EC," and lies to you about where he went last night, you have a playa on your hands. YOu're too cool and too pretty to get screwed over. I swear, I'm going to send in the rabbit mafia, and they're going to cap his ass with a sharpened carrot. See? They're hopping mad, and there are thousands of them. Well, not on my post, but in the world... Anyway, I digress miserably. Digress is a really cool word... Ever wonder what a "gress" is? .... Whoops! lol. If it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck, then its a duck. Just watch out for any fishy behavior on his part. Lots of animal metaphores. sorry guys. Maybe I should lay off these totally great lemon animal crackers. Link to post Share on other sites
romance Posted October 17, 2004 Share Posted October 17, 2004 oh lord your making me all sweaty! Link to post Share on other sites
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