Is his attention elsewhere?

[barista]

I'm 27 and he is 48 ans we have been dating for almost 4 years. I even moved across 3 states with him. I can not get over his use of the internet. I catch him chatting, looking at porn sites, even posting profiles on sites to meet people. He says it all in fun and he just is letting off steam but I feel that he enjoys that over me. I think this because we hardly have sex. It has been over 2 months!! He does have lots of stress with work and finances. He was laid off from a good paying job and now we barely make ends meet. He has a history of porn being a major part of his life. Videos, magazines, webcams, etc. I even found out that he recorded us having sex! He has done this to other women as well.

 

Yet I still am with him. We get along great except for this. I am majorly torn. It is my fault that I'm here. It just hurts that knowing how I feel he still does this. I know that I can not change him but is there a way to meet half way? I have tried to "play" with him at times but it never lasts. Is there any hope.

B

[Papillon]

Ask yourself this question: If you could turn the clock back, would you still have started dating him? If the answer is "no", then you have to turn the clock back manually.

[barista]

That is what Im not sure of. If there is hope of us overcoming this hurdle then no. If there is no chance that this issue won't bother me then yes I would turn back the hands of time. I want understand why he does this. I am cute plus almost half his age! I have never had problems getting dates!

B

[Papillon]

Well, I personally think the 21 year gap is telling....

[barista]

telling what