Woggle Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 I heard from some people that my ex still plans on going along with this whole retroactive alimony thing once she gets out of prison plus plans on suing me for emotional distress. We were only married for a little over a year and most of it was filled with physical abuse on her end non stop arguing and infidelity so I figure if any marriage qualifies for an annulment it is this. Can I just get the whole thing wiped off the record so I can move on for good? Link to post Share on other sites
Jethro Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 I'm no expert, but I think you'll find that annulments are mostly a church thing these days. If you closely involved with your Catholic church, ask your priest the details. Other than that, you do realize that she will have to spend a lot of money on lawyers to get retroactive alimony and suing you? Doesn't sound like the kind of thing an ex-con actually does, more of a thing they threaten. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 To add to what Jethro said, I know that annulments are much more difficult and expensive to obtain that a simple divorce. There is a lot more to prove and the legal parameters are significantly more complicated. I had a good friend who was only married a month or two when his bride ended up in a psych ward. My friend found out that the bride's family knew of her mental issues and kept the secret from him (as well as a child from a previous relationship he had no knowledge of!) to try and get him to take care of her. He investigated an annulment based on the deceit and brevity of the marriage and his lawyer suggested that the annulment would be much harder to accomplished and a lot more expensive. Easier to just divorce... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted March 11, 2013 Author Share Posted March 11, 2013 I would be happy with just the divorce if I could wash my hands clear of her. I don't want to owe her a thing. Will she one day be able to get any retirement or social security when I get older? Doesn't the fact that she once went to prison for trying to shoot me at least somewhat count in my favor? Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 Will she one day be able to get any retirement or social security when I get older? I think that would entirely depend upon the divorce agreement... Doesn't the fact that she once went to prison for trying to shoot me at least somewhat count in my favor? Depends on the judge assigned to your case. Link to post Share on other sites
Radu Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 I would be happy with just the divorce if I could wash my hands clear of her. I don't want to owe her a thing. Will she one day be able to get any retirement or social security when I get older? Doesn't the fact that she once went to prison for trying to shoot me at least somewhat count in my favor? I don't think that's the case for a marriage that lasted just 1yr. Afaik, alimony's purpose is when one of the spouses gives up a career in order to care for the home/family. It's there to protect the person in question against being left out in the cold. From my reading on the internet and such, she would have to have been at least 5yrs or more in the partnership to qualify. I'm not a lawyer [yet] and even when i'll be, i won't be one who is competent in US law, so don't base too much on what i'm writing, talk to a lawyer. If i remember correctly, she tried to kill you with a gun and then made threats to your wife and you. I seriously doubt she has a good chance when it comes to this. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 Even if she DID somehow manage to get alimony, you were only married a year....isn't how long you pay based on how long you were married? What grounds do you think she has to file for alimony? Is there not a statue of limitations on doing such a thing? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 I heard from some people that my ex still plans on going along with this whole retroactive alimony thing once she gets out of prison plus plans on suing me for emotional distress. We were only married for a little over a year and most of it was filled with physical abuse on her end non stop arguing and infidelity so I figure if any marriage qualifies for an annulment it is this. Can I just get the whole thing wiped off the record so I can move on for good? First off, you need to tell those people to STOP telling you about what your ex is doing. You are married to someone else. Your ex wife, you legally divorced, right? Otherwise you would not legally be married to your current wife. Your ex cannot try to get money or sue you. It's been many years since all this happened and she needs to let go. if she bothers you, get a lawyer and involve the cops. she has a record obviously and due to her reasons for being in jail, there's no way she will get anything from you. No judge would allow that seeing as she's a nut job! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 I would be happy with just the divorce if I could wash my hands clear of her. I don't want to owe her a thing. Will she one day be able to get any retirement or social security when I get older? Doesn't the fact that she once went to prison for trying to shoot me at least somewhat count in my favor? No. You are legally divorced from her and are legally married to someone else. NO WAY will any judge side with her. She tried to shoot/kill you. Woggle, stop listening to those people who talk about your ex. If they think she is going to get something from you, they are full of crap. Focus on your lovely wife that you are married to now. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
serial muse Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 Woggle, sorry I can't remember if you've told us before, but have you consulted with a lawyer on this? It really does sound like she's just blowing empty air and hoping to psych you out from jail (and why your so-called friends are buying into it and relaying this to you is beyond me). But it might ease your mind to get some real info on whether she's got any kind of a chance. Between the prison time for aiming a gun at you and the short length of the marriage, though, it seems like she shouldn't. But I'm not a lawyer. I had a good friend who was only married a month or two when his bride ended up in a psych ward. My friend found out that the bride's family knew of her mental issues and kept the secret from him (as well as a child from a previous relationship he had no knowledge of!) to try and get him to take care of her. Is his name Mr. Rochester? Sorry, couldn't resist. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted March 13, 2013 Author Share Posted March 13, 2013 I called my lawyer and he really doesn't think she has a snowball's chance in hell. From what I hear she is causing quite some problems in prison so she has a record of being unstable. It is her own fault she is unemployable at this point so she shouldn't get a dime especially since the judge who handled my divorce back in the day still sits on the bench and she was more than fair. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
wisernow Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 Even if she DID somehow manage to get alimony, you were only married a year....isn't how long you pay based on how long you were married? What grounds do you think she has to file for alimony? Is there not a statue of limitations on doing such a thing? This is true for most states. Where I am from the alimony rule is: 1 year of alimony for every two years of marriage. Odds are in your favor that she will not be eligible for any alimony based on the short span of your marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted March 13, 2013 Author Share Posted March 13, 2013 She actually wants to sue me for brainwashing her into becoming a criminal because she thinks I played some mind control tricks on her. This has officially moved into loony tune territory. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
wisernow Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 She actually wants to sue me for brainwashing her into becoming a criminal because she thinks I played some mind control tricks on her. This has officially moved into loony tune territory. Well, I'd say good luck with that. I found this quote from a legal website asking a general question about alimony after the divorce is final: Unless Spousal Support was made a part of your Marital Settlement Agreement, or unless it was a part of the Decree, then the court is without jurisdiction to add or subtract any requirements, like Spousal Support, to your obligations Your divorce is final, right? I thought I saw where you had since re-married. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted March 13, 2013 Author Share Posted March 13, 2013 It is final and she signed an agreement that she now claims I forced her to sign. Link to post Share on other sites
wisernow Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 It is final and she signed an agreement that she now claims I forced her to sign. She's on a fishing expedition. I wouldn't waste another second on this. She's sounds like a complete whack-a-do. You must be so relieved! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
serial muse Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 She actually wants to sue me for brainwashing her into becoming a criminal because she thinks I played some mind control tricks on her. This has officially moved into loony tune territory. What a sad excuse for a human being she is! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted March 14, 2013 Author Share Posted March 14, 2013 I wonder if she is serious about this if I should just let her drag me to court so she can hang herself. It happened during the divorce. She doesn't do a very good job of hiding the crazy and I seriously don't think any judge would take her seriously after she starts talking about mind control and how I subliminally turned her into a criminal. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted March 14, 2013 Share Posted March 14, 2013 Let her hang herself, if it even gets that far. Then, after all is said and done, send her a note in the mail, anonymously with crazy words printed backwards. Make her wonder (and know) where it came from. Or, you know, be the bigger man and realize she's got more issues in front of her than the UN. Whichever way you want to go with that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted March 14, 2013 Author Share Posted March 14, 2013 Let her hang herself, if it even gets that far. Then, after all is said and done, send her a note in the mail, anonymously with crazy words printed backwards. Make her wonder (and know) where it came from. Or, you know, be the bigger man and realize she's got more issues in front of her than the UN. Whichever way you want to go with that. It's not about revenge to me. I just want her to crash and burn so she leaves me alone. Link to post Share on other sites
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