EAP Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 I don't think I have to go into details about what they do for several hours at a time, but it's very loud and it's mainly during late afternoon/night hours when I'm trying to study. I like to study in silence and this is beginning to become an issue.. Not only do I find the... sounds of their activities distracting it also makes me a little uneasy feeling due to the fact that I barely know the girl. (She lives in a separate room, we share a bathroom; dorm situation) I'm not quite sure if she knows I can hear everything. Anyway.. how do I go about politely asking her to take it to his house or something? I don't want to seem like a bitch, but it's getting old. Thanks- EAP Link to post Share on other sites
SmileFace Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 Does she not pay rent to **** in her own housing? It isn't like you share a room. Link to post Share on other sites
Author EAP Posted March 11, 2013 Author Share Posted March 11, 2013 Does she not pay rent to **** in her own housing? It isn't like you share a room. When it's constant it becomes a common courtesy issue. Please try to mind both sides of this conflict. Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 Maybe get some ear plugs to wear during study time? Also, how do you not know your suite mate? Maybe you could get to know her so conversations like this aren't so awkward. Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 Does she not pay rent to **** in her own housing? It isn't like you share a room. .....I take it you've never had a roommate? Or were a bad one, lol. Because there is "common courtesy" that helps roommates co-exist peacefully and one example would be not fking your bf noisily every day for hours while your roommate is studying. OP I would just tell her straight up you can hear everything she is doing. Hopefully she just doesn't realize it and will be embarrassed and take it down a notch. Also, headphones is your next option if she is rude and doesn't care. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 When she's out one day, type an anonymous note and slip it under her door. Ask her to 'be discreet, as she can be heard in the next building and some folks is getting irate, others jealous. In any case, could they keep the noise down while they're banging each other stupid? Thanks.' She may ask you if you posted it.... Deny, deny, deny. Ask what the note was about, if she doesn't tell you.... Then sheepishly agree that yeah, actually, now she mentions it, they can be embarrassingly loud.... Link to post Share on other sites
SmileFace Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 .....I take it you've never had a roommate? Or were a bad one, lol. Because there is "common courtesy" that helps roommates co-exist peacefully and one example would be not fking your bf noisily every day for hours while your roommate is studying. OP I would just tell her straight up you can hear everything she is doing. Hopefully she just doesn't realize it and will be embarrassed and take it down a notch. Also, headphones is your next option if she is rude and doesn't care. Yes. I have had direct roommates and even had roommates where we shared a room. I think she could ask them to be quiet or respect her in regards to noise( keep it down). However she can't really ask her to take it elsewhere. Her friend is disrespectful as I see it but that isn't the matter at hand. Link to post Share on other sites
Oxykitten Posted March 12, 2013 Share Posted March 12, 2013 If she is spending that much time having sex she'll eventually flunk out. You can be patient and wait for her to drop out, ask for a room reassignment, look for alternative living arrangements off campus, wait until next semester if they assign different suites at the beginning of each, or usually there are places on campus open 24 hours for quiet study. Link to post Share on other sites
PogoStick Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 Some of the joys of college life! In my day we shared a dorm with bunk beds and that never stopped anything...Consider yourself lucky! One important lesson in college is how to communicate and navigate mature relationships, so talk to her about it! Don't just expect it to change, and don't do some passive-aggressive BS. Compromise and set times where those things are a no-no, and other times where you can ignore it or study at the library/study hall. Link to post Share on other sites
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