My ex-MM won't leave me alone!!!!

[rellli]

I left a relationship with a married man a few months ago, but I didn't know that he was married until after the fact. After I found out, he denied it of course, but every question that I had in the relationship fell into place. It just all made sense why he was so secretive. During the relationship I thought he was cheating on me, while the whole time I was the OW. I completely stopped contact with him, because I was still speaking to him a couple of months after we broke up. Then I found out that he gave me an STD, and he denies that he even had it, which is complete bs. I continue on not speaking to him, because he is a complete liar, but he still sends me Instant messages over the internet every so often and I get private numbers on my cell phone with no one speaking, but they hang up on the other line. Granted I still love him, as foolish as it may seem, but I refuse to contact him because I WILL move on from this, I've even told him that he was dead in my eyes, but he just won't leave me alone, even though he makes it seem like he doesn't care at all. I just want to know, what the world is going through his mind, and how can I keep him from contacting me and keep going on with my life?

[Nocturnalkitee]

Why don't you change your telephone number and use a different screen name. If you give your friends and family the information before you do this, they can still stay in contact with you. Why do you still want to be in a relationship with someone who gave you a STD!!!!

[Touch_of_Naughtiness]

If he gave you an std then you should know you and his wife are not the only ones he is having sex with. Tell him that you are not interested any longer and to worry about his wife and about her having the std that he gave you!

[Mollie]

Originally posted by rellli

I left a relationship with a married man a few months ago, but I didn't know that he was married until after the fact. After I found out, he denied it of course, but every question that I had in the relationship fell into place. It just all made sense why he was so secretive. During the relationship I thought he was cheating on me, while the whole time I was the OW. I completely stopped contact with him, because I was still speaking to him a couple of months after we broke up. Then I found out that he gave me an STD, and he denies that he even had it, which is complete bs. I continue on not speaking to him, because he is a complete liar, but he still sends me Instant messages over the internet every so often and I get private numbers on my cell phone with no one speaking, but they hang up on the other line. Granted I still love him, as foolish as it may seem, but I refuse to contact him because I WILL move on from this, I've even told him that he was dead in my eyes, but he just won't leave me alone, even though he makes it seem like he doesn't care at all. I just want to know, what the world is going through his mind, and how can I keep him from contacting me and keep going on with my life?

 

You are stronger than you give yourself credit for!

I would log all the numbers that keep calling you, block his instant messenger nickname (altho I know he can just find a new name) and write down all the times he IMs you and under what name. Then, you can always take it to the police to have them watch it- sometimes they will warn the person to stop without pressing charges (been through this with a weird neighbor who made obscene calls to an apat i lives in with others). That may give him the hint that you are dead serious.

 

He sounds liek a guy that is accustomed to lying and getting his way, so he won't go away until he gets told by a third party to lay off (and better if its an authority)... do you feel threatened by him at all? If so, tell the police about that too... you might get some protection.

 

Just some ideas. *hug*