ThaWholigan Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 Hah! Shows how much you know. Dude, if I somehow managed to go on three first dates this year, that would be fu*king awesome! LOL! And why the hell should I care if I'm wasting her time? This post was.......*ahem*...telling. Especially the bold. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
DannyMason Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 I'm proud of what I've done with my life, both the good and the bad, and I wouldn't make the bad go away for anything in the world. If I hadn't experienced it and learned from it, I wouldn't be the person I am today. Really? My own feeling having spent ~1/3 of my life suicidal is that if I hadn't gone through it, I'd have become basically the person I am today about ten years ago. Link to post Share on other sites
Lonely Ronin Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 This post was.......*ahem*...telling. Especially the bold. Yea, it says is all I care about is getting what I want. Guess what SD, women don't like that mentality..... Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 Wow. So you tell girls that you are 10 years younger than you really are. That right there is creepy. They most likely know that you are lying (dude a decade is a lot). Most people just don't look a decade younger and chances are you don't either. You also have to be aware that when a girl finds out that you lied, she is gonna run so fast, you won't know what hit you... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted March 15, 2013 Author Share Posted March 15, 2013 OMG! somedude81 is putting himself first?! Shock and whores! Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 My depression isn't "a little depression at some point in my life." Sure I can share some stuff about it but full disclosure is unwise. True, you don't need to be an open book at first. But lying is something else altogether. Lying is unsettling, for many reasons. The trick is learning how to present the real you in your best light. Link to post Share on other sites
sweetjasmine Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 OMG! somedude81 is putting himself first?! Shock and whores! There's a difference between putting yourself first and not having other human beings' feelings on your radar at all. If you were more charming, you'd be a manipulative user. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Lonely Ronin Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 OMG! somedude81 is putting himself first?! Shock and whores! putting yourself first is not the same thing as using someone. What your advocating is dating a woman to boost your confidence, even though you know she will reject you when the truth comes out, hence your using her. Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 OMG! somedude81 is putting himself first?! Shock and whores! There's putting yourself first, and then there's putting yourself first at the expense of others. I'm not gonna go on a date with a girl if I know that I am fundamentally incompatible with her - I'm not that desperate to waste her time knowing it will be useless. I guess you think it's getting in the practice, but in all honesty if that's what you want, you might as well date one of those girls you don't like. That's the same level of futility. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted March 15, 2013 Author Share Posted March 15, 2013 I can't believe it. You guys are trying to tell me that it would be a bad thing for me to go on a date with a cute girl because there is a chance that I'd be wasting her time. Oh my God. Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 This thread is about 15 pages too long. All the advice he needs can be found within the first 3 pages. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
KathyM Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 Don't lie about your age to people. Is your goal really to just get one date based on a lie? I would hope not. The world is not screwing you over. You waited until the last minute to ask this woman out, and then lost the opportunity alltogether. Your fear of rejection is what is holding you back. Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 I can't believe it. You guys are trying to tell me that it would be a bad thing for me to go on a date with a cute girl because there is a chance that I'd be wasting her time. Oh my God. :lmao: You are so dense it's shouldn't even be funny - I'm beginning to think there's no hope for you . Going on a date with a cute girl is one thing. Going on a date with a girl based upon a lie just to get a date with her is another. We are not encouraging you to do that. Your desperation it seems will compel you to do stupid sh*t. How you think she's gonna react when she finds out you lied? Think about it. Instead of using a woman to cure your depression, learn how to cure it yourself. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted March 15, 2013 Author Share Posted March 15, 2013 :lmao: You are so dense it's shouldn't even be funny - I'm beginning to think there's no hope for you . Going on a date with a cute girl is one thing. Going on a date with a girl based upon a lie just to get a date with her is another. We are not encouraging you to do that. Your desperation it seems will compel you to do stupid sh*t. How you think she's gonna react when she finds out you lied? Think about it. Instead of using a woman to cure your depression, learn how to cure it yourself. I'm not going to lie about my age to a girl I'm interested in. If she never asks how old I am, am I obligated to tell her? If so, after how much time? Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 I'm not going to lie about my age to a girl I'm interested in. If she never asks how old I am, am I obligated to tell her? If so, after how much time? That's all well then. If she asks then tell her, don't tell her you're 23 FFS . Link to post Share on other sites
normal person Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 LOL! And why the hell should I care if I'm wasting her time? Because it's kind of a ****** thing to do someone on top of deceiving them. It's a set up for an inevitable let down. Speaking of wasting peoples' time, this sort of sentiment pretty much confirms that you've wasted the time of quite a few people here who were trying to give you honest advice, simply because it's a nice thing to do. I'm all for helping you, but not if it's at the expense of someone else. So good luck with all this. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted March 15, 2013 Author Share Posted March 15, 2013 Even if I did lie about my age, I don't see the big deal at all. For me, getting a date would be a huge accomplishment. Everybody here should realize this. Yes I know that it's bad trying to start a relationship with lies, but I'm not even talking about a relationship at this point. What I need is experience. I need to be going on lots of dates with various girls. If I have to lie about my age to get a date so be it. Also there is a difference between lying about my age and then lying about my occupation. Last time I checked a girl isn't most likely to sleep with a guy because he's a certain age. While a girl may be more likely to if I told her I was a Wall Street trader making 90k a year. Link to post Share on other sites
Anela Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 I have a friend who was really upset when she found out that her boyfriend had lied to her about his age. It really bothered her. my mother was involved with someone who finally admitted his real age, as well, and that bothered her. That he'd lied about it in the first place. It isn't an attractive thing to do. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 Even if I did lie about my age, I don't see the big deal at all. For me, getting a date would be a huge accomplishment. Everybody here should realize this. Yes I know that it's bad trying to start a relationship with lies, but I'm not even talking about a relationship at this point. What I need is experience. I need to be going on lots of dates with various girls. If I have to lie about my age to get a date so be it. Also there is a difference between lying about my age and then lying about my occupation. Last time I checked a girl isn't most likely to sleep with a guy because he's a certain age. While a girl may be more likely to if I told her I was a Wall Street trader making 90k a year. The point is, if you sorted yourself out mentally, you wouldn't have to lie about jack. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted March 15, 2013 Author Share Posted March 15, 2013 The point is, if you sorted yourself out mentally, you wouldn't have to lie about jack. So you are saying that there are no women out there that would consider a mans age to be a deal breaker? Link to post Share on other sites
Lonely Ronin Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 Even if I did lie about my age, I don't see the big deal at all. Because you're presenting a false identity to her, it's a d-bag move. For me, getting a date would be a huge accomplishment. Everybody here should realize this. Every one here knows it, but we all also know lying isn't the right way to go about it. Yes I know that it's bad trying to start a relationship with lies, but I'm not even talking about a relationship at this point. What I need is experience. I need to be going on lots of dates with various girls. If I have to lie about my age to get a date so be it. Relationships start with dating. Let's say you get a date with a woman and it leads to more dates. How are you going to handle it, when your budding relationship ends because she dumped you for lying to her? Also there is a difference between lying about my age and then lying about my occupation. lying is never a good thing period. lying to get dates smacks of desperation. Lie to a woman and watch how fast it spreads among her friends, and you end up not being able to date any of them. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 So you are saying that there are no women out there that would consider a mans age to be a deal breaker? No, I'm saying it doesn't matter if they have a dealbreaker - you shouldn't be worried about that. If she doesn't want to date a man your age, so what? Date someone else who will instead of lying about it just to get a date. I understand why you would do it honestly, but it's still dumb and smacks of the very desperation you need to get rid of. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 So you are saying that there are no women out there that would consider a mans age to be a deal breaker? Of course there are. Are you trying to trick women into dating you? Link to post Share on other sites
Lonely Ronin Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 I understand why you would do it honestly, but it's still dumb and smacks of the very desperation you need to get rid of. Exactly, It reads as "I will do anything to get a date with anyone I find even remotely attractive or interesting." 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted March 15, 2013 Author Share Posted March 15, 2013 Hey guys, guess what. Back when I was in my early 20's I had problems dating women my age and I didn't lie to anyone about anything. For all I am concerned, my age is irrelevant. Whether or not I have to lie about my age to get a date is meaningless to me. This discussion about my age is a waste of everyone's time. Link to post Share on other sites
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