Author MrCastle Posted March 13, 2013 Author Posted March 13, 2013 Although from my experience there is a downfall for being "too cool". Ive had friends tell me I seemed aloof when they first met me. There was even this girl that said she was afraid to talk to me because she felt "she wasnt good enough for me". Big surprise on that one when I bumped into her when I flew back home for a vacation. So glad you brought this up. I was going to ask about this in my OP or make a separate thread about it. Do women get intimidated by "cool" men? I notice I can go after girls that are considered very physically attractive and whatnot but ironically, do poor with girls that I could see myself settling down with. The cute, quiet ones. The girl next door types. I can't attract one to save my life. The hot as hell model girl who goes wacko and keys your car, I can get her just fine. I don't understand this.
Eggplant Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 Woah woah woah. I take offense to your number 2. I'm as smooth-talking as they come IRL, but I'm no a** kisser. In fact, I often deliberately break the rules just to make a point. Then I charm my way back into people's good graces. Mwahahahaha! See The Godfather. I think the negative association is there because people will resort to doing very uncool ***-kissing all in order to maintain a "cool" facade. So the people often immediately identified as cool are sometimes very loserly in fact. Not you HBDC, you are the cool kind of cool 1
Eggplant Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 Oh, yeah, and to tie it in with the dating thread, people often care more about the appearance of being cool than actually being cool because lots of women whom they want to attract are either fooled by the appearance or appreciative of the a**-kissing kind of cool.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 Santa Barbara is nice. I'm in Mesa, moving back to Scottsdale in the next month. Avoid Mesa and Phoenix, it is insanity, straight insanity. Scottsdale is pretty nice, full of liberal high-class women, lots of wealth, some douchery, and a good lot of a nightlife. Stick to Chandler, Scottsdale, or Tempe (Next to ASU, huge hot spot there) if you come. Yeah I stayed in an area called Old Town (?)....well, something like that. I definitely liked the vibe there.
iKING Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 Oh, yeah, and to tie it in with the dating thread, people often care more about the appearance of being cool than actually being cool because lots of women whom they want to attract are either fooled by the appearance or appreciative of the a**-kissing kind of cool. ass-kissing is disqualified for cool. You live by your own rules. 2
Eggplant Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 So glad you brought this up. I was going to ask about this in my OP or make a separate thread about it. Do women get intimidated by "cool" men? I notice I can go after girls that are considered very physically attractive and whatnot but ironically, do poor with girls that I could see myself settling down with. The cute, quiet ones. The girl next door types. I can't attract one to save my life. The hot as hell model girl who goes wacko and keys your car, I can get her just fine. I don't understand this. If you're attracting gaggles of supermodels, non-supermodel women see you as too risky for a relationship. They think you won't be loyal or stay long. If you're as fabulous as all that and you actually want a relationship, overcompensate and be extremely nice.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 "Butters, you gotta learn to chill. Life goes by pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while - and do whatever you want all the time - you might miss it." - Eric Cartman 2
iKING Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 Yeah I stayed in an area called Old Town (?)....well, something like that. I definitely liked the vibe there. Yep, Old Town is where It's at, waterfront/strip lofts are going for 1.5M or so though. When you get further down town there's always a ton of events going on at the venues, so that's where the hot spot there is. Otherwise It's in Tempe by ASU, around Mill Ave., that place is nuts. 1
Author MrCastle Posted March 13, 2013 Author Posted March 13, 2013 If you're attracting gaggles of supermodels, non-supermodel women see you as too risky for a relationship. They think you won't be loyal or stay long. If you're as fabulous as all that and you actually want a relationship, overcompensate and be extremely nice. I fear being too nice will put me in the friend zone. The physically attractive women that some men are scared to approach, those are the ones I end up getting most of the time. They usually have more emotional baggage than any other type of woman. The unassuming, good girl in public but probably a naughty babe behind closed doors reserved type that you want to introduce to friends and family, treat me like I'm invisible. 1
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 I fear being too nice will put me in the friend zone. The physically attractive women that some men are scared to approach, those are the ones I end up getting most of the time. They usually have more emotional baggage than any other type of woman. The unassuming, good girl in public but probably a naughty babe behind closed doors reserved type that you want to introduce to friends and family, treat me like I'm invisible. Approach those girls instead then.
iKING Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 The unassuming, good girl in public but probably a naughty babe behind closed doors reserved type that you want to introduce to friends and family, treat me like I'm invisible. They see right through the charade. That's where being a genuine, kind person comes into play. You can exhibit qualities of both sides successfully. 1
Author MrCastle Posted March 13, 2013 Author Posted March 13, 2013 Approach those girls instead then. I do but they give me no signs of interest usually. That's part of why I probably haven't settled down yet. The kinds I could see myself settling down with don't give me anything to work with.
Author MrCastle Posted March 13, 2013 Author Posted March 13, 2013 They see right through the charade. That's where being a genuine, kind person comes into play. You can exhibit qualities of both sides successfully. It's not a charade .....
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 I do but they give me no signs of interest usually. That's part of why I probably haven't settled down yet. The kinds I could see myself settling down with don't give me anything to work with. Women are women, man. Most are attracted to the same things. It's probably all in your head.
iKING Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 It's not a charade ..... It'll work out to a balance eventually Castle, don't worry.
Eggplant Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 I fear being too nice will put me in the friend zone. Have you tried it? There's probably some ideal sugar/spice formula LOL Just gotta experiment with the ingredients lol 2
iKING Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 There's probably some ideal sugar/spice formula Bingo, Yahtzee, Babaganoosh. Eggplant gets it.
Author MrCastle Posted March 13, 2013 Author Posted March 13, 2013 Have you tried it? There's probably some ideal sugar/spice formula LOL Just gotta experiment with the ingredients lol You mean like, call her a bitch, and then compliment her on her dress? 1
iKING Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 You mean like, call her a bitch, and then compliment her on her dress? So close! Wait.. 1
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 You mean like, call her a bitch, and then compliment her on her dress? Nah bro. That's a neg. Those don't work IRL. 1
Eggplant Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 You mean like, call her a bitch, and then compliment her on her dress? :lmao::lmao::lmao: I don't know if that's the best way... :lmao::lmao: 1
Author MrCastle Posted March 13, 2013 Author Posted March 13, 2013 Nah bro. That's a neg. Those don't work IRL. I don't understand teh wimminz 1
iKING Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 I don't understand teh wimminz Understand that you don't understand them. Then you'll understand them. 1
dasein Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 Back in the day, I had several women tell me I was the coolest person they ever met, and they meant it as a compliment. How many of those women did I bed? 0. They chose to sleep with men who were the furthest thing from cool, guys full of crap, ignorant, incompetent in life generally, often the butt of jokes among the "cool" crowd. What did those guys have that the cool crowd and I didn't? Self-possessed seduction skills. I would watch them reach out and grab a girl's tit, and everyone would laugh as she threw a drink on him or kicked him in the nuts. Then they'd be f-cking in the back of a car two nights later, maybe the same night. I learned alot from those guys. Not advocating grabbing women's tits or asses as an opener, just knowing how to take the smallest spark of interest and magnify it, press opportunities even to discomfort, be ready to react instantly to interest and move in, even in public, understanding that female attraction is not a linear process in the way male is, it can be "time compressed," and can rise and ebb in the span of ten minutes. That timing and instinct to action beats cool, and pretty much everything else, hands down. Hypnotism helps too. Always carry a hypnodisk. But that's not the thread topic. 1
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